Why do guys stop giving flowers to their girlfriends?

Question

My now boyfriend used to give me flowers when we were in the talking stage and now we have been going out officially a year in Feb. It's been a few months now and he stopped giving me flowers, he used to give them to me every like 2 weeks so why do guys stop?

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

The moment I read this something flashed in my mind

You ever seen a kid getting yelled at by their parents can't t seem to do anything right

And the minute that they escape and start playing with their friends they are laughing and giggling and acting silly and being free

Then a few hours later you hear one of the parents yell the kids name and everything stops right there the kid walks home slow and you hear the verbal why didn't you do this why didn't you do that blah blah blah

I think in the beginning of the relationship you like that kid with all their friends there's no stopping you you're happy you're free you're exploring new things and is in time
Things start to change you don't communicate as much the newness of the fun has slowed way down because you're caught up in the grind of going to work paying the bills you're like a little robot and you forget about what makes you happy

No I don't know why that flash do my mind but I do know one thing.
All it takes is a spark whether it comes from you or from him
All it takes is a moment a joke laughter happiness a smile

It takes two to play otherwise you play very quietly.
Write him a poem about the beginning of your relationship

Tell him what you miss what you like what you need
Go for a walk find some flowers
Bring them home put them in a vase
And when he gets home be all dressed up in something hot.
Jump into his arms. Kiss him and say thank you
He say for what and tell him the flowers

He will tell you they're not from him

You will tell him yes they are

Then tell him you know how busy he's been. .
And tired... And you miss those days that he would bring you little things..

Do you decided to help him out and get them for you to bring back the memories of the beginning.

And then tell him you want a date night once a week once every two weeks whatever it doesn't matter what you do as long as you do something together
The first week he gets to pick the next week you get to pick.

In a relationship things can almost come to a stop if you don't keep things fresh alive spontaneous different new you have to grow together explore experience things all the time that's what makes him remember to bring you home flowers you have to be able to laugh and do stupid things together and it doesn't matter really what it is.

But it's just like that kid the parents call they get your butt home and they shut down because it's boring they still love their parents but the parents are just no fun they have to be a different type of person when they're together
Kid really doesn't have a choice but you guys do you guys make your own rules

So the moment he gets in bed tonight you going to the bathroom put on your make shift tag team wrestling costume that you just made out of everything with the mask on run in and jump on him and tag team wrestle LOL.
What was the question again oh yeah because they're caught up in a grind of nothing that's why you need to open that door again and laugh have some fun smile tag team wrestle

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

Women tend to be an empty void that just endlessly takes and consumes with little or no return in the investments. They might seem special at first because they have titties and a vagina, but the man is going to realize eventually... that's probably the only perk and that's going to get old eventually.

It's not always like that, but it's almost always like that.

Personally I view women as a creature that needs to be trained, told what to do, and then used for what they're good for. If I don't and I just treat them special for titties and vagania... they're not going to have much long-term use. And that's the mistake I think this guy made...

Allow me to elaborate... his first mistake was rewarding you for just showing up. This is like giving a dog treats without making him sit first... nothing is learned. Even my fucking cats do tricks for treats and you know what the rappers say about bitches... ain't shit but hoes'n'tricks.

The same works for you by the way, you didn't train him to keep going by rewarding his behavior. I'm pretty sure if giving you flowers equaled a world championship blow job, I'd buy you flowers all the damn time and it would only stop when I have a urinary tract infection (don't ask, because it involves poop and me doing girls in the butt).

Why do guys stop giving flowers to their girlfriends?

So with all that said, you both sound like some fucking noobs. Do better. Like choose which behavior you're going to reward. Flowers are fucking lame and they end up being something that just gets crap all over the place and then you throw them away... don't reward him giving you flowers. If I was a chick, I'd made sure he watches as I throw the flowers in the trash and then say "Thanks for the flowers, but flowers are fucking lame." I mean that's a conversation starter at least. If not one of the best shit tests I can think of to see if he's a fucking emotional pussy that won't even beat the shit out of other men for me.

I'm going to end it there and I hope you study on how to train animals to do tricks, because it will help your relationships in the long run. xoxoxo

Account · Accepted Answer

Because people get comfortable and no longer feel like trying and they start taking the other person for granted. That happens without them consciously realizing it.

