Remind me whats bad about being single? Im having such a good time Im forgetting why I wanted a relationship now?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Nothing wrong or bad with being single , if you are enjoying being single and not doing anything stupid that could turn around and bite ya in the ass , if you aren’t wise and honest about your decisions and choices , so being single is only bad , if you don’t want to be single and feel like you are missing out on having someone that commits to you the same way you do for them. Relationships take 2 people choosing each other and staying loyal to each other , so understand you can’t have your cake and eat it to when you choose to be in a relationship with someone , but when you are single , you really don’t have to answer to no one , you are free to do what you please whether someone likes your decision or not. When I am single , I enjoy the freedom of doing what I want to do without having to answer to anyone , I can flirt or hook up with whoever i choose to as long as they choose me as well. I just choose to be honest with people I meet. If they can’t accept my honesty , then they can easily walk the other way. I don’t blind side anyone , if a beat girl hits on me I am nothing but honest with her about my current life and honest about what I am looking for without rushing into anything , giving her a choice on whether she wants to continue seeing me or not. And hoping she is honest with me as well. We aren’t mind readers so all we can do is go off of what someone says to us , unless you want to waste your time playing investigator to make sure what they are telling you is legit. I use to be that way when I was younger, until I realized what’s even the point , why ruin a good moment over assuming stupid shit. If someone wants to lie , they are going to lie. That’s their problem not mine. Why I ended up in bed with married women and girls’ that were cheating on their boyfriends’ for me because that’s her problem not mine. I am only going to continue a relationship with someone that is honest with me as well, but if it’s just a piece of ass , then it’s just a piece of ass. Thanks for a good time but not a long time.

BullShark · Accepted Answer

Aside from the random 3AM loneliness and the occasional desire of being romantically and sexually loved and wanted by someone else when seeing couples on your feed, I wouldn't call being single bad.

And if anyone tells you that being in a relationship helps fill that "hole" in your chest when someone leaves you, or that you need someone to rely on from time to time, then you shouldn't be in a relationship anyways. If you're not comfortable being alone and happy in your own skin, then you'll never be satisfied with a relationship either, because you first need to love yourself before anyone else loves you.

FluffyHope · Accepted Answer

I feel ya. I’m 52 a little fluffy and just started dating. Most men I have met say they want a relationship but just want sex. I would love to be in a relationship again. I LOVE, LOVE. I love the companionship and sex. The problem part seems to be finding the companionship. Good luck to you in whatever lifestyle you feel comfortable in. You do you as long as you’re not hurting others…

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

Nothing wrong with being single at all. If I never met my husband i probably would have stayed single for life lol. It's best to only get in a relationship if that person is extremely special and gonna benefit your life.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

As a relationship aficionado, I'm here to shed some joy and perspective, not pull you into any romantic quicksand! Being single is fabulous, like dancing solo and owning the floor. You get freedom, self-discovery, and endless possibilities to mingle without explaining who last lovebombed you! But hey, relationships bring companionship, teamwork, and shared snack obsessions—I mean, Netflix nights. Remember, whether single or loved-up, it’s all about falling in love with your life. Enjoy the fabulous dance! 💃✨

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OlderAndWiser · Answer

There's nothing bad about being single and uncommitted, and there's nothing bad about being in a relationship. It's just a matter of deciding what's the best fit for you. But comparing your current status to the bad memories of failed relationships would be an unfair comparison.

RichA322 · Answer

There are just some differences between single and relationship.

But single doesn't necessarily mean Alone or lonely..

The advantage of a relationship is, you are basically never alone. Your partner is ALWAYS there and loving in the same flat/house as you. So you don't even need to phone to ask him to come to you. And when we humans age, people tend to stay for themselves because they become less and less mobile. So it's quite plausible that a single person will receive only very few) if any) visits from his/her friends after they reached a certain age. And then you are lonely. While in a relationship there is always someone there. And that loneliness is also the reason why many old people die very soon after their respective partner has died, just weeks or months ago. Because they are so used to having him/her around that the feeling of constant loneliness more or less kills them.

