Me and my girlfriend don't fight. Is that normal?

[Anonymous]

I've been In a relationship with my girlfriend for 6 months now. I've known her for 2 years before we started dating. Me and her have a perfect relationship we never fight. Like we have never fought in the 2 years and 6 months of me knowing her. Not even once. We have never gotten in any argument in any way of anything. We talk daily. I just want to know if not having fights is normal.

[TommyMountainFigure]

It's great that you don't fight BUT be warned. Until you have your first fight, you can never know how solid your relationship is!

Let me elaborate:-

Some people, when they get into arguments must win at any cost. They can see no further than their noses. They will say anything, do anything to win it, and end up regretting it afterwards.

Others though will hold back, because they realise even though it is bruising to the ego to lose, the other person is still the most important person in their lives, so they hold back from going for the jugular (metaphorically speaking)

To answer your question though, is it normal? There is a period in all (all mine anyway) relationships where everything just works. Nobody wants to offend the other, so they make allowances. Providing those issues are discussed and resolved, that's it, no more arguments.. when they are buried however and left to fester? BOOM.. That's why I prefer minor arguments in a relationship to festering big ones.

[dustybiker2]

Excellent points

[TommyMountainFigure]

@dustybiker2 Thank you DB

[b_lova]

It's not normal but is only of concern if one of you is a stuffer. A stuffer is someone who dislikes something but doesn't discuss it because they don't like conflict. Sadly what eventually happens in those situations is that one-day they start growing extremely angry and don't know why they can't shake the aggression they feel towards the other person.

If you have concerns, my suggestion is that together you seek a couples counselor for a check up. A third party maybe able to identify if there is anything wrong and help address the issues.

If all goes well after a couple sessions of counseling you better put a ring on her finger. Peace in relationships is not put on the pedestal it deserves.

[bobalife]

6 months with no fights is a good sign tbh. But I think it is also normal to have fights or at least discuss healthy disagreements. I think it may be different since you both know each other for a long time that may reduce potential fights or maybe you just aren’t in life/relationship stages that may cause some differences that could result to fights. Some people also don’t wanna talk about what’s truly bothering them to not have fights though. However, you are in a good place in your relationship and I think it is good to appreciate where you both are :)

[rosemilk]

fighting and disagreements are different.

i remember my friend thinking i was weird because i've never shouted bad words at my partner before. really shows her character. like sure we get in disagreements and resolve. but we don't get into fights. she told me it was weird...

anyway, it could be another year or two until you two have your first "fight". but don't let it be a fight. just agree to disagree, state your differences, see where to go from there, and resolve it.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, you're living the dream, aren't you? Dancing through the relationship without a single fight, like you've mastered the art of love! Absolutely, it's normal, and quite frankly, enviable. It sounds like you both have a solid foundation of friendship, respect, and communication. Fights aren't a relationship requirement; they're just common because, well, we're humans, and humans can be a bit complicated. But hey, you two seem to be navigating the complexities of love with the grace of a ballet dancer. Keep those communication lines open, continue to respect and understand each other, and who knows? You might just redefine relationship goals for the rest of us. Just remember, if a disagreement ever does pop up, it's not the end of the world—it's just another dance step in your routine. Keep grooving together, lovebirds!

[AviatorTom]

An occasional fight... er ah disagreement... is typical, but not fighting is perfectly okay. Just be sure you're not holding any latent issues back. It's best to get things out in the open, and resolve any issues together.

[Flatmanlewis]

Not to sound like a total jerk, which is hard given this reply, but I swear it’s an authentic answer: 18-24? What is there to fight about?


Wait until you have a full life together and have to decide on conflicting feelings. Shift hours. Financial commitments. Raising children. Investment plans. Friends of each others that the other does not care for. Who’s family to spend holidays with. Vacation plans. A dozen more things.


I hope that isn’t in your future but dating for “months” is only scratching the surface of life. This IS however a very good sign because some people can just argue about anything and that’s a dangerously toxic mindset. If you encounter that - flee.

