I think you do need to go to the doctor. Not because I think the two tests were wrong, but because It's concerning and you should find out what's going on.
I would not continue dating someone who was 3 months pregnant. It's just a case of the entire situation suddenly being a completely different one. Continuing to date someone who was giving birth in 6 months would change everything.
I will. Thanks.
That would be so hard for me to deal with mentally, I couldn't be okay with it for so many reasons. To add to that your ex would still have to be in your life still would he not, or am I raising him as my own, for him to tell me I'm not his dad, everything about that just leaves me uneasy.
Right I wouldn't either if the roles were reversed.
Dang I'm sorry.
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Make sure he didn't give you an STD that clogs the pipes, missy. Someone I know had a bad case of G from her baby daddy and it scarred her tubes up for life. She had a complicated pregnancy, permanent scaring in her pipes (so couldn't have any more kids) and it's really affected her whole life.
Possibly if you're in your 30s it's just a random cyst or fibroid mucking up the cycle, but you shouldn't be waiting even a second to go see your doctor...
Ok I will go as soon as they can get me in. I didn't know that at all. Thanks for letting me know this.
This is kinda hard question because. If your with her it means you like her
So than means you want to be with her.
And then you have to think what if she wants her ex back. At the same time you would want to be support of
I guess the only thing you can do is let it play out
I've had pregnant friends who found their husband while pregnant with another guys baby so some guys will stick around if they really love the girl
I doubt he would though. We haven't gotten that close yet. We're still in the early days of talking. So I hope and pray I'm not.
Tell her to go work things out with her ex and it was nice knowing ya
I would stop dating her, and find another girl to date.
THB I'd probably say I have to dip out and end things. Adding a kid to the mix is a big ask when dating and it's even bigger when it's not his and a surprise like this. Kids are loud, expensive, temperamental and they cock block you more than a chastity belt. Kids are a turn off for most guys and they'll just straight away walk the moment they find out they're a factor. I wouldn't do it because it's more than I can handle. Even if I liked the girl, we'd have to end things because adding a kid to the mix is just too much for me. Too much work, too little time, too many interruptions too many distractions it goes on and on like that. Kids are a death nail in the dating coffin which is one of the reasons people shouldn't spread their legs for people they don't love. As a rule of thumb if you're not ready to deal with getting knocked up or knocking someone else up you just shouldn't be fucking period. One of the biggest problems right now is men and woman are acting like the free love of the 70s never ended and we have study after study after study saying free love does nothing but hurt society and people as a whole and individuals.
Well, I am not into dating nor am I interested in dating. Too many risks and too much drama.
Then, I would not date a girl in the first place and thus, this danger would be banned. Also, if I was unfortunate enough to date a girl that was pregnant because she was fornicating left and right, I would make sure that she is not pregnant from her many ‘’contacts’’ with people that just use her for getting rid of excess testosterone. I would make sure that she has a pregancy test done and that she is healthy and not contagious with all kinds of diseases one can catch from sleeping around.
Not that this would make much difference since I am not into copulating and that risk would be practically banned.
I’d make sure she wasn’t some twisted Jesus freak.
@OneViewpoint That is your good right of course.
First and foremost I'd want her to be honest with me as soon as possible. If I found she'd been hiding it for a period of time I'd be more annoyed.
Then for me it would open a door to other conversations, whether she'd want more kids in future (would have been a big deal to me).
Also how she treated the baby daddy would be a big thing. He needs to know and be involved.
Ultimately for me it depends where I would see myself with her in the future. If I wasn't sure or was too early to tell I'd may walk away
That’s a tuff one. But the reality is girls will often miss having periods when they are stressed. Break ups can be very stressful. So if two tests say you are not pregnant… there is a good chance that you are not pregnant.
I had a girlfriend once that wouldn’t get her period until she went on vacation. Every vacation when she wells feeling less stress it would come.
The human body is an amazing machine.
Indeed it is. That's probably all it is. Stress or a hormonal imbalance or both.
And of course now you are stressing over not getting your period. Stress is a bitch!
It really is!
I wouldn't date a girl that had sex with her ex that close to us dating.. And then she's still friends with him in the first place.. Been there, done that.. Then add a pregnancy to it, and it's just not an ideal situation, and even worse if you got an abortion.. All those factors would totally turn me away no cap..
I definitely respect that. I don't think if I was a guy I would want to deal with that either. But the good thing is I'm more than likely not. I do feel bad about sleeping with my ex back in January but I didn't start talking to this guy until March. I think 2 months later is not crazy to start dating someone new but I understand the still being friends with him that would probably give him pause like you. But we (me and my ex) honestly barely talk anymore. He's gradually fading into the background. And if he has a problem with us being friends I will cut it off completely.
