At what age did you experience your BEST and WORST relationships?

[DishLady]

~18-20

~21-30

~31-40

~41-50

~51-60

~61-70

~71+

[DizzyDesii]

Ahh time to reveal my poor track record 2009-2024 😂

THE TOP 3 WORST—

• Class clown Dez #1 was when I was age 14-16. We went from enemies to friends to lovers. Then I realized I was damn near dating the devil. He became verbally abusive and took advantage of me sexually. He cheated on me with friends, fam, enemies and he supposedly knocked up my best friend at the time. He was physically abusive once but thats where I draw the line so I started fighting back. But it was still hard to get away from him and I’d say i had stockholm syndrome cause i kept taking him back. He was my first everything. But once He held a gun to me and another time a knife, I was finally ready to be done for good. I didn’t finally get away from him until I was 20.
• Metalhead Bandboy JT was one of the guys I dated at 24. We fell for eachother over karaoke. He turned into a villain quick when he got mad that I wouldn’t have sex with him so he threatened to rape me. After breaking it off, I learned that he was grooming girls under 18. And to think he went to school to become a cop but I’ve seen him wearing scrubs lately so I feel bad if he's someones doc.
• Aircraft engineer Mik and I dated at 28-29. He was literally like a reincarnation of boyfriend Dez #1 Dez-il. I can’t believe I ended up believing him despite all the red flags others pointed out. I thought he was a good guy but he was an alcoholic, a pathological liar, possibly a cokehead, and certainly bipolar af. I even thought he was possessed at times with the ways his eyes went black. I don't know he was just so nice to me at least during the first half of the relationship but he was always an ass to others especially to women and homeless people so I should’ve seen it coming.. Once he finally physically threatened me, I knew there was no going back. He was a very submissive guy in the beginning so his switchup surprised me.

THE 6 WHO MADE AN IMPACT BUT WERE NOT NECESSARILY THE WORST

• Professor Lu was while I was 22. We were pretty good together until we werent. We almost eloped but once I found out he was a former pornstar and selling his nudes to gay men for rent money, I was pretty over him.
• Gamerguy Des #3 and I were together 22-24 but he changed once he learned I was making more money than him. He also became verbally abusive once he thought I was pregnant. He began confiding in his coworker and emotionally cheating on me.
• Gymfreak CEO Tee and I were pretty good together while I was 24 but he didn't know how to prioritize. He was also a pathological liar And I also began to question if things with his sister were incestual
• Historian Mil and I were friends first and we were good at 26 but he began to feel insecure both financially and emotionally. He always told me he refused to be an “option” after he learned that I chose to be with him over someone else. But its like dude, I chose you.
• Nurse Jhake and I were good at 25 until his step mom started interfering. Honestly a lot of the guys mom’s did. I hate dating mama’s boys. Plus Jhake had commitment issues and probably would’ve cheated sooner or later
• Lam and I were good at 29 until i discovered he was the biggest mama’s boy. And I still don’t know why we broke up but I do know he was bipolar, had roid-rage, and was ready to leave once he thought I was pregnant..

The BEST—

• Film Writer Tyler at 24 until his racist mom interfered. But he defended our relationship for as long as he could.
• Electrical Engineer Tyler at 24 until depression and insecurity got the best of him. I’m not the type to keep validating someone. I hate being asked constantly “Do you still love me? Are you going to leave me?” Also, He and I would’ve worked if he didn't want us to wait 8 years to have a kid. I get that he wanted to get his degree first but I’m not waiting around that long. Plus his parents were racist like those of the other Tyler, Lu, and Mik.
• Navy Cole and I dated at 25 until he decided to reenlist in the military plus I kinda lost attraction to him and left him for someone.

