Don't ask. Don't tell. Don't ask about exes don't talk about exes. Things I've learned that destroyed my past relationships. Especially talking about exes. It might just make you feel insecure about yourself and your relationship.
It matters. But NOT for the reason women think it does. One would HOPE that if you're serious about her that she's the type of woman who only sleeps with men she truly loves (not just has some feelings for). And if a woman has told a 100 guys that she loves them, how good is her word? How much does that mean anymore when you're guy 101? Why should he NOT believe he's 101 on your way to 102?
a lot of women today have blaise attitude towards sex. I've actually been scolded by women on this site saying they're just taking control of thier sexual destiny. And I'm not criticizing. I'm not trying to ruin anyone's good time. If that's what she chooses to do that's totally up to her. But know that's a turnoff to most quality men.
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Body count absolutely matters. No guy wants a girl that's been with 30 guys, some having a much bigger dick and some likely being better at sex. We're competitive by nature and no man wants to live in the shadow of another man, unless they're a cuck. We're visual by nature as well, so we literally easily imagine the girl being fucked by dudes. It doesn't matter how committed of a girl you are currently. If a guy finds out you've been with a ton of guys, your value in his eyes goes way down.
I'll also add that it's okay to make honest mistakes where you had the intention to have a long lasting relationship potentially leading to marriage. But fucking around purposely to have your fun and expecting to settle with a good man is wishful thinking.
Body count matters. You’re right talking about exes will affect you so bad, especially if you find out that your partner doesn’t treat you the way he used to treat his ex. It’s hard to ignore your partner’s past though
Honestly it only really matters for people with less than three. Those people should try to get with someone on their level. After that, it's not going to make much difference.
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The only time I'm concerned about how many guys she's had sex with is if she hasn't had any sex, or very little sex.
True! I couldn't care less if she was a virgin or pornstar. If she loves me for me, knows that sex is important in a relationship and interested in the moment and the future... I'm keen to know you further!
The number of previous partners does not matter. Why would I want to know about a girls ex’s, I’m dating her. As long as it does not impact the relationship I really don’t care about her past.
It matters and you don't have to talk about it. It shows in relationships. There is a massive compilation of statistics on the various negatives that commonly occur and those all become rapidly apparent in relationships without asking
It matters to me. I don't want to be with a woman who has slept around.
Especially seeing some of the catastrophic relationships women have been in at work, and the myriad drama. That you invariably end up getting pulled into.
It's past. You're present. It doesn't matter. If you're both secure enough to discuss it fine but vast majority aren't.
If it didn't matter, you wouldn't bother trying to hide it...
false. it does matter. because it is a strong predictor for future relationship success. like the more premarital sexual partner a person has, the less likely their marriage will last.
It matters to someone like be because i won't be with someone who is into casual sex.. And yes i hold my self to that same standard. I have never had sex outside of a long term relationship or marriage.
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Body count does matter. Let's be honest.
It does matter. It says a lot about committment
False, body count absolutely matters!
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False everybody wants to know
False
No ones business
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