Of course I'm sure even you as a woman wouldn't want to deal witha guy like that.. Recently had sex with his ex, and might've gotten her pregnant.. You'd definitely run for the hills as you should.. But I guess I could give some grace and under to your situation.. I'm no angel, and a bit of a softy so an explanation like that would probably sway me..
Grace and understanding..***
Thanks. I would hope he would try to understand but I wouldn't expect him to want to stick around.
If you explain it in a similar way as how you did with me, and he likes you enough.. He might come around and understand..
Yeah I suppose I could do that and just hope for the best. Thanks.
Yeah, it's a result of something that happened months ago, so since you're probably not pregnant, you don't have to tell him so quickly.. Give it some time..
Yeah I wasn't planning on telling him any time soon. He doesn't even know I'm friends with my ex. I'm waiting for him to bring up the ex discussion but if he never brings it up then I will eventually do it.
Yeah, I mean you guys are still talking and not dating yet, and only a month in... It's all good just to let those issues come up naturally and handle them from there.. I think just telling him that you and your ex are decent terms would be a softer wording..
Yeah you're definitely right on that. And yeah that definitely sounds better.
Of course.. 😎👉..
Dating is not being in a committed relationship, if I’m dating a girl, and she’s getting pounded by her ex on the side, I’ll be thankful I didn’t invest so much time/money/effort on her.
Dating stage is literally an open relationship, but if the person liked the person they were dating, they wouldn’t have sex with someone else. So the other guy dodged a bullet, he didn’t mean much to her/you.
I just started dating this guy last month
Well I'm more than likely not. If I somewhat happen to be I will get an abortion asap.
Hope you don’t live in a Red State.
Yeah I would have to go to another state. I live in SC.
My older brother met a girl at his job. He's a cop. This girl was friends with a trouble maker. Thats why my brother the cop was involved. He had a connection with the friend that was only there to make sure her friend was safe. He started dating her and it was apparent early on that she was already pregnant. The "father" was in the military and already bounced. My brother was there for the birth and when the real father found out/came home. My brother met him and said "I'm a cop, i can make you disappear, this kid is mine" he agreed and they put my brothers name as the father on the birth certificate. Some day he is going to do an ancestry and find out the truth bit i pray he understands we all wanted him. He is not his biological fathers child. He is ours. A Faulkner
3+ months and no period? And you have not gone to the doctor yet? And you are 33? And while you are concerned about being pregnant you are asking if a 28 year old is too young - and if clingy is bad or good - well okie dokie, I am glad you have your priorities straight lol.
But ok, you are wondering what the guy you have been dating is going to do? He will run away as quick as he can and it won't be just because you are pregnant from your ex lol. Would you like to know why?
Why?
I think you can at least offer a guess, yes?
Hmm maybe it could work I don't know. Depends if that ex father steps up to be a father.
I don't really want to be a father, I wouldn't mind been a kinda hands off step father I suppose. It's his kid not mine. And maybe she wouldn't feel the need to have a child with me since she has one.
I am not kid person, and would actually be better father when the kid is older tbh. So I don't know.
I would most likely look for stage left I am sorry to tell you. It usually takes couples two years to get to the point of marrying and the guy is being asked by the circumstances to jump into a married situation. 'Its not mine' will be screaming in his head.
That voice will win.
/leave
She didn't tell me at the beginning and it's simply a beginning of "hiding" stuff.
The fact that 3 months ago she was still in bed with him, well that tells me she can't be over him so quick. Otherwise it means she'll also be able to leave me and be over me so quickly.
When the baby is born, the ex will always be there lurking cuz he has to pay child support.
Sorry. I'd just leave.
Definitely go to the doctor. A rush of anxiety came over me from reading this 😁.
Ok I will thanks!
WOW! What a downer and I thought the influencer's KNEW ALL as they can dictate what someone can say on this site.
I think that's editors not influencers.
Such a hard question to answer. But you have a habit of asking questions that are hard to answer.
If you love a woman and have the financial capacity to support someone else's child, go for it. If either of those things are not true, then run don't walk.
Somehow I'm finding this hard to believe... Sorry.
I wouldn't lie about something like this. I'm really serious. I don't think I am though because I've always kind of been irregular but never this late.
Because I'm usually irregular since I started taking plan bs last year with my ex-boyfriend and thought nothing of it but now I'm a bit worried because it's going on 3 months since my last period. I am going to go to the doctor next week though. But I doubt I am. Haven't had any symptoms whatsoever.
I will probably get an abortion because my ex is not in the best situation to help with the baby and I'm not honestly in the best place either.