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

Flowers are a waste of money. Unless they're hand picked from nature or something then I don't enjoy them

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

My aim here on Girls Ask Guys is to sprinkle a bit of spicy relationship wisdom your way! 🌹 Ah, the classic flower dilemma! It's not unusual for guys to start strong and then cool it off - it doesn't mean he's stopped caring. The initial lovebombing phase is often all about those grand romantic gestures. As relationships settle, it's more about stability and comfort. Maybe hint at how you miss them, or surprise him back to rekindle that spark! 💐❤️

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strateguy632 · Answer

Because flowers are for courting and courting ended long ago.

I recall one girl, i asked which color flower she liked?

She angrily said, don't spend money on that nobody needs that.

A couple weeks later, at a social mix people asked how long hav you been together?

She said, "a month n he dtill has not given flowers even once"

I was shocked for a moment at her reversal but quickly fired back "something about me is way better than flowers"

A second gal i surprised with flowers she replied to me "don't you know flowers whither in a week".

I said yes, put it in water and enjoy until then.

She argued "that is stupid to give me flowers that whither i gave you shirts! "

She had! So men learn not to give flowers.

MrOracle · Answer

The most common reason? Because it so often becomes less appreciated and more EXPECTED over time. You (any woman, not necessarily the Asker) can't expect a guy to keep doing things to make you feel special and valued if you don't make him feel special and valued in return.

Cost is another issue for many. With massive inflation, low wages, and high unemployment, it can be difficult for many to afford this. If he has to choose between food, or a necessary oil change for the car, and flowers, the flowers are going to be lower priority.

Both of you will get out what you put into the relationship. No one should be keeping score down to the penny or anything, but, generally, you have to respect and appreciate each other. If that drops off on one side, it will drop off on the other side too.

Anonymous · Answer

It is not uncommon for both parties to try very hard at the start of a relationship. They are building something from nothing. But it's unsustainable in the longer term at that level, the relationship has to mature, and both be accepted for who they really are as those features reassert themselves.
Some guys love buying the flowers and being romantic year after year, others do other stuff.
However, if he knows it's important to you, maybe he'll want to do it more, or maybe it just has little meaning to him.

Emmytexrex · Answer

He was trying to be nice for you to like him and it worked so two you became official and he stopped

Cutegirl06 · Answer

I've been with my boyfriend since I was 16 and he still sends me flowers a couple of times a month.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

Maybe he just doesn't have the money? You might not always get flowers from your boyfriend each time you see him, that's normal.

Anonymous · Answer

It has to do with the selection process by which men and women choose and interact with thier partners. It's because men's selection process is opposite of women's.

I could answer your question but if you thought about how you chose you're boyfriend the answer would be obvious.

Guys are confused by the way Women do things. But if Guys thought about a woman's selection process it would be pretty clear why women act the way they do.

HighValue · Answer

What exactly have you done for him in that same time?  Or are you like mlst women that take/expect things and do nothing comparable in return?

genericname85 · Answer

cause I don't know if you noticed but women have spent the better part of the last decade completely bashing the male role model. so no surprise you're not getting what you could expect in the past xD

GoodManDave · Answer

1) Flowers can get expensive. 2) I am REALLY allergic and have problems with the smell. It can get dirt all over, it usually dies soon...

Unit1 · Answer

Tell him that, duh. It also could be, that flowers cost as much as food these days and we're presented a financially mutually exclusive choice

dragoblack · Answer

Have you seen the price for flower bouquets? That shit is expensive and everyone is financially struggling... also it's expected which means the gesture doesn't mean anything anymore. As some women say "it's bare minimum expectations"

lightbulb27 · Answer

wife likes flowers but makes her sneeze and allergies, so I stopped. Will get occasionally...

ProbablyClueless · Answer

If you want the sweet things, and the courting to remain in your relationship, you have to be giving him the same flirty energy.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Because women usually put in such minimal effort that a guy begins to feel like a simp for doing things like bringing flowers.

paledreams · Answer

My girlfriend and I wouldn't be into flowers except on very exceptional occasions 👀😋

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

WE JUST DO IT TO GET IN YOUR PANTS AFTER THAT WHY BOTHER?

CarolinaGirl5 · Answer

Grow up lol omg. What have you gotten him?

Luopio27 · Answer

Because flowers have feelings!

woahhh152 · Answer

Why don't you buy flowers for him sometime?

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

After they brand their girlfriend?

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Hide and seek game ended

Anonymous · Answer

Because we can't afford you 😂

jahaims · Answer

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