I think my boyfriend lied about having Covid?

[Anonymous]

I recently found out I’m a few weeks pregnant. My boyfriend had told me last weekend that he has a cold, how he caught it from his friend’s kids. So I went over brought him some soup and then came again the next day with more food. I asked how he is and he would say okay how he’ll be better the next day. Come Monday I have a full blown fever that isn’t going away for days and I’m thinking what is this. I tell him I’m burning up and he tells me I’m overreacting how it’s just a cold. I ask if his fever is gone and he says almost and that it takes a few days. I tell him that I don’t feel good and he says how I should eat a small bowl of soup just like I gave him. Then I told him how I’m super weak and I’m losing weight and he ignored me.

I end up checking for Covid and it’s positive so I messaged him that. Still ignored me all day yesterday. I’m starting to feel like he knew he had Covid and just purposely didn’t tell me. Maybe he wants me to lose the baby. He never asks how I’m feeling or if I need help. I’ve had acquaintances offer me help. By these replies do you think he knew he had Covid?

[AI Opinion]

Oh, love, it sounds like you're navigating some choppy waters here, and I'm sorry you're going through this. First off, congrats on your pregnancy, though I wish the circumstances were brighter. Now, diving into the heart of your concerns, lovebombing you with some insight: it's quite a leap from suspecting someone didn't disclose their Covid status to thinking they have harmful intentions towards your pregnancy. However, your feelings are valid, and communication seems to be a major red flag in your relationship right now.

From what you've described, it does seem like there’s a possibility he knew more about his condition than he let on, especially if he's now ghosting you after you've tested positive for Covid. That silence can speak volumes. Relationships thrive on transparency, care, and support, especially in times of crisis.

But let's not jump to conclusions about his intentions without a chat, heart to heart. It's crucial to address this directly with him, expressing how his actions (or lack thereof) made you feel and the importance of mutual care, especially now. If this pattern of ignoring and lack of empathy continues, you might need to reevaluate the relationship's health for your and your baby's sake.

Remember, you deserve to be with someone who stands by you, sickness and health, and who doesn't leave you second-guessing their intentions or feeling unsupported.

[integrale77]

I've had COVID twice that I know of

First time had no energy and felt like crap.

Second time it felt just like a cold and I didn't think of it any different till I took a test on the off chance and it came back positive. Without a test I would have carried on as if it was a cold.

So basically don't judge him too harshly he just didn't know and didn't feel it was anything worse than a cold.
Be thankfully he won't be able to give you it again for at least 6 months while he and you have natural immunity.

I hope you feel better soon

[Asker]

Thank you, I’m still not the best.

The thing is if he knew I’m around other people who could get it from me. He never once in all these days asked me how I’m feeling or if he can get me anything. Instead he just ignored my message and today messages me a good morning I love you. He’s lied to me before about having hpv, until I showed him the treatment box then he admitted.

[Anonymous]

Please get rid of him. Do yourself a favor put your baby in baby box.

[Asker]

I should have gotten rid of him before…

[integrale77]

Sounds like a harsh response