While single is good until a certain age, above a certain age, when you become less mobile and people don't visit you as often you are in fact really lonely and alone. So yeah dying alone is not just quite possible but also quite likely. Some people don't care, some people do. That's your decision, I don't know what's the case for you.

In Relationship you have basically someone around you that cares for you (not just in a sexual way) 24/7 and who is always there for you. So if you love them, you are never lonely.

While being single is fun until your are older (pension age) because you are not tied down and can always call people to come over. And there will always someone there. But after you reached a certain age, people will NOT come over anymore, because

They are Busy with themselves
They are too sick to visit you any longer
They can not drive anymore
They live too far away (that is relative, is some cases even the end of the same street is too far, when you are old) and just visiting you is too much time and money consuming for them
They just don't care about you anymore, because they have they own life and you are not part of it any longer
They were frightened of dying alone and have suddenly started a relationship or to live together with someone else, so you are now left out Because they are now concentrated on themselves and don't give a shit about you anymore
When your looks start fading, they don't come over anymore because they don't want to have sex any longer with an old person or they only do it to get money from you

Sex becomes less and les important so there is no reason why they should visit you any longer if it's no relationship. So they will just move on or prefer sitting home at their couch watching TV alone instead of visiting you

So those are basically the advantages of a relationship and the disadvantages of being single. It's your choice how you want your life to Be.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Most of the long-term relationships are formed around the idea of having children together. Not all because there are other reasons at times, like just preferring other's company.

Some women just are not all that fun before or after the sex part. So they find themselves bouncing from one guy to another but they're not developing their personality or emotional being. Basically just as not ready for steady contact with one person now as they were before they stepped onto the hoe-train. We all know them, they're good for a fuck or two during the evening but and entire weekend with them is so annoying that we avoid it.

With all that said... my educated guessing says you're not thinking about a long-term commitment like having children or paying off a house with someone, and you're probably best for recreational use only... as in putting up with you longer than it takes to get the bedroom fun would make the juice just not worth the squeeze. If you're 45 and still in that phase of life, you might as well be the village's recreational use vagina and then probably end up with small dogs or cats as your family.

Purpleronnie · Answer

Nothing… it’s a choice that you can change your mind whenever and if you want to.

I could play devils advocate and open the question to the psychology behind asking such a question whilst immediately defending your choice but I will just leave that there…..😇

If you’re “truly” happy in the sense of being fulfilled I don’t think you would question your
choices, but that’s just armchair psychology and your likely going to ignore that and you probably should 😆

sawno · Answer

Why would I? If its working out for you its working out for you right? I don't have to make up a reason because if it applied to you specifically you'd already know the reason. Just make sure that you keep the options you'd want in the future open so you don't regret anything afterwards.

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

It's the good life especially when you don't have to deal with a mother in law. This is normal now a days. People now a days is normal to not get married. After the toxic history our great grandmother and grandmother told us about dealing with monsters in law and the ground adult son not putting her in her place. Especially in millennials generation some millennials guys can't seem to grow up and let go of mommy. That explains why now a days no one want to get married.

DrSteve · Answer

Maybe your heart is just guarded there is still decent good guys. I'm apart of that 1% club and found the love of my life I waited for marriage and was a traditional type to take things slow and court a woman properly. Got her a promise ring first date took a knee and it went from there dated for a little while and married her same day and time as the first date mostly because I have a terrible memory and I figured why not make things simple and make it special on the one day. It will always be the day I remember forever and always.

HungTexan · Answer

As long as you’re having fun, getting fucked regularly, etc. there’s no rush. But having a relationship makes life and sex even better.

HighValue · Answer

Most women past 30 should just stay single because good quality men don't want them and have better options, especially women that participated in casual sex.

Or they could become lesbians since there are over 33 million more women in the USA than men, so many of them will never get a long term partner anyway.

