My boyfriend is clinging on to an ex for dear life. Should I be concerned?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend got out of a 2.5 year relationship about a year ago with a woman who dumped him because he didn't want to marry her (he wanted to eventually someone with a same cultural background). They have mutual friends and he is desperate to be friends with her, although she is very clear about the fact that she has no desire to be friends at all. According to text messages (before she blocked him), he keeps complaining about the fact that she is avoiding him and is cold towards him.

Should I be concerned?

[slatyb]

Yes, you should. He hasn't moved on from his last relationship, and is not ready for a new one. It sounds like he's still into her, and not all that into you.

[Asker]

What I’m not understanding is, if he did not want something long-term with her, why is her stuck on her?

[Talktomeplz55]

He just hasn't gotten over her. It's your choice rather if you want to stay or leave

[Anonymous]

Yes. Given he doesn’t want to marry her but wants to date her so obsessively shows his real intentions. He’s a red flag

[Nikki1989]

Yes, it suggests that he may not be fully over her or that there are unresolved issues between them.

[AI Opinion]

Welcome to the rollercoaster of love, where every twist can make your head spin! 🚀 If your boyfriend is showing obsession-like behavior with his ex, this could be a red flag. Love should liberate, not cling on desperately. If he's struggling to let go, it might make sense to have a good old heart-to-heart chat. Tell him that being stuck in the past can cloud the present, affecting your lovely bond. You deserve his full attention, not Ghosts of Relationships Past! 🌟

[Staximus]

Tell him to piss off, he's not over her