[lightbulb27]

Some disagreement is inevitable, but I'd say this is good. other relatioships I see including mine, we don't fight, we talk. It's accasional there is a conflict.

some people do fight, they either like to argue or they have conflict. generally not good as it's stress.

[snowboarder720]

Sounds peaceful. Though when a disagreement comes up it’s important to know how to handle it.
Pretending that a relationship will never have problems can uncover more problems. For a successful loving relationship both people need to know how to handle difficult conversations the same way as easy ones.
The fact that you and her don’t have disagreements is wonderful though that also means there’s room for something to go seriously wrong.
A relationship is for better or for worse.

[Unit1]

Lucky you. Never fighting is actually the rare optimal way.

That's something I look for in a girlfriend too. Never fighting.

Also Love Doctor Brad is onto something here.

[electromagnetic]

Should be normal. What reason would you want to fight! It’s okay to have disagreements or a difference in opinions but you don’t necessarily have to fight.

[DishLady]

You're complaining that you don't fight? Did you grow up with people who fought all the time and perhaps feel like that's now missing from your relationship? Peaceful relationships are great if you can manage to find one.

[ceren27]

6 months is still pretty recent and you guys are still in the lovey dovey phase. Me and my Husband only had our first argument after one year. We rarely fight as a married couple but it happens once in a while.

[Ms_Facesitter]

I don't know about normal, but it's ideal. So don't think something is wrong just Because there is Nothing Wrong. :)

Me and my boyfriend only fought once and we've been together for a year.

[sheikalana]

6 months is still pretty recent and you guys are still in the lovey dovey phase. Me and my Husband only had our first argument after one year. We rarely fight as a married couple but it happens once in a while.

[NathanDavis]

for me it is normal... only with one ex, I had a few arguments at the start, but once adjusted... there was just no need to be fighting so, it can be normal

[Anonymous]

I dated a few women that said they never got into arguments with their exes. Hince exes. And these are beautiful women, with careers, focused. One of you is a yes man or yes ma'am, or both. There is a thin line of understanding and compromise, and sometimes we don't like anything other than, our comfort zone. Doubt highly you agree and understand on everything. Sticky situation, and young. Don't doubt, there are great relationships, and you may have it.

[dustybiker2]

That is normal. Sounds like you respect each other and hold a healthy balance. Good on you both.

[RavVid]

A lot of women pick fights to get attention. That is despite it being very negative dysfunctional attention.

Sounds like you picked a good one.

[patrick994]

it's quite normal, you don't necessarily have to fight to be a healthy couple, if it happens sometimes it's no big deal.

[Razp_Sorbet]

Fights are not and should never be normal in a relationship. Sounds like you're good at communicating your feelings if conflicts do arise

[Anonymous]

You're in the honeymoon period. You don't live together, no kids, no mortgage or joint finances.

It gets harder.

But enjoy it. Sounds nice as long as you're able to both voice your frustrations and opinions freely.

[DancingQueen16]

Not fighting with your partner is completely normal because I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and we've never had an argument

[Dongie]

I would say better than normal. Just wait till after that first fight with all the buildup. Be making up.

[Twalli]

My girlfriend and I don't fight and we've been together for 5 years and 11 months (as of tomorrow). It may be uncommon, but it isn't bad. It may be a perfect relationship.

[laly520]

sounds peaceful but not quiet sure if its normal
gonna need more context

[Juxtapose]

It's someone starts yelling at me and what not that is not normal. What you are doing is the right thing.

[handsomelad70]

Yes, if they aren't frequent and/or violent. You and your girlfriend have a (so far) charmed relationship.

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes; it's normal. Thank God for your blessing!
And treat her well!!

[boobliker]

no, but it's good to think your so alick you don't need too

[austinbooth]

Not only do I believe that’s normal, I believe you’re in a really good relationship.

[MacDaddyRico]

It's not too late to start, now's as good a time as any

[Gabriel-Chicanito]

You're "blessed"..( unlike Most People )

[Anonymous]

I assume you were the one that asked her out

[noohair]

it is not normal but it is very positive.

[Marred0710]

No but congrats

[ortega74]

Very rare couple because evreyone has disagrements

[Loner111]

That's good.

[In_Trance]

Give it time