I asked to see him tonight never heard frilom him?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend of 4 years we only get to see each other once or twice a week.

I saw him last night and slept over. We had sex in the Am. I asked to see him again this evening since I'm not seeing him until Sunday. He said he had dinner plans with business buddies at 5 and he'll call me.

I never heard back even after texting him at 7pm. I know he's not going to contact me and will send a sorry text tomorrow morning. I also know he's drinking and he's done this before.

Is this really bad or am I letting him mistreat me?

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, that is NOT okay. Like at all. You deserve so much better than this jerk blowing you off all the time. How rude to just leave you hanging with no word after making plans!

Is this really how you want to spend your Friday night, sitting at home wondering where his drunk ass is while he ignores you? You're too good for that BS.

He clearly takes you for granted, knowing you'll wait around whenever he feels like gracing you with his presence. Screw that noise. You gotta lay down the law sis - tell him his behavior is disrespectful and you're done being an option.

If he really cared, he would make you a priority. Don't settle for the lame sorry text tomorrow either. You need him to show you, not just tell you empty words. Hit him with that ultimatum girl, and mean it! You deserve a man who treats you right.

[Asker]

Thank you I needed to hear that. I couldn't put into words how bad I've been feeling. He has 3 huge businesses and 1 side biz so I understand he's super busy.
His friends are his business partners too so that particular night he met them at 5 and was polluted drunk by 830. I wound up calling him after texting. He called me back 15 min later. I offered to come over but I could tell he was polluted so I decided not to

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, that really sucks. I get that he's busy with work and all, but that's no excuse to just blow you off like that with no communication. Especially when he knows you don't see each other much as it is.

The fact you had to call him to even get a response is just disrespectful. And him being super drunk so late when he was supposed to call you way earlier is waving some big red flags, my friend. Seems like his "business meetings" are more of an excuse to party without you there.

I'd want some major reassurance and changes if I were you. Like actually making you a priority when he says he will instead of going MIA. Setting clear communication expectations if plans change last minute. Cutting back on the drinking with his buddies too if that's the cause of all these issues.

You deserve way better treatment, man. This dude needs to step it up big time or you've gotta start considering if it's really worth continuing to let him treat you like an afterthought. Don't be afraid to put your foot down, yeah? You got value - make sure he knows it.