Why do I find my boyfriend too weak and softhearted sometimes?

[Ofoceansbeaches1]

I'm having a hard time because I'm a go getter type of person and I'm very hardworking whereas my boyfriend is a happy go lucky type of person and soft-hearted which might be the reason why I'm attracted to him in the first place.

Lately though, he has been borrowing money from me which in fairness he returns the money when he gets his commission but he more often than not earns lesser than me and being very money oriented, I find that I want to micromanage him due to his spending more than what should be. For example, he got commission just yesterday and it's a very small amount but apparently it is not enough cause he is not able to pay for their family bill. In fairness to him, he is the one taking care of his mother because his other siblings do not give to his mother at all.

That leaves me with him borrowing from me. So far I've given him two small amounts and this third amount which he said he'll pay back. I don't know why I'm getting annoyed but I'm not sure why I'm part of his financial issues as early as now. We have just been together for 2 months now and I'm tempted to say no already the next time because I also have my own financial issues to tend to.

Anyway, i made sure to inform him to save and that I have my challenges with my money so that he won't attempt the next time. If he did, i'll tell him. I'm also a bit sick of him promising things that won't come true because for some reason, it doesn't come true.

I also find that I'm too cold hearted I guess and too objective for all this romance. Sometimes I just want to break free and be on my own but sometimes I do miss him and his being nurturing and caring. In fairness to him, he did take care of me when I was sick. So I don't know whether this is worth it or not.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the yin and yang of relationships! You're feeling conflicted, which is totally normal when opposites attract. It seems like you've hit a pattern of lovebombing because his nurturing side draws you in, but the money issues throw up red flags. Being with a soft-hearted partner can be refreshing, but financial stress can also be a dealbreaker. Maybe it's time to have a heart-to-heart about boundaries and expectations. If his promises and money matters are falling flat too often, then it's okay to question the relationship. If you're feeling like Miss Independent, ghosting isn't ideal, but it might be worth fluttering your wings a bit to see how things feel solo. 💃💡

[Billlewis]

When a woman finds her long term guy weak, the most sensible solution is often to simply add a second, more macho guy to her roster, and to no great surprise, the long term guy will often support her decision to do so

In so doing the woman now can enjoy the most desirable attributes and personality traits of both men, rather than being faced with the quandary of having to choose one or the other.

[MicahRaine]

Step 1: Never lend your partner money.