Should I just enjoy what he offers?

[Anonymous]

I recently told my 10 year affair partner I want him to leave his wife. He said I love you.

I said then why are you still married? He replied, I don't want to go bankrupt. Do u know how involved that is with all my businesses and the debt I have. How I'd have to split everything with my brother involved also ( brother is a partner ). Then he said in a low tone I'd just have to end myself. ( which he wouldn't he's just so dramatic with stress)

So I told him his wife and kids know and I offered to show him proof. He said no I can't see that because I am just trying to get by day to day. ( He had a major business failure at one point he's still recovering from)

Then I told him he should have some back up plans in place in case she and her kids are being strategic or if I lose my mind and tell her everything. He did not respond.

Anyway, he treats me well, pays my bills, gives me emotional support. I have a new car, tons of jewelry. We are super close and he even let's me see his financial statements and business emails

I see him often and we spend 2/3 nights a week sleep overs. He has a lot of freedom due to work. I do see him on holidays. His wife has no idea how close we are she thinks I'm just a once in a blue sex partner.

Do I just continue to enjoy what we have or do I go through the pain and not let him have his cake?

I'm not looking to have kids or even get married at this point. If so he's the only man I'd ever marry.

If u blast me I'm deleting ur comment.

Updates

1 y

Oh I know all his friends. ( All cheaters too )
We go out in public and do all activities like a normal couple.

[jennifer_bloom]

So he can't afford to pay his bills and will go bankrupt if he divorces and yet he is buying you jewellery and expensive gifts? It's obvious to me you have a brain injury and nobody believes your lies about me. This is even more ridiculous than when your boyfriend said he dated me for 2 years while I beat him up every week even though he says I have yellow teeth and am very fat and yet he claims to be in the top 1% of income earners and to drive a car.

[Asker]

He was living off credit when a business went bad. He has huge credit lines from other businesses. He bought my car off credit. Because in a few years it will all be resolved.
If he divorces his wife he will lose what is left AND be in debt. Especially if she has proof he's cheating which i think she does. She hasn't worked in 20 years. This is why marriage should be a renewable contract.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, love, you're dancing in a masquerade of emotions and fancy trinkets, aren't you? 🎭 First off, let's peel away the layers of this diamond-encrusted situation. You're the star in a drama that's got more twists than a telenovela, but remember, even the most dazzling jewelry doesn't sparkle in the shadow of unfulfilled desires and hidden truths.

You've got a man who's playing financial twister with his life - trying not to topple over while keeping both his family and you balanced on his fingertips. Yet, here's the thing, love, the heart wants what it wants, but sometimes what it wants comes with a price tag we didn't see at first glance.

Should you enjoy the spoils of this affair? Darling, that's like asking if you should keep dancing while the Titanic's sinking. Sure, the band's playing and the floor's still under your feet, but eventually, the music's gonna stop. Let's not forget, affairs, much like icebergs, have a way of causing havoc when you least expect it.

Now, don't get me wrong, I'm all for love conquering all, but when there are vows, kids, and legal documents thicker than your favorite novel involved, it's a sticky wicket. You mentioned not wanting kids or marriage "at this point," which sounds like you're at a crossroads, choosing between what's glittering in your hand and what might be glowing on the horizon.

Here's some flirty-nugget wisdom: Love, true love, doesn't have you questioning your worth or whether you should settle for secret rendezvous and holiday shadows. You deserve to be someone's sunrise, not their midnight secret.

So, what's it gonna be? The comfort of the known, with all its jewels and jest, or the thrill of seeking a love that steps into the daylight with you, unafraid and unashamed? Only your heart knows that tune. Just make sure, whatever you decide, it's a melody you can dance to for years to come, without stepping on your own toes. Keep sparkling, but maybe aim for a light that's all your own. 💎✨

[Anonymous]

If this is real you’re looney tunes.

[Asker]

It's real. It's not even half the story it gets crazier. I'm not nuts I just have severe attachment issues. He's the one that's nuts and so is his wife not confronting him while her kids know and 1 went to therapy for it.

[HelpfulWoman]

LMAOOOOO

[HelpfulWoman]

@EmmaMary
@_maya_
look at this troll lmaooo

[_Maya_]

Lol she already is deleting opinions. Obvious troll behavior.

[Asker]

@_Maya_ not a troll this is 100% truth. It's only a small part of the story. I deleted 1 because she told me to

[EmmaMary]

@_maya_ & @helpfulwoman

And guess whose comment got deleted! 😂

[HelpfulWoman]

@EmmaMary noooo not a dirty dumb delete!! XD I bet mine's not been removed due to the tags XD

[EmmaMary]

@helpfulwoman

I quite simply asked if she had a publisher for this rather lovely story.

However, I must confess in saying she could delete it at her leisure. lol

[DreamCrescent]

how do you delete other people’s opinions? i didn’t think you could even retract your own

[HelpfulWoman]

@DreamCrescent when you ask a question or someone answers your opinion, the dots at the right have a "hide this/i don't want to see this" option

[DreamCrescent]

right. and that deletes it for everyone? i figured it just hid for just you