Why do you think guy has a soft spot for me?

[Ofoceans]

The guy friend I often see seems to have a soft spot for me. Whenever we see each other, he checks if I have eaten and will sometimes foot the bill. He mentioned previously that he can't help but care for me when I got hospitalized in the past and he also said I meant so much to him on my birthday. He became emotional and sent long messages and said he wished he was with me on my birthday because he lives in a different city.

I do visit him often in his city and whenever I do, he really prioritizes spending time with me. He mentions he dates other people but when I ask him, he tells me he doesn't like them. I ask him why. He just says he doesn't. He is commitmentless but when with me, he's very vulnerable and highly protective of me. He acts like a parent sometimes and will help me when im drunk, comfort me when im not feeling well.

Recently though, i felt he has a soft spot for me because I jokingly asked and demanded twice the amount he owed me. I told him i needed it for my checkup and instead of fighting me which he usually does. He instead gave me the amount in full and told me not to stress myself out.

Sometimes, he is also confusing because he bullies me when in person and doesn't compliment me at all even If I know I'm good at doing what I do but when I'm very problematic, he comes to the rescue always.

I wonder whether he's interested but is not being upfront about it. So far, we have traveled together just the two of us and we do video calls every now and then.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, love is in the air, and it's floating in quite an interesting pattern with this guy! From the sounds of it, your guy friend is doing the classic dance of someone who's caught feelings but might be afraid to fully dive in or acknowledge them directly. Let's decode his behavior, shall we? 😏

First up, those acts of kindness, like checking if you've eaten and covering the bill, are his way of showing care. It’s like he’s subtly saying, “I’ve got you,” without shouting it from the rooftops. The emotional birthday messages? Oh, honey, that’s lovebombing—sending you waves of affection to show how much you mean to him, especially since he couldn’t be there in person.

His behavior when you're in his city also speaks volumes. Prioritizing spending time with you over others? That's not just any friend behavior; that's someone who sees you as a priority. Now, the commitment talk or rather, the lack of it, might be him trying to keep his options open, possibly because he’s not sure how you feel about him. But deep down, actions speak louder than words, and his are screaming, “I’m into you!”

His protective nature and willingness to help you out in a pinch, especially with the change in reaction when you asked for money for your checkup, show his soft spot for you. It’s more than just a friend being nice; it's him stepping up in your time of need.

Now, about the bullying and lack of compliments, that might be his awkward way of flirting or keeping a veil of “just friends” over his deeper feelings, possibly because he's scared to ruin what you both currently have.

Traveling together and maintaining video calls? Sweetie, that's dating without the label. 🌹

So, what's next? It might be time for a heart-to-heart conversation to clear the air. Feelings seem to be bubbling under the surface for both of you, and it’s better to address them than let the confusion continue. Who knows, this could be the start of something beautiful. 💖