True or false Body count doesn't matter?

[Wtfman20]

Don't ask. Don't tell. Don't ask about exes don't talk about exes. Things I've learned that destroyed my past relationships. Especially talking about exes. It might just make you feel insecure about yourself and your relationship.

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It feels like men care more about body count. And some men believe body count matters if womens are high but men often exclude themselves from accountability on this matter. Also, it's a scapegoat in the relationship so if didn't without you can just blame it on a woman's body count and not your one actions and behaviors.

[Anonymous]

It matters. But NOT for the reason women think it does. One would HOPE that if you're serious about her that she's the type of woman who only sleeps with men she truly loves (not just has some feelings for). And if a woman has told a 100 guys that she loves them, how good is her word? How much does that mean anymore when you're guy 101? Why should he NOT believe he's 101 on your way to 102?

a lot of women today have blaise attitude towards sex. I've actually been scolded by women on this site saying they're just taking control of thier sexual destiny. And I'm not criticizing. I'm not trying to ruin anyone's good time. If that's what she chooses to do that's totally up to her. But know that's a turnoff to most quality men.

[Wtfman20]

Do you hold the same standard for yourself and other men

[Opinion Owner]

Of course.

[Wtfman20]

At least you feel that way. Some guys say it's different from men and women. And it only matters if women have a high body count.

[Opinion Owner]

Sex is just an act. If there's no meaning behind it it's pointless.

[HawkPerception]

Body count absolutely matters. No guy wants a girl that's been with 30 guys, some having a much bigger dick and some likely being better at sex. We're competitive by nature and no man wants to live in the shadow of another man, unless they're a cuck. We're visual by nature as well, so we literally easily imagine the girl being fucked by dudes. It doesn't matter how committed of a girl you are currently. If a guy finds out you've been with a ton of guys, your value in his eyes goes way down.

I'll also add that it's okay to make honest mistakes where you had the intention to have a long lasting relationship potentially leading to marriage. But fucking around purposely to have your fun and expecting to settle with a good man is wishful thinking.

[Wtfman20]

I've mentioned this before, that men are insecure and don't want to their partner to have any comparison. So if they suck, in bed or in the relationship in general the women is more naive they she has better options.

[HawkPerception]

It's crazy that you're trying to justify it being okay to sleep around and have no repercussions later in life.

[Wtfman20]

I didn't say that. Just saying that people can still have meaningful relationships. Any individual doesn't have to justify their own life and experiences. Everyone has their own opinion on the matter so getting with someone with similar values is important.

[Wtfman20]

It's also crazy to preemptively place value on anyone's life based on one detail. It reminds of the red pill rhetoric , comparing human beings to objects.

[HawkPerception]

By that logic murderers and rapists lives should have the same value as anyone else.

This is what women often tend to lack... accountability and logic.

Also... I never meant that your life has less value as a human. But your perceived value in the dating world definitely lowers if guys know you have a high body count.

[HawkPerception]

You need to learn to read the context

[MsProsperity]

Body count matters. You’re right talking about exes will affect you so bad, especially if you find out that your partner doesn’t treat you the way he used to treat his ex. It’s hard to ignore your partner’s past though

[LazerBean]

Honestly it only really matters for people with less than three. Those people should try to get with someone on their level. After that, it's not going to make much difference.

[Billlewis]

The only time I'm concerned about how many guys she's had sex with is if she hasn't had any sex, or very little sex.

[Wtfman20]

One the best answers. I agree. I wouldn't won't a guys with no experience. Sex would suck

[Billlewis]

Thank you very much. I just started following you and I'd like to invite you to follow me as well, if that's alright, because I like the questions you've asked thus far.

[Mr_twoface]

True! I couldn't care less if she was a virgin or pornstar. If she loves me for me, knows that sex is important in a relationship and interested in the moment and the future... I'm keen to know you further!

[RebelinSteel]

The number of previous partners does not matter. Why would I want to know about a girls ex’s, I’m dating her. As long as it does not impact the relationship I really don’t care about her past.

