I don’t understand his behavior?

[Anonymous]

We are group mates , colleagues, and we are going to work in USA in this summer.(abroad)
We see each other 5-6 hours a day, he calls me in the evenings , and we talk 2-3 hours there.
He never says “i want you to be around “ but he does everything to make me be where he is. He found me this work , where we work together now , he asked me to join him for this trip to USA.
But he always says “we are nothing to each other” , “I’m nothing for you”
Yes I understand, may be I didn’t do so much things towards him , but I’m always showing that i value him , always agree with anything he asks me about. I try to be closer everytime, but he pushes me away when i do so. But if he wants so , he does and says a lot cute things to me , i accept his lovely moments, even though I noticed that he is shy about showing me his emotions, he can say like “i missed you” and then delete that message. Or say “you’re perfect” and joke around as a friend.
He always here with me, any time , always protects my safety, helps me.
But when it comes to feeling, he never says it openly. I don’t know who we are for each other.
Sometimes he can ignore my messages, be cold to me , without any explanations. I really don’t know how to behave in this situation
I also have feelings for him , but I don't know does he have
He makes sad when see me with other guys.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Sounds like you're riding the emotional rollercoaster with this guy! It's the classic case of mixed signals. 🎢 Here's the deal: His actions scream that he's into you—coming up with ways to be around you, protecting your safety, and even those fleeting moments of sweetness. Yet, his words are playing a completely different tune—keeping you at arm's length with those "we are nothing" comments.

This tug-of-war could be a sign of a few things. He might be struggling with his feelings, scared of getting too close, or unsure how to express his emotions. It's quite common; sometimes fear of rejection makes people act like they're taking two steps forward and three steps back. 🕺💃

My advice? It's time for a heart-to-heart. Open communication is key in any relationship, whether it's brewing love or brewing tea. 😉 Let him know how his mixed signals are making you feel and ask him openly about his feelings. It's a straight shot to clarity, and who knows, maybe he's just waiting for a sign from you to open up.

Remember, love should feel like a comfy sofa, not a rollercoaster. If he's really into you, he'll want to make sure you're feeling secure, not confused. Good luck, and let's hope your summer in the USA is filled with more clear skies than foggy signals! ☀️💑

[Asker]

I tried to talk about it, he just avoids openly communicating in this topic

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, this boy sounds so confusing! On the one hand, he clearly cares about you a lot - asking you to work with him, always being there and protecting you. But then he pulls away when you show feelings too.

Seems like he might have some issues opening up emotionally. Maybe he's shy about relationships after getting hurt before. Or possibly not used to communicating what he wants directly.

My advice would be - next time you have a heart to heart, tell him how much his mixed signals are messing with your head! In a calm, caring way say you care about him too, but need more clarity on where you stand.

Ask him how he really feels underneath all the jokes and pushing away. Does he see you as just friends or something more? Let him know taking it slow is okay, but you can't keep going in limbo not knowing.

With patience and understanding, hopefully he'll feel safe opening up. But protect your heart sis - don't let him string you along if he's not willing to meet you halfway emotionally too. You deserve someone who makes their feelings clear!

[Asker]

I talked with him, he just keeps pushing me away, he runs away from such topics , I don't know how to behave, if i act like I don’t care he complains , that I’m cold , never text first and so on , but i start doing so he becomes cold

[Oliverlogan263]

Oof, this guy is really confusing you and messing with your feelings, huh? I know how frustrating that is. You've tried opening up to him and he still keeps pushing you away without giving you a real explanation. Honestly, at this point I'd say you need to start backing off a bit and focusing on yourself.

Some guys just aren't mature or communicative enough to have an open, honest relationship. And you don't deserve to be left guessing how he feels or worrying over every little thing you do. My advice would be pull back on initiating contact - don't text him first all the time. Give short replies if he reaches out so he sees you're not as available. This will either prompt him to realize he misses you and finally step up, or it'll help you gain some distance to get over these mixed signals.

Keep your options open too - talk to other guys if you're interested in someone! Show him you have value with or without his commitment. But don't let him string you along either. If he's still giving hot/cold treatment after you back off, you'll have your answer that he's just not ready to give you what you need. You deserve someone excited to be with you! Let him sort himself out and don't waste your time waiting on the sidelines. Stay strong, girl!

[laly520]

ig u two aren't compatible n it won't really work on long term