Nikki1989 · Answer

There is nothing bad about it if you are truly happy and not just saying it to make yourself feel about yourself.  Obviously, feeling isolated or lonely can be a significant downside to being single.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I hate being single, but I also don't do casual and I hate most guys lol But relationships are always nice for hanging out with a best friend and having easy access to cuddles and sex.

pinkCadillac2 · Answer

The universe exists because of polarity. There are no exceptions. Yummy food tastes good and is bad for you. And crappy tasting food is good for you. God is laughing.

kellytheman · Answer

Well it depends what stage your are in life. If your still young it not bad being single and you still got it and can have sex with anybody you want if you can. As you get older you might have less of a chance getting. anyone you want. It also depends if your a nan or a woman and what kind of relationship you want either being a long term or just having one night stands or having f**kbuddies.

Juxtapose · Answer

You sound like you want a relationship but you are trying to cope with how hard it is and relieve stress by having fun.

I understand it is extraordinarily difficult to find the right person but they will be worth it if you do. There's only one life, no need to give up but at the same time it is your choice.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

The only bad thing for me is that I missed the intimacy, nobody to come home to, nobody to love on that level.

lilBigPotato · Answer

Nothing. You do whatever makes you happy. Currently single too and not in a rush to change it.

coolbreeze · Answer

You have freedom to do anything you want without being tied down to anyone.

molonski2 · Answer

I think it depends a great on the social network , but of course there are no negatives to bring single , and quite honestly of all the married people I know , none of them are happy.

Unit1 · Answer

Remind you? If you're content being single, then that's that. Only you know whether you want to be single or be in a relationship.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Zero Nada  NOTHING!! Enjoy it all!!! Friendly reminder to all those who would throw shade...

ProbablyClueless · Answer

It can get tedious not having people to really share things with.  Life is long and tiring.

Caroline91 · Answer

I don't think there's anything bad about being single. And I would always choose that over an uninspiring relationship.

scott04sa22 · Answer

I'm having that same problem. I don't understand why woman rejects guys who are really good cooks. I mean women loves a man who can cook in the household and knows how to make love to her in bed then worrying about him having BMWs or Tesla's

genericname85 · Answer

for me personaly, getting any sort of physical affection is a hassle. so much so, that i don't even bother trying to get it. that's pretty much the biggest downside.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

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KrakenAttackin · Answer

Um, because you need a woman to drain your wallet, kill your self respect, lie to you, cheat on you, have another man's child, steal from you, and blame you for all of her mental illness...

NathanDavis · Answer

I never thought or felt there was something bad with it... you do you... lol

Lynx122 · Answer

Just read any of your own posts where you were complaining about this.

Jerre · Answer

I enjoy being single, enjoy being able to mingle

MasterKS · Answer

Its the best thing happen to you, relationship is like a small sparkle, glow and vanish. enjoy singlehood!

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

You'll eventually realize when this fun is no longer fun

LiamS95 · Answer

There are advantages and disadvantages to both being single or being in a relationship.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Being single if one has an extroverted personality and/or a lot of friends is not terrible. If one is an introvert then it can be hard.

LunarEclipse433 · Answer

That’s because you love the variety and perks. A relationship might limit that unless he enjoyed you doing it. Kinda hot

kaucky1 · Answer

No strings attached no risk of getting hurt feelings

BigTex53 · Answer

I see nothing wrong with it. And @hungtexan had account frizen

Burnout006 · Answer

Women who say this are most likely most miserable. Women need men more than the other way round. Biology, history and reality shows it.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

It's fun for a while but nobody want to be alone especially as you get older

Vickie06 · Answer

It’s lonely old men so women would lower standards.

Connie88 · Answer

I like compationship.

krin_m · Answer

There is nothing bad about being single!

SleepingHazard · Answer

I didn't know it was a bad thing.

ehatsham_hussain · Answer

Nothing just emotional lose ,,

Oncewildtwiceburned · Answer

Female S. O ^

Makeushiver · Answer

Nothing at all.

MK1997 · Answer

Nothing

Yohenis · Answer

Good for you

Remind me whats bad about being single? Im having such a good time Im forgetting why I wanted a relationship now?

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