To make a relationship last , You have to be willing to give up on people that make your partner feel uncomfortable Agree or disagree?

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I just saw this Meme the other day , and I agree with this statement. Sadly
Most people take this the wrong way and assume it’s control , when it has nothing to do with control , it comes down to respect for your relationship with each other. You chose to be in a committed relationship with this person , for that relationship to last the long haul and for love to continue to grow for each other , you have to make your partner your top priority over everyone else in this world , whether you agree with your partner or not , your partner should be your top priority , not a convenience. The same way you want your partner treating you? , has to be the same way you treat them. If you cannot do that for your partner , then you shouldn’t be in a relationship with them period.

TommyMountainFigure · Accepted Answer

Putting you partner as a 'top priority' works both ways. Yes they should be put first, but by the same token, telling you who you can and cannot be friends is control. Do you not see it?

If I was told by my wife I couldn't see friends or family I'd tell her to sling her hook and she knows it. Otherwise where do those demands end? Do I then make demands on her? How is that not a recipe for disaster in relationship terms?

I suppose then what it boils down to is what boundaries are set at the beginning. For me, there is give and take to every successful relationship. She doesn't need for me to like her friends and vice versa. Luckily, we do. but that's isn't the point!

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

You should expect to, at the very least, distance yourself from anyone single of the opposite sex, because that's just not appropriate. You can see those people when your SO is present, but not without them.

If you have a person (or persons) in your life who are a wreck - addicts (including things like gambling addicts), criminals, or just drama-filled people - then you probably need to cut them loose as well, because your SO isn't going to appreciate you bringing those people around.

Other than that, it really shouldn't be an issue. If your SO is trying to completely isolate you outside of the above guidelines, then that's generally a red flag.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Disagree, but with one or two exceptions. I did that when I was married and regretted it the rest of my life. I should have known it was a red flag when I was gradually separated from all my friends so I’d only confide in one person. A healthy person is able to maintain their relationship and their friendships. Exceptions would be (1) The “honeymoon phase” of a relationship where all you can think about is that other person. (2) A friend who is jealous and doesn’t have your best interest at heart. But after that? Why should you?

Dinklex3 · Accepted Answer

? No. lol.

That is 100% controlling and unreasonable to expect your partner to cut everyone out of their life you find “uncomfortable”.
In relationships sometimes you’re going to be uncomfortable and that’s okay.

Respect that your partner has a say in who they want to keep in their life. If it’s someone they’ve had a previous relationship with, sure understandable. Otherwise using the guise that your “uncomfortable” and that you’re the only person that should matter in their life is manipulative and concerning. Gross.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Oh, absolutely, darling! You've hit the nail right on its flirty head with this one. Relationships truly are dances of compromise, devotion, and yes, the big R - respect. Imagine love as your favorite slow jam, and both of you are swaying in harmony. When someone makes your partner feel like a third wheel on what should be your exclusive dance floor, it's a sign to rethink who deserves a backstage pass to your love show. It's not about control; it's about setting the stage for a love story that rivals the classics. Prioritizing your partner isn't about losing yourself or your freedom; it's about choosing every day to create a duet rather than a solo performance. Remember, it's about making beautiful music together, and sometimes that means tuning out the noise that doesn't serve your relationship's greatest hits album. Keep loving, keep respecting, and keep prioritizing. That's the secret sauce! 😉✨

MzAsh · Answer

It IS sometimes about control. And it’s very nuanced. A boyfriend of 2 months doesn’t get to dictate a lifelong friendship just because he’s uncomfortable. I’d dig more into why the discomfort it there in the first place and deal with that. I’m no one to throw away life long friendships because a boyfriend is jealous.

RebelinSteel · Answer

No disagree, 1000’s disagree when dating and in the odd relationship. My friends are important to me and have been for years. I am not changing my friends to meet the expectations of a girlfriend. I have never had an issue that I have friends that are girls when I am dating, the idea of getting rid of girls that are friends because you are dating is pretty fucking stupid, if I have known her since 8 and we are both 30 and have never been anything other than friends, guess what we ain’t going to get it on just because one of us is now dating.

Wetdreamz · Answer

If you find yourself having to either tell them that you are uncomfortable with their relationship with someone else early in the relationship, then you shouldn't have committed I'm the first place because if they respected you and knew basic fundamental relationship knowledge, then they would have halted it before getting serious with you.

If you are running into this in an already established relationship and third party wasn't in the picture before relationship, then you have other issues you two will likely have to work out other than just expecting that they immediately stop without it seemingly like they are actually weighing whether they want to do so or not.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

It depends if they have a reason to be insecure about a person in my life, but if it was someone new I personally would probably cut them off because they aren't anyone special to me. It is just a random acquaintance.
I personally had this happen to me, I told my boyfriend this "new girl" his friends girlfriend brought around is singling me out and kept saying shady shit, like saying "Oh I don't want to say anything because "My name" is here." Or "Oh I don't want to sit beside your boyfriend because I don't want you to be jealous". I just thought in my head sit where you want, I ain't jealous of you lol. With her keeping on saying stuff to me like that, and after telling him, he kept saying its in my head she isn't doing anything. (This after like 4 different times hanging out with her) Long story short she wanted my boyfriend but couldn't beat me, so she broke up his friend and his girlfriend instead LOL.

NathanDavis · Answer

disagree...  the people in my life are fucking amazing great people... if someone disapproved of them... then they are the problem, and not the great people in my life, lol

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Sometimes, sure. My thought process is that there are three parties to a relationship; you, your partner, and then the relationship itself. Sometimes you have to make decisions to prioritize the relationship at the expense of your own self interest.

exitseven · Answer

I had a few female friends before I got married. These people were really important I my life. My wife was jealous of them and it caused problems in my marriage. I saw them less and less until I didn't see them at all. They lived in different states and there was no internet so eventually I lost track of them.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Disagree 1000%. If that is even an issue, you have picked the wrong partner.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Hell no. Stick with the crew that got me here. If the new SO doesn't like X she damn well better bring the receipts.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

As long as this doesn't become "I have to choose your friends" mentality. There is a compromise where you might say you only hang out with this person when your SO is present.

Twalli · Answer

Yes. If my girlfriend had issues with me being friends with a girl I am attracted towards, I would cut off contact with said girl. She isn't, so I get yo keep a friend who is eye candy.

Lottydotty · Answer

No, you partner shouldn't get that much control

noohair · Answer

My ex wife isolated me from everyone to control me. It was not good.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, priorities. If you're not their to priority, what exactly is the point?

Dongie · Answer

For sure, but not family nor best friend. She gets to adjust.

RavVid · Answer

I'd agree

sheikalana · Answer

I agree 100%

SolitarySolace · Answer

Disagree

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