**So like I never cheated but from 2017-2020, I had a bad habit of leaving guys for other guys. Definitely the grass is greener type syndrome BS. At the same time, the Tylers and Cole deserved better than me. But the second Tyler is the only guy above I’d be willing to give it another go with*

[DizzyDesii]

Cole at 25 prob would’ve been my best relationship but his ptsd was also kinda freakin me out. My first boyfriend at 14 still goes down as the worst

[DishLady]

Aww… well you’ve earned your stripes, yes? At least you’re experienced enough to know what does and doesn’t work for you so you can choose more wisely in the future. ❤️❤️❤️

[DizzyDesii]

Everytime i think I've chosen wisely, i realize i was tricked. I fall for a lot of wolves in sheeps clothing. I’ve never intentionally dated a bad boy but yet i keep ending up with a lot of them. Im into class clowns and shy guys. But so many have turned out to be insecure wannabes

[DishLady]

Girl… you’re preaching to the choir on that one. Sigh. Chin up. Keep the faith.

[midnightmoon05]

First hubby best and worse.

best because we worked really well together in so many aspects even today we are still very good as parents to our two kids.
worse, he is a victim of an only child to two crazy parents. My ex MIL was too involved and he didn’t know how to protect our marriage from her.
now happily married to my honey from gag. Together 8 years. now… how time flies. It was also bad in the beginning because if our differences… took 4 years to work out … instead of killing each other… we are married over 3 years. and very happy together.

[DishLady]

Lol. "Instead of killing each other..."

You're very sweet.

Sorry to hear about marriage 1, but I'm glad it worked out for you the second time around! <3

[ohsheeT]

I'm not going to put down anything because I've had some really really good experiences and relationships but I'm here to also say that I haven't had my best yet and I can't wait for that one. But all my relationships have been good even if they ended up splitting they're all good because that's my choice when you walk into a relationship you're with that person for a reason if you fall deeply in love it's for a reason when that relationship ends there's no reason to be enemies or hate each other you both have to understand that you both grew apart and you have to respect that for whatever reasons

[OlderAndWiser]

My worst relationship was my first marriage, because I devoted so many years trying to save a relationship that she didn't want to save. I married at age 32 and divorced at age 50. My best relationship is my current relationship, and I met Helen in 2020, when I was 65 years old.

[DishLady]

Wow, you REALLY gave it a good solid try, O&W. Makes me even happier to see that you found happiness with Miss H. <3

[OlderAndWiser]

I was very stubborn and determined to prove that I could make it work. Of course, if only one partner is making an effort, the marriage is doomed.

[DishLady]

Yeah, I know that but all too well from trying to mend and patch my flawed marriage. :(

[OlderAndWiser]

I was horribly disappointed, but at least not disappointed with myself. I made the effort for 17 years.

[Finchie40]

Best relationships for me were back before social media even really became a thing , once MySpace and Facebook etc. started making it’s popularity, relationships pretty much went to shit

[DishLady]

Do you think the lack of media helped make the relationship more real? (I don't remember MySpace... or I think it was something that initiated while I was still married, so I never partook. FB was out by the time I divorced and no one was pedaling MySpace anymore to my knowledge.)

[Finchie40]

Yea I feel people valued each other more before social media really came into play , we weren’t bombarded by useless nonsense that social media feeds our heads with , and people didn’t really know each others’ business and didn’t have easy access into our lives like people do now , Shit, I remember sharing one phone line when I lived with my parents , so the only way someone could contact you? is if they called that one number if you had it changed , they were fucked lol When I was out in public and I met a great girl , I valued and respected her more because I wasn’t being bombarded by a hundred different girls secretly trying to flirt with me , also when someone found out , you were in a relationship? , People respected that more and backed off and realized you were off limits. Nowadays people don’t give a shit whether you are taken or not. Because now we have easy access into each others lives , we didn’t carry around cell phones with internet on them , people wrote love letters to each other instead , now it’s send them a message in their personal inbox on their social media app. Life was more innocent and care free compared to today’s world. I know bad stuff was still happening back then but we weren’t bombarded by it and didn’t think much about it , People From your past stayed in your past , they didn’t have easy access to magically appear back into your life bringing back old memories. Shit the second I joined Facebook , girls’ and guys’ that I thought I would never see or hear from again were right at the tip of my fingertips. Ex girlfriends were inboxing me and flirting with me , Girls’ that I went to school with were reaching out to me now that it was so easy and convenient to due. I know it sounds crazy but it’s what I experienced compared to how it is today. i feel people actually valued each other more back then by not being bombarded by all the shit we are bombarded with today , My relationships lasted longer because we respected

