How did you get over your first real love?

[Simslover92]

[Lliam]

I didn't.

I had long-term, steady girlfriends from the time I was 16. We were infatuated but my infatuation eventually wore off and I moved on even though I still liked them. They were good people. I just realized that I didn't want to spend the rest of my life with them. Plus, I wasn't ready for marriage.

When I was 36, I met a lady named Petra who turned out to be 30. We wound up living together for almost 2 years. For the first time in my life I fell truly in love. I adored everything about her, including her voice, mannerisms, personality and values. Physically, she was my ideal. Sexually, she was beyond compare.
She loved me, too.

But as it turned out, we could not be life-long partners. It's too complicated to explain why.

We wound up separating. Being away from her almost killed me. I have never felt such pain in my life. It took me over a year to pull myself together and move on with life.

I didn't get over her. I just had to resign myself to being without her.

I met my future wife two years after Petra and I separated and married her two years later. We have been happily married now for 28 years, had a LOT of fun, and built a wonderful life together. She is my inspiration. I love her deeply and wouldn't trade her for the world.

But I still love Petra, too. Even though we were not meant to spend our lives together, I will always love her and will never forget her. I can't help thinking about her often. Not fantasizing. Just the feeling of deep love, caring, admiration and gratitude.

She found me on Facebook 18 years after we separated. We even spoke on the phone a few times. She was living out of state. I was overjoyed to hear her voice and to know that she was doing well.

Five years later, I read that she had died from a sudden medical problem at the age of 55. I was devastated. It left a hole in my heart that will never heal. She was a remarkable lady, so incredibly bright, wise, courageous, tender and vulnerable. She never got to fulfill her dreams.

Now, she is just a treasured memory.

I wouldn't have thought it possible to love two women at the same time. But I love one woman who is gone and one who is real. Those feelings don't compete. I don't love either less. They both burn brightly in my heart.

I guess I've been a lucky guy to have bonded with two such extraordinary women and to have such cherished memories.

[PeterLegg91]

Wasn't easy but I slowly got over it , as they say times a great healer

[avery58]

Well my "first love" is different from my first real love because looking back I've only truly loved one guy and I still have feelings for him tbh.

The other guy whom I thought was my first love at the time, I got over him with time. That was a long time ago and I barely remember him now.

[jojouzumaki]

It took me 5yrs scrutinizing myself carefully. Accepting that there are things that’s beyond of my control. Understanding that I am only in control of what I can change.

[AI Opinion]

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[Finchie40]

Just learned to accept it for what is was and realized I can’t force someone to love me or stay with me , , I can only choose her the same way I hope she is choosing me , if she isn’t choosing me , I am not going to continue choosing her , Sadly pretty
Much every single one of us as selfishness inside of ourselves , if we can’t remove that selfishness for someone we want to be closer to , they won’t remove their selfishness for you. Love only grows when 2 people choose each other no matter what , you and your partner should be each others’ top priority over everyone else in this world , if you don’t feel that with your partner , and you feel like a convenience,? you are more than likely going to treat them as one as well. So if someone chooses to walk away from you , you should accept the fact they no longer want to be with you , yes it hurts and yes you can try to stop them from leaving you , but you can’t force them no to. So whenever you get into a relationship with someone , choose them the same way you want them choosing you , that’s all we can do , someone that truly loves you and cares about you will not walk to the other way , they will stay and fix whatever is broken between you both , if nothing changes , they will walk away and accept the fact that you truly don’t love them , you just liked the convenience of them. I am going through this now with my soon to be ex wife. That decided to no longer choose me anymore , she chooses everyone else but me and started treating me like a convenience, so I started treated her like one as well. I’ve accepted the fact I am no longer her priority and realized I deserve better than this shit

[V_Injector]

I started banging new pussy.

I threw the idea of a "relationship" away completely for many years because I was living where hookers were legal. I forgot about my ex real fast when I was banging AT LEAST 3 new girls every night before I went to bed. I was getting paid major bank too and they were cheap. About $30 for a suck and fuck. Very affordable, and even more affordable if you consider the hell men go through mentally and financially with regular relationships.

The American government came in though and it got shut down under the pretense of human trafficking. ... I re-entered the world of "relationships" and kept about 4 to 5 girlfriends at any one time so that I could nutt all the time even when I piss one of them off.

Bottom line is once I had tons of options, I couldn't give a shit less about a fish or two that got away. That first real "love" is now nothing but another face with a name I can't remember. ... Then I came back the the United States and these women are sluts... they hate men... and they're all grumpy and fat. They're the ones with all the options and they don't give a fuck about anyone more than a supersized meal.

I'm not joking, they're sluts... at least whores get paid

[Vesuvius87]

Blocking him on all social medias (permanent NC), stepping out more often and talking to others on FB until meeting my now husband.

[AviatorTom]

Your first love will always be remembered... after you move on to your second, third and next loves.

[WhiteSteve]

Just kinda ate it, no condiments. It was a high school thing that ran too long into young adulthood. I think we were both a bridge to a better place for one another, but not together. So it was sad to see it end, and at some point when you’re that young you think it’s unquestionably forever. But I think we both knew we wanted different things out of life, and those paths had to diverge, or one of us would’ve been unhappy and probably resentful.

