Who is at fault for creating a "third wheel" situation?

[Anonymous]