[Finchie40]

Each other more , and couldn’t wait to see each other and spend time together , I never once had a girlfriend in my past tell me she needs space lol Now people say they need space all the time , it cracks me up , Maybe I am insane but that’s what I remember before social media was even really a thing

[Finchie40]

I asked my Dad how him and my Mom stayed happily married for all these years and he said because we didn’t carry around those things and didn’t play on the computer

[DishLady]

I think bc now we suffocate each other online when we’re not in front of one another. It’s odd.

[Finchie40]

Yes, sadly technology is pretty much taking over our lives , everywhere I go , people are face planted on their phones , comparing their lives to others’ thinking that’s where I should be , that’s what I want , I don’t have that so I need that. People are sadly not content anymore , they think grass is greener on the other side , All I hear is people comparing and criticizing their partners’ behind their backs to their friends , instead of being appreciative of what they already have in front of them , I use to work as a bouncer at a night club and the shit I witnessed in there was absolutely pathetic , people cheating on each other left and right , while their partners are home worried sick about them. Girls’ night out wasn’t innocent in the least , Guys night out was the same. I am not saying everyone is a cheater but people are more likely to cheat these days with the technology we have by our side at all times. Being bombarded by tons of opportunities to be sneaky about it. My wife and I use to be inseparable before she got addicted to Facebook , her whole personality changed on me right before my eyes , comparing me to other guys’ making comments like she should be where her friend is , if I had a real man I would be living a better life blah blah blah , it got so bad to the point I told her don’t let the door hit ya in the ass , I was sick and tired of being criticized and compared to other people that should mean absolutely nothing to her. Our marriage started going down hill the second she was bombarded by all the nonsense she was seeing on Facebook. I felt like I lost the love of my life because now I am being compared when she never compared me before , nothing i did for her was ever good enough , she became a selfish POS person

[Finchie40]

Me personally is a content person, I don’t need a lot of things to make me happy and to feel at peace , I am perfectly content with what o have in front of me , I work to keep a roof over my head and food in my mouth and clothes on my back , I don’t need expensive things to keep me happy. Having a girl that is content like me would be amazing , I’m not saying we would never go out but going out wouldn’t be something we had to do all
The time , I am happier sitting on my patio and having good conversation, or sitting by a bon fire and having some beers and good conversation, As long as her and I are happy and content that’s all that matters to me , I don’t care if we moved into a small home so we aren’t house poor and go and travel and spend our money on fun things instead , that’s where I am in life at this point and plan on living that life until I die , I already had a big home and nice cars , it means absolutely nothing to me now , I am grateful it’s going to get me a nice load of cash when I sell it

[Rei13]

My worst relationship was in my twenties and my best was in my thirties

[HawkPerception]

My best relationships were from 24 to 27 and 28 to 29

[TheRealPepperPotts]

Assuming romantic relationships? I've only had one...

[Lliam]

I accidentally selected 21-30. I actually had good girlfriends from 16 to 27.
I meant to select 31-40.

I had my worst relationship when I was 34. I lived with a 31 year old for close to a year and she turned out to be a mess. She is the only girlfriend I wound up hating.

My best relationship by far was a when I met a 30 year old when I was 36. We wound up living together for almost 2 years. She was my ideal, physically, sexually, and every other way. I loved her with my heart and soul and she loved me. The only problem was, we couldn't spend the rest of our lives together. But I still love her and always will.

Then I met my wife when I was 40 and married her when I was 42. We have been happily married now for almost 28 years. She's wonderful.

[RetroReviews]

2005 I had a whirlwind romance thought it was the love of my life her name is Tiffany, seen something out of a fairy tale but I'm only lasted a couple months she was pregnant by her ex so went back to him I was heartbroken that was the one that hurt me the most personally I remember that night all night on the floor on my knees screaming and crying my eyes out yes no kidding

[DishLady]

Sorry you went through that!