I guess I just got through it like any other young man does👉👌😂 I had like six months where I just got my mind and body right (lost my relationship weight lmao), then I got into my tomcatting era, haha. I just did that for most of my early and mid-20s, had some good experiences for the mental scrapbook, and then I sold out for good gal and have been tethered to her for 17 years now, so it all worked out in the end.

Not sure where my ex-girl is at now, heard from her via MySpace like 15 years ago, lmao. She was married with a kid already, which was always her gameplan, so I’m happy for her. She might be a grandma by now, who knows?😂 I think her kid would be in his 20s…. thats WILD, doesn’t feel like that long ago at all. And I’m out here living like I’M in my 20s, which is all I want, lmao. So it was for the best😝

[Purpleronnie]

I don’t think I ever truly have. I believe something was broken within me when that relationship ended and it fundamentally changed the person I allow myself to be in relationships. Try as I have over the years I have never been able to truly trust the love I have been shown since.


It highly likely the childhood or upbringing I had played a bigger part , being consistently let down and abused by those who claimed to love me so perhaps truer that in the end my first love ending as it did was the straw that broke the camels back.


What I know for sure is that no amount of love is worth the pain and despair I felt.

[Danny_dan92]

In retrospect my first one was a walk in the park compared to my last one.




Nonetheless it still stung.




Due to being a virgin to the concept of heartbreak it hurt like hell. Especially cause she left me (granted it was kind of warranted) I got blindsided by it.




It hurt for a few months. Like 6 months. As time passed and me simply living my life the pain faded away.




I did things I enjoyed doing and when I felt ready I started sleeping around. (This is the time when I first became what women know as a “player” I was having constant hookups with no commitments)

[FreyaRed]

The love died few months before it was over and I knew he can't resist to get in a trap I have setup for him, so I get the pretext to get rid of him. Of course I could cheat or just dump him but I would betray myself or it would be difficult to gain distance since we had same circle of friends.
Well, I exploited my intelligence and his weakness for money to play the heavy ball of responsibility in his hands. Since he played handball he should be accustomed with that.

[NathanDavis]

I didn't really had to "get over it"

we just completed that cycle, which also happened when young, so we could call it that... young love, high-school romance, which is not less significant at all, in fact, it also gave me a friend for life... as she is one of best and closest friends today

so, rather than "get over it" those feelings just "evolved" and adjusted to a great friendship, lol

[exitseven]

@Simslover92 The truth is that I never came back all the way. I still have unresolved feeling s all these years later. I know that i ended up with the right person but still I wish i could have really ended the relationship in a different way.

[ArrowheadSW]

Our relationship had run its course and it was just time to move on. It really wasn't anything that I needed to get over.

[abc3643]

You get your second love of equal greatness. That's all there is to it.

Of course, easier said than done.

[Anonymous]

Had to come to terms with the fact she’s only into women
We’re still friends and I have been able to be with other women but she still holds a dear place in my heart

[AmeerX]

Took me 6 months and bad health to let her go 😅.
I think love is overrated and people should focus on other things. Don't love a person More Than God.

[Redstang88]

I’ll let you know if I ever do. If you truly love I don’t think you ever get over it, you just learn to get on with your life anyway

[FlorinParaschis]

It is hard in the first days, but you have to maintain your mind occupied with other things and you will succeed. And when you get 100% over is when you meet another person that you see and feel that is better for you.

[Bẽllã3]

I got myself busy busy, surrounded myself with people who care about me, and because my break up with him wasn’t a crazy one.

[justagirl9905]

It became easy once I realized he was a complete narcissist and manipulator that kept me imprisoned in the home for about 10 years 😌 now that I’m out in sooo free and happy

[KittygosMeoWW]

kept going back till it was disgusting and toxic

[12karen]

not the easiest things ever, it took me few years

[SunnyRS]

I never did.
She is still there somewhere in my mind and heart but with time it was easier to look for myself instead for looking for inside me.

[Likes2drive]

Time, it takes a long time to get over the feelings you had

[Squatting_Slav]

I never really have to be honest I think it still lingers with me

[TonyMetal___86]

Until i found the girl who made me forget about her back then

[Luckycharms12]

took a few years to do mee and meet someone else better even

[Cheerfull009]

How many real loves are there? tell me for my knowledge

[Nikki1989]

Easy. I met someone else.

[Bricealan]

I never did... I still think about her.

[bowenw]

Time and someone else coming along.

[DJB72]

I don't think I ever really did

[itsgonnabemee]

I’ve never been in love

[Darkest-Knight]

nothing to get over... she was crazy.

[msc545]

Grief and time and another woman.

[ManInChains]

Same here. That next one wasn't any better because she also cheated. So did the one after that. 🤷🏻‍♂️

[msc545]

@ManInChains Pretty much they all do that. We lie to ourselves when we think they won't.

[DoctorPlague]

Do you ever really get over them?

[EmreXxX]

When I find i want to write here :(

[Jpie555]

With great difficulty, tears and sadness

[eagle1951]

found someone else

[DrPepper12]

OMG. Ummmm... Started fucking her BFF

[BarryLiverstone]

Time

[Anonymous]

Never did

[Deserter2]

Time