[JacobJordan]

It matters and you don't have to talk about it. It shows in relationships. There is a massive compilation of statistics on the various negatives that commonly occur and those all become rapidly apparent in relationships without asking

[Wtfman20]

Statistically, there's not enough research to suggest people that have slept around can't obtain a healthy, long term relationship. If anything lack of experience in general can lead to ending up with mediore relationship and possibly being abused.

[JacobJordan]

False. There is more than enough statistical evidence. So much so that the stats are able to put a hard number on things. Example. Couples that married as virgins are 5x less likely to divorce compared to couples with multiple sexual partners. Here is another. A woman with 5+ sexual partners has between a 75% and a 83% ish chance of divorcing or ending a relationship she is in. Meaning the overall success rate of a relationship for her is the same odds as a woman finding an abusive man.

[Wtfman20]

Yeah because their naive. And inexperienced. I was virgin till I was 21 it didn't prevent me from ending up with an abusive man because I was naive

[Wtfman20]

So it doesn't apply to men? Only woman sounds like you're getting your information from Pearl. Pick me girl who hasn't been picked.

[JacobJordan]

Not sure who that is but it certainly effects men. Just not the same way it effects women. Men rarely initiate divorce.

[Wtfman20]

But they cheat more. And wonder why women divorce. Just because the women initiate divorce doesn't mean the failed relationship was entirely her fault. I'm sure she tried to cover her concerns many times before she gave up. And because the guy wasn't paying attention it seemed like it came out of nowhere

[JacobJordan]

Statistically men and women cheat at about the same rate.

[Levin]

It matters to me. I don't want to be with a woman who has slept around.

Especially seeing some of the catastrophic relationships women have been in at work, and the myriad drama. That you invariably end up getting pulled into.

[DrPepper12]

It's past. You're present. It doesn't matter. If you're both secure enough to discuss it fine but vast majority aren't.

[Truthatanycost]

If it didn't matter, you wouldn't bother trying to hide it...

[Wtfman20]

That's not the point is thinking of it as hiding. It's just not that important to even mention. Especially if your still single after 30. People bound to have a sexual experiences.

[Truthatanycost]

Consider this. Guys looking for a one night stand, a fling, friends with benefits or anything short term do not care about body count. But more do care about it when looking for anything long term.

My friend only saw the impact of this when in her late 40's and is now working to healing from all of the damage. If she could go back in time, she would not do the same.

[Wtfman20]

Sure men or women should think about sexual encounters more before being so impulsive. Just saying, when you meet the right person and you guys have something special the past is irrelevant.

[Truthatanycost]

If I met a woman and she said the past was irrelevant. I'd immediately see that as a huge red-flag. Maybe other guys might be different. But if I am going to invite a woman into my life, everything is relevant!

[Wtfman20]

Than it's not the right one for you. If you care so much about it it's your choice

[Wtfman20]

One more question though, would you be ok dating a virgin?

[Truthatanycost]

I gave up on dating ages ago, but in theory yes.

[genericname85]

false. it does matter. because it is a strong predictor for future relationship success. like the more premarital sexual partner a person has, the less likely their marriage will last.

[Anonymous]

It matters to someone like be because i won't be with someone who is into casual sex.. And yes i hold my self to that same standard. I have never had sex outside of a long term relationship or marriage.

[jahaims]

Opinions aren't true or false. Facts and fallacies are.

[Wtfman20]

Within the question itself, is asking for an opinion. Asking the individual, if it's true or false to them if body count matters.

[jahaims]

You would ask if they agree or disagree then

[exitseven]

It does matter. It says a lot about committment

[Wtfman20]

Not really. A person could have a past, but still be committed to one person. Me and my boyfriend have had are share of lovers, we are completely loyal to each other.

[exitseven]

I know everybody is different I have been burned before. It made me wary of girls with big body counts

[tzdc21]

Body count does matter. Let's be honest.

[DextroShade]

False, body count absolutely matters!

[Iron_Man]

False everybody wants to know

[avery58]

False

[mickeysmonkey]

No ones business

[KrakenAttackin]

FALSE.