[RetroReviews]

Thanks

[Stef12]

That's difficult. I've never had a good relationship. It's always been people that bullied their way in and then were abusive. I've never approached anyone I liked. I had what I thought was the best relationship ever online. For a year and a half. But it turns out that used me and disappeared.

[DishLady]

Oh my. :(

I’m sorry to hear this.

[Anonymous]

My only ever relationships were before I was 22. They’re abusive, and gave me a life long disease. Since 22 I’ve not bothered because I’m tainted and I don’t trust anyone. If sex causes diseases and having a baby the guy won’t even help with, what’s the point of all of it. I’ll pass and remain as I am. My kids rely on me and I don’t want to jeopardize that for some slumbag

[DishLady]

I hear you and am sorry you’ve gone through this hard path. Praying for you. You’re a remarkably strong lady. ❤️❤️❤️

[NathanDavis]

I didn't have best relationships...

and they were all great, for different reasons, mostly... different stages of my life, so not really fair to compare one to the other either

[DishLady]

Aww, Nat, I'm sorry that's the case. I hope you find your "best" soon. <3

[NathanDavis]

lmfao... I'm sorry

I meant to say, I never had bad relationships, so there is no "worse" they were all great, for their own reasons

[NathanDavis]

@CaitlinSims25 got it Caitlin... I will make sure to never call you "young looking girl"

[DishLady]

Ah! Got it.

[DishLady]

Yeah, I didn’t get the whole younger trigger with CS25… But she asked to block so I complied. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[NathanDavis]

lmao... youngsters...

[7Phoenix7]

My best and worst relationship was my only relationship. Lasted 14 years...

[DishLady]

Oh wow. That's a good ling while. <3

[CaitlinSims25]

I had more then one worst relationship my last exbf was a toxic and other exbf some were cheaters. Only had one good relationship with one one time at college but did also ended to. I can’t remember what age I was.

[DishLady]

Sounds like me -- one good one that ended, and the other terribly abusive + cheating. At least you know what to avoid now... and it's good you're till young enough to start over as well.

[CaitlinSims25]

@DishLady . I had 9 ex boyfriend and the rest were bad too. One was another Cheater. I'm not young.

[CaitlinSims25]

@DishLady Omg I hate it when people called me young. I'm not teen

[CaitlinSims25]

NO trade you will be blocked.

[riskysweet]

It's that time when everything is driven by excitement. You remember every bit of it, even after years. Beyond that it becomes too common or frequent like changing underwear that there is rarely anything to remember.

[rachel776]

best right now, worst i never really had any worst just some meh here and there

[RyanR03]

Worst… 40. 😂. I’m 48 but engaged again. Going good

[DishLady]

Congrats! <3

[itsannalee]

The best relationship is now, when i finally met a guy i was looking for.


The worst was few years ago. A man who got me PTSD.

[MicahRaine]

My best relationship is right now :)

My worst relationship was 18-19, but only because it's my only other real relationship. It was still good until the end.

[Twalli]

It's still my only and still going on, but it started when I was 27.

[DishLady]

AWW! <3 <3 <3

Good for you! God bless.

[electromagnetic]

21~30 group. All though it was the two, polar opposites.

[ProbablyClueless]

Worst was my mid to late twenties. I guess we'll find out if relationships in my early 30s are better.

[ryanrhino]

Divorced and re-married. Definitely best and worst in that age range :)

[LiamJHayden]

Best 24. Worst is hard to say since none were actually bad.

[Anonymous]

Best and worst happens to be in the same year unfortunately.

[IslaTheWitch]

I can't see much difference... I'm more experienced now but I always was rather mature...

[Serkee]

I've only been in one, at age 24-25.

[Kelley1]

At 14 to 16.

[DishLady]

Aww. You're still super young, kiddo. Chin up. At least now you know a little more about what you want or don't want in a relationship, yes?

[Icebird7]

Why?

[legalboxers]

Worst was 25-26… best…. Still waiting

[Zoi1986]

Worst at 20- 25 the best in my 30s.

[eagle1951]

24 worse, 28 best

[Anonymous]

I never had a relationship :(

[Dongie]

18-20

[Dongie]

Both with the same one