Im in a long distance relationship and had a heated argument over text and he hasn’t spoken to me more than 10 days now, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

an argument happened, it was his little sisters birthday and he was just telling about it but i jumped to an assumption that he wanted me to call her and wish her happy birthday. his sister had a bad attitude towards me and disrespect me infront of everyone, but that wasn't the main issue, he would tell me to call his mom at times and when i would talk to her she would be bland towards me and didn’t have much to say so i wasn’t comfortable calling up his mom or sister.

i just lashed out at him and i didn’t communicate properly, i told him not to fuckin speak to me again and to take his bullshit out of my face. it was awful what i did but i couldn’t help it was just how i felt so uncomfortable and i felt like he could have understood what i was feeling towards his family a little bit.

i didn't ask him to choose me over his mom or sister its not how i wanted it to seem.

he loves me but his family doesn’t like me and its kinda hard to separate those things without it going sour. but im sure he doesn’t love me anymore now and hasn’t texted me for many days and im scared to text him at all cause i feel he wouldn’t reply at all.

he is 31 and im 33 we have been together for over a year now and we were planning to live together but everything feels hallow.

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1 y

i dont feel like texting him first cause i made a mistake and i dont want to seem weak for it.

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1 y

when he would ask me to call his family it would feel like a demand

[AI Opinion]

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[hahahmm]

Guys take things literally. Even when we know you are just playing games/testing we will often pretend not to know because it takes less energy than taking it seriously. We like less drama.

Anyhow, you should call him up and say you weren't asking him to choose between you and his family. But keep in mind that if he is talking about you with them then he doesn't really view you 100% as family and until that happens you're very expendable.

If you want more than long distance it's in your interest to move to be near him -- if you think it's worth it. Plus you would then be able to talk to his family & him in person which is way better than texting

[Asker]

I don't know, he knows his family doesn’t get along with me and the fact he wanted a different life with me, i just feel like he got confused of what kind of life he really wanted and i feel he couldn’t adapt with me or the new environment. he persued this relationship with me and i feel like he changed his ways.

[Asker]

i have nothing against him or his family but i just feel rejected by all the differences and the fact that he was the one who committed

[hahahmm]

"the fact that he was the one who committed" -- you mean it was one sided and only he committed? Anyhow, I just realized your original post wasn't just about him not responding to text but he won't respond at all. For 10 days? Sounds like he has dumped you but doesn't even want to say it. Or he thinks he is teaching you a lesson by being silent. If it's teaching a lesson, 10 days is over the top. I could understand a day. I would focus on moving on, if I'm you. And avoid LD relationships. Best to meet someone local.

[itsannalee]

If he can go without talking to you for more than 24h, just let him go…