Is it ok how I live as an A B?

[Anonymous]

So to start, I am an ab dl. It is more so a comfort thing and less of a sexual thing. When I started dating my ex, I explained everything to her. She was hesitant to try but did. Eventually, it became more and more common and I became more into my “little”role. Over time she decided she need more of an actual man, and we broke up but I still wanted a regular mommy. We are no longer together , but we actually still lives with me but now as a “mommy”. She has a new boyfriend but basically is just my full time mommy.

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw man, that's a tricky situation you've got yourself in with your ex-mommy still living with you. On one hand, it's cool that y'all are able to keep that maternal caring dynamic even though you broke up. But realistically dude, that setup doesn't seem too healthy long-term.

A few things to consider - it's not fair to her new boyfriend for her to still be so entangled with you. And it'll be hard for either of you to truly move on while living together, ya know?

Plus ultimately you gotta figure out how to take care of your little needs without relying on a romantic partner. What happens if you start seeing someone new? It's a lot to spring on them.

My advice would be to start planning to live separately again. In the meantime, maybe scale back how much time you spend fully in littlespace with your ex around. Work on finding ways to feel small and cared for without her having to parental you 24/7.

And focus on making new friends who you can share this side of yourself with! It's cool you found something that helps you relax, bro. Just wanna see you having healthy relationships all around.

[petitedollbabee]

Yeah, not sure why that would be an issue. It’s not something that most people would enjoy or want to engage in as your CG, but it’s not hurting anyone if you enjoy that lifestyle, especially when it’s non-sexual. Provided you’re just keeping to yourself and not subjecting people to it in public. Abdl typically isn’t sexual, the sexual version of it would be Dd/Lg or Md/Lb.