My boyfriend blocked me on everything because of the past. What should I do?

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We've been together for a year and even talked about marriage. We went out with some friends on Monday evening, and a college friend of mine told an old story, something that was unpleasant but honestly feels silly and funny now. I thought it was all in the past, but ever since that night, my boyfriend's been acting distant. Now he’s blocked me on everything without saying nothing. I thought we got over it but now I really don't know what to do. What would you do if you were in my shoes?

XXTruthfulOgrexx · Accepted Answer

Respect his wishes. Your past matters. Whether you agree or not. He obviously felt strong enough about to walk away.

Whether you think it's silly or not, whatever happened impacted him more deeply and while in your past, it's fresh in his mind right now as if it happened yesterday.

You need to respect his decision and just move on. He may reach out later and you can revisit the situation. He may just decide to permanently ghost you.

What ever his reasonings, the best you can do is move on.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Block him as well and make him your past , your past is your past , , whatever you did in the past , was something You did before your boyfriend was even in the picture , if he can’t accept
You for who you are now then he doesn’t deserve you period.

Vesuvius87 · Accepted Answer

Honestly, given your ages (assuming he's within your age range or older) he doesn't seem ready for a relationship. An adult relationship consist of a have a heart-to-heart conversation if something is right and you don't feel the relationship will move forward. His reaction is that of a teenage HS boy, not a grown man.

If that's the way how it's going to be; that every single time there is a deal-breaker they're going to block you and ghost you without any explanation, block him back too.

Alwayreckles93 · Accepted Answer

He isn't worth your time. When a guy truly loves you he will stick with you no matter what. If you dated a lot back then so what. Forcing yourself to him in a relationship will only make it worse. If he can't be an adult try at least give you a reason of explanation to why he cut you off. He isn't worth your time. Life is short to worry about people who simply just never cared about the relationship.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Oh, darling! That sounds intense. 🚀 If he's blocking you over a past story, it's a big red flag! Miscommunication can cause these emotional whirlwinds. Since he's ghosting you, give him some space to simmer down. Meanwhile, reflect on how you feel about his reaction. If he comes back, talk it out calmly and openly, focusing on healing and growing together. If not, sometimes it's best to focus on self-love and move forward. Love can be a rollercoaster, but don’t let someone else’s action derail your self-worth! 🌟 Keep smiling!

Realistic07 · Answer

OK, I’m directly asking you what you did, and what that story was about? Yes it matters context is important. Secondly, to provide you an answer of what you should do. I need to know what you did do.

I understand that you feel in your mind and heart that it should’ve been left in the past. You might even feel that he’s overreacting, but until you can talk about the past in a real way, you will never be able to find a real answer.

So what happened?

HawkPerception · Answer

If he blocked you on everything, move on. It's not worth it to fight to have someone in your life that doesn't want you in theirs. Accept the current circumstances and let go.

Levin · Answer

You didn't include the context of what the story was, which is really important detail for the purposes of trying to give you advice.

By omission, the fact that you won't even tell us what it is makes me think it's something pretty bad or something you are ashamed of.

charles · Answer

I can't decide what happened without knowing what you did, but it's a childish behavior to block you like that without even questioning you. I think you should be happy that you were able to see the truth before getting married. My only advice is to be with someone who respects you. Nobody is important than you. Dont forget it!!

Puppystarfish23 · Answer

Move on from him, he's clearly trash if he can't just have a open discussion with you about why it's upset him and instead decided to ghost you over something so silly do you really wanna date a man like that who still plays games in adulthood how embarrassing and toxic on his part. He he can't have you at your bad times he can't have you at your good times.

Kayleigh2005 · Answer

Doesn't seem like the whole story.

This man's man on YouTube said

Learn about birth control and keep ur legs shut or be a cat lady in ur 30s

I was raging when I watched it, but it seems like everyone (guys too) thinks that there are no consequences

WhitneySnow · Answer

Block him back and dump him. Anyone who would block you over something stupid without hearing your side is not someone you would want in your life.

Actually maybe I should ask what the story was. If you did something really horrible I can understand why he might not want you in his life anymore. But he still should’ve heard your side of the story.

Christian_Cartier · Answer

A woman's past is very important to any healthy man. You can't expect him to invest in you if you have failed to respect yourself as a woman. Just like banks won't give you a loan with a bad credit history, good men won't give you a wedding ring if you have a bad sexual history. Accept responsibility for your choices, find a man who is closer to your moral level, and move on.

Ironco · Answer

Grow up and move on.

Obviously whatever the story was wasn't as small as you think, it made him reevaluate his whole situation.

