What does it mean to build with someone?

[Anonymous]

I often hear men and women talking about wanting someone to build with them, but what exactly does that mean? Some say to build means to contribute (as in sharing the workload and growing wealth), while some say it means to offer emotional support. So what does it mean to you?

[Finchie40]

A relationship should be a team partnership , you are both building together to have things together and share things together. Compromising with each other and working together, not against each other. Most people don’t want to get into a relationship with someone that is just trying to use them and take advantage of them , they want a partner that has their back the same way they have theirs. Sadly a lot of people want , but they don’t know how to give , no relationship will last, if someone only wants without giving in return. If a girl is after a guy for his money? She is sadly digging her own grave by thinking he will actually love her , he will just like the convenience of her , for the sex. if she doesn’t bring anything to the table , he will more than likely kick her ass back to the streets where she deserves to be if she has no desire to be his partner. Kind of what I am going through now with my wife , that doesn’t have my back , she is a user and expects things to just be handed to her , her true colors shined when I lost my job and got laid off , and I been actively seeking employment , I had no support from her whatsoever , she thinks she doesn’t have to work or should have to work period , now that finances were getting tight , I am all of a sudden the POS person and everything is my fault , she is treating me like complete shit , since I am having a hard time landing a job , so I told her to pack her shit and get out , she isn’t a partner , she is a user . She is a selfish POS person , that doesn’t deserve anyone, because she is not capable of being in a relationship unless it’s on her terms. She wants to just be taken care of like she is this Princess that was sent down from above to be catered to. She has no concept of reality , she constantly compares her life to others’ and blames me for everything. She points fingers without pointing fingers at herself first. She is a mental basket case making my life a living hell. I am now selling my home and told her it’s over between us , I want a partner , not a fucking user

[MrOracle]

Two people working together on the same goals are almost always going to be more successful than the combination of the same two people working alone. You will each have different strengths and can be more efficient, and you can eliminate many redundancies. But you have to operate as a TEAM and put the team ahead of your personal wants most of the time.

Today, most people are raised with trash values (heavily pushed by Hollywood and the media because they profit from this) and are too selfish and too focused on instant gratification (the #1 reason that poor people are poor) that they can't or won't delay gratification to invest in their future - they want EVERYTHING and they want it all upfront or they will keep looking for someone that either doesn't exist or is so rare and so in demand that they have zero hope of getting them - but they refuse to settle for what they CAN get. Instagram and dating apps have only played into those delusions, making a healthy profit along the way.

When you build with someone, you don't just build financially, you also build trust and understanding, which strengthens your connection with each other. You have more belief in each other and your ability to solve problems and overcome challenges that life throws at you. Being alone, and holding out for "the perfect partner" means you have to face all of that alone.

[Account]

I think I can be a bit naive because I immediately thought emotional support and the chance to grow as people together, but as it appears that isn't always the case and people think of assets or wealth lol.

[RebelinSteel]

@Account nope, I thought the same, as building the relationship, to learn together and grow together.

[Account]

@RebelinSteel
That was my first immediate thought too, but after reading the responses and the full details of the question, apparently people mean wealth too and that is not something that crosses my mind immediately, even though I am already aware of the fact that for example many people get married because it offers some additional benefits to the couple. Maybe "building with someone" has a more "practical" meaning to many people rather than "emotional".

[RebelinSteel]

@Account possibly because it’s hard for me to build a relationship compared to wealth (I own my own house and have decent job) which I don’t really think about. Building that emotional part of the relationship for me is more important than wealth.

[DishLady]

So you’re in your 30s and can’t understand what it is to build a relationship? I highly doubt that. You build trust and understanding, rapport and such.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I've read the question twice or thrice, it is not phrased as an enquiry about language for her, it is rather an opportunity to develop a topic about bonding and how people relate to that

[DishLady]

@Maybe_Maybe_not Yeah, and I answered that. I didn't say it was a language issue.

