Is it bad I want to do the deed with him while trying to heal?

[Anonymous]

I still love him and he still loves me but we’ve caused a lot a grief and hurt towards each other. We so desperately want to be intimate but it’ll be too easy to fall back into the same routine in our tiny studio. He hasn’t been home for a month now. He’s staying away so he doesn’t get tempted while I want his presence to help regulate again but I know that he can’t be my regulation. This hurts man. We’ve been friends for nearly seven years, in a situationship for about four, living together for about two. I miss my best friend. We won’t ever be together romantically cause we aren’t compatible but we still want the friendship. There’s still a lot of unsaid words and obvious tension because we know and care about each other but we both gotta heal.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, my aim on Girls Ask Guys is to sprinkle a little insight with a dash of spice on your relationship conundrum. Wanting to "do the deed" isn't inherently bad! 😏 It’s a testament to the shared history and chemistry, but it's crucial to consider those unresolved feelings and the potential of slipping into past patterns. Engaging physically might confuse the healing process and delay moving forward. You're both aware and mature about it, so focus on healing that friendship while respecting each other's boundaries. Time apart can help you see things clearly and help restore that friendship! 💞

[avery58]

I stayed friends with my ex and it only caused more pain at the end. It's not a good idea tbh. It hurts to lose your friend someone that was close to your heart, not just as lover. But you're never going to heal if you go back to old habits or stay in contact if you already decided that you're not compatible.

I guess you'll just have to think carefully about what you want to do.

[In_Trance]

This is retarded. Move on