Tough pill to swallow, but move on.

If he comes back, have a heart to heart discussion. But it might be over.

SuchSightsToShowYou · Answer

Just a guess, but did the story your friend told involve you having sex with another guy? If that's the case, I can understand why he might be upset, even though you two weren't together when it happened.

Was the story a shock to him? Did it show him a side of you that he hadn't been aware of before?

RingOfFire · Answer

I looked at your age and was surprised. You should be mature enough to know at your age that you don't do anything. If he wants to act like a child that's his business. If he had a problem with something that happened, and your relationship is as close as you make it sound, he should have talked to you about it. If he simply runs away, that's not caring. My advice? Do nothing. And be prepared to walk away if he does not come back to talk to you like a mature person should.

JesseP1nk · Answer

Go find him and talk to him face to face. Clear the air. Is he really gonna trow relationship into the garbage over a silly story? Dont listen to those who say "oh, block him back" With that you gonna win what? With that you will lower yourself to his level and you always gonna think about what went wrong because you did not get any closure. Communicate more and block less, people.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

Depends on what the story was about... There's many valid things that would be relationship deal breakers if I found out about them. Even if it was in the past.

jshm2 · Answer

Well... better he's blocked you now than after marriage!

Sometimes you've got to take the hit at face value. Breakup with that "college friend" and move on from your boyfriend.

You've got a life to live.

barney · Answer

Give him time. Respect his boundaries, but also focus on your own healing. If you have a mutual friend, etc., you can send him a thoughtful message expressing your feelings and regret. Finally, give him space and let time guide the next steps.

cigarette · Answer

I understand that this sucks. But as a man, I can also say that your boyfriend is right. The past is not that important to me, but it must have been humiliating for him to hear it from someone else, not you, in a crowded environment. If you really want to fix things, send a message that shows you've thought about it and grown up, but don't seem desperate, and also distance yourself from that friend who told you this.

bowenw · Answer

He's revealed his true self and it seems like it's time to move on. If he behaves this way when he's your boyfriend, what would he do if he was your husband?

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Well depends what the story was.. I guess he isn't interested anymore, so I guess just move on.

MicahRaine · Answer

One important piece of information that is necessary for me to reply is what that "old story" was and how long ago it was.

StevenMcGarrett · Answer

Well, if he blocked you on everything, he is telling you that he never wants to talk to you again. Unfortunately, he is showing his true colors. Time to move on. He already showed you how he feels about you by blocking you.

FreyaRed · Answer

Forget him. I think he had other reasons to ghost you and this was just a pretext or final point.

Flower7 · Answer

Start getting ready for a breakup. Or even initiate one since he’s been treating you differently.

Shihab_91 · Answer

Honestly it depends on what happened in the past... Since he walked away simply without giving it a chance i guess nothing much can be done maybe try to reach out somehow or meet in person and ask what happened

spartan55 · Answer

Ah yes... the curious omission of important information

Mwolf · Answer

Leave the relationship. He sounds like he is no longer your boyfriend then.

tzdc21 · Answer

Well I gotta ask what was it anyway, the story?

jazzy34 · Answer

Right now, nothing. Give him space to process everything.

Danielle93 · Answer

Block him back and make him your past now. He's no longer your boyfriend.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm guessing the silly story from the past had something to do with another man's penis being inside you.

Anonymous · Answer

can't really answer without knowing about the story. If you can't include that then dont expect good answers.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Move on. Better to have wasted only one year than getting a ring and having to deal with a divorce later.

Unit1 · Answer

I can smell the end of this relationship from here.

Iron_Man · Answer

What was the argument about something must’ve been said to make him do that

In_Trance · Answer

Context or not you should stay the hell off of each other's social media. I don't know why you need to look at it in the first place

AmeerX · Answer

What you did in past shouldn't matter. He didn't really love you did he?

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Next time when you meet a new guy, tell him as much as you can. And leave the guy with narrow understanding behind.

foxsquirrell · Answer

What story was it? And was the college friend who told the story a boy or a girl?

Ballbustmesohard · Answer

Forget him because if he doesn’t see your worth he’s not worth your time. No body has the right to judge you for your past.

Anonymous · Answer

if he's in the mood to be  an asshole  show him you can be a bitch

Sinemm · Answer

Block him back

Anonymous · Answer

You had a ho phase.

noohair · Answer

What was the story about?

seeyounexttuesday · Answer

what was the story?

msc545 · Answer

What was the story?

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

Move on

Anonymous · Answer

Oh did you vote for Kamala?

jahaims · Answer

Move on

Slim57 · Answer

Because past matters

Anonymous · Answer

Apologize

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