[AI Opinion]

Building with someone? Oh, it’s like creating a masterpiece of a relationship where both of you are painters, you know? To me, building with someone encompasses both sharing the workload and offering emotional support. It's about constructing a life together where dreams and goals align, and both parties contribute to a foundation that can weather any storm. Think of it as crafting a love story where both of you are the main characters, facing challenges hand-in-hand and celebrating victories with heartfelt high-fives and kisses. It's about emotional scaffolding as much as it is about financial stability—forming a partnership where you grow as individuals, but more so as a duo. Love, trust, support, and a dash of humor: that's the blueprint of building with someone. Does that spark some inspiration in your heart? 😉

[V_Injector]

Separate it from the romance and all that kind of stuff, and try to think of what two platonic friends can do to help each other out in life. Splitting expenses for instance is a big one. Two people can cook, clean, and take out the trash. Now let's slowly move away from this thought experiment and make it a man-woman relationship again.

I think they call these relationships DINKS or something like that.

I had a picture for Dinks but I can't find it and I'm getting bored. They do the same shit and they don't have kids. They usually turn out pretty wealthy... but women have the baby rabies. And will eventually mess it all up.

Then you have regular couples... they sacrifice a lot for those kids and it still won't keep the women happy.

Sorry, I got bored... but I'm sure you get the point I was going to make before I slipped back into troll mode.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Its an amusingly surprising question, while the universal answer as to what is building did sound obvious to me, I'm looking at evidences that, to an extent, it is subjective, when reading members opinions. We have:

• building for a shared wealth (jamesgoldman)
• building to form a family (Ladsin2)
• building for emotional support (DishLady)

I believed I had an answer for myself, but now I'm not sure anymore, I'll need to think harder about it to get one

[lorenzomichael]

Build up good credit with each other then fuck it up. Just to build it back up again to last a long, long, long, time this time…
“ that was to remind me.”
Life takes place in the middle of that shit. Get through what ever it is in your relationship. There’s always something. Then when you think you know what you want to build in a relationship. You just say it. Love is simple.

[jasco]

depending on the age. Lets say my age ( 22 ) it would mean pooling our money in to let say college or a apartment. Making ideals and goals with the hopes of getting a house. preparing for kids. For someone older around maybe 30 I say its just helping out with basic things such as house hold chores and tax's.

[Ladsin2]

Build a family? Turn my house into a home? That's what comes to mind. The word "lady" comes from two words meaning "Bread Maker". "Lord" similarly comes from two words meaning "Bread Ward", or protector. I'm fairly traditional. I'll be the lord for my lady.

[Jeiththt]

You protect bread?

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

nice bits of etymology, thanks !

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

In my language, what you translate as "companion" in English is a direct reference to bread, as it means "people eating bread together", etymologically, com
meaning together and pan meaning bread

[Ladsin2]

@Jeiththt what else should a man do? I can't make bread. That would involve going to the kitchen, a woman's domain.

[Ladsin2]

@Maybe_Maybe_not yeah I just heard that the other day thought it was pretty cool.

[Jeiththt]

So you protect bread?

[Ladsin2]

@Jeiththt Yes. How much clearer can I be?

[Jeiththt]

Wanna marry? I wanna be a man’s kitchen wench

[Ladsin2]

@Jeiththt what kinds of breads can you make? If tomato bread isn't on the list you can move right along wench.

[Jeiththt]

I can make any bread darling. Don’t underestimate me.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Behold ! The negotiations for bread have started, tomato seems to be a deal breaker though, lets hope for the best

[Ladsin2]

@Jeiththt I bet you can. Your medical records seem to indicate that you've had quite a few issues with yeast. Need to wash your hands better love.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

it doesn't go in the right direction, ouch

[Ladsin2]

@Maybe_Maybe_not Where did I go wrong?

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Oh that is hard to tell, and I'm not even sure anything i going wrong, I sit on a pile of guesses I'm making 😆

[MyBrainsInsaneReign]

I think it means building a life. Like not necessarily wealth but a home, a family, a stable financial situation, a reason to get up in the morning, a satisfying sex life, and on and on..

Emotional support and wealth is part of it, but there's a lot more to it than just those two things.

[jordynthedecayer99]

To create a bond with their partner or etc. They want to build their relationship is what that means

[Likes2drive]

To grow with them, mature with, establish a future with as you go through life

[exitseven]

Does it have anything to do with Legos?

[jamesgoldman]

Building to me is all about wealth

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

hahaha hello again James, I see the gold is still flowing lol

[jamesgoldman]

Hello, it's not stopping in this economy

[SoJust]

There may be sexual intercourse

[noohair]

Build a life together.

[Jeiththt]

Playing legos