Thanks! Fingers crossed too that there is nothing there or anything wrong with me.
Ok I will!
@Simslover92 yes please update this once you know. It is truly amazing and unbelievable - and would be good for all of us to learn from.
If you never miss your periods it’s definitely something worth going to the dr asap with. Also I don’t mean to scare you but some STDs can make you miss it with light spotting as well.
I can be irregular at times. Never this irregular though but it could be because all last year I took plan bs with my ex and now it's doing something funny to my reproductive system I don't know. I will go to the doctor though to make sure everything is okay. I'm sure I'm fine and it's just me going through one of my irregular moments.
Oh yes!!! When I took plan bs a lot with my ex I missed two months two. Either way even if it’s a hormonal imbalance it’s best to have a dr check you out.
Ok I will get checked out asap! Thanks!
I would say that I hope you are not just because of the new guy situation. However if you were to be I know you would make a great mother….
How would you feel about it if you were?
I don't think I am but if I somehow was then I would feel honestly sad because it's not by the guy I want it to be with
Thanks!
If she was planning to go through with the pregnancy I would dump her. I don't care at all that she had sex but I wouldn't want to be with someone who had a kid.
@Simslover92 I think I would dump her. I am not interested in raising somebody else;'s kid.
As expected.
This question reminds me of the pregnant women on dating apps.😆 it's like, really? You're not even going to wait till the bun is done cooking.😆
Lmao. Well the difference is I'm not preggers. It's more than likely just an imbalance with hormones or something.
Well I'm not sure why you're asking this question.
I guess a similar palatable question would be, "How would you feel if the guy you were dating but not dating EXCLUSIVELY you found out was currently sleeping with 3 other women"?
Yeah maybe I shouldn't have asked this question when it really doesn't apply to me but I just was curious to know guys responses to the scenario.
Well I think the problem is there are simply too many variables. Obviously a woman telling a guy she's been dating for 3 months she's pregnant from her ex is a negative thing. You's have to be a complete idiot not to get that. I'd have to have more specifics to the situation.
We started dating in March. I slept with my ex in January way before we met. I know it's still not looking good but I can assure you that I am not and it's just more than likely a hormonal imbalance. But I can understand why a guy would be put off from that. I would be too if the roles were reversed and he may or may not have gotten his ex preggers a few months before we started talking. I feel honestly terrible that I put myself in this position but I don't think I am so there's really nothing to worry about. Just a lesson learned. Condoms will be my best friend from now on.
Personally if I was a guy, ngl I would dump them.. but most likely you are not pregnant if you had two negative tests.
I'd have no interest in a woman that has kids from past relationships. I'd end the relationship immediately.
How long has it been since you've had one. And I wouldn't do anything. What could I do but I'd have some decisions to make
Had a gyno appointment? If so, quite a few years. If we're talking period since the week after I last had sex which is why I don't think I am.
Well one doesn't have an ex, so she's out. And for the other, looks like I'm paying for the abortion if she hadn't already scheduled one
Just started dating? 3 months pregnant? Bye... gotta go. Don't call me, I'll call you.
That's a hard pass. I'm not gonna take care of someone else's child, especially the ex, only to have him have a say on the child education more than me.
Go to the doctor. I would probably end the relationship because we haven't been dating very long.
Definitely break up inmedietly. I would feel completely disrespected and fooled
That's scary to hear even not having a period that long - im no doctor
I would cut contact right away and be glad I dodged a bullet.
I would bail. Like F that.
Been there... only she was 6 months. I stayed with her until we broke up a couple years later.
That's, a good one! I know what I would be thinking I would do. What I would actually do?
Come back here after you have a doctor confirm if you are pregnant or not and then I will give my opinion then.
I would hope I'm not being expected to take care of it
As I don't want kids
I hope I could eventually have a child with that person if I was serious about the relationship
I'd leave. I don't want to raise someone else's child.
I would talk about it with her.
I never had a date, so I can't speak from experience.
I would be very very surprised because we've been together for 4 years and her ex was a girl..
That would be a deal breaker. My wife and I have an agreement that she can see other guys so long as she doesn't get pregnant.
Wonder why tf she isn't on any birth control.
I found out after marriage she was rapped by a family member for over 5 years
I'm sorry that's awful
I'd only date a virgin.
Yikes!! What a hypothetical!!!
Yes, see a doctor.
Break up and live happily ever afylter
I would leave her., Don't need the problem.
That's a tough one 🤔
That's a red flag for me
I am gone.
leave
Did she tell me before hooking up?
Peace out ✌️
Dump her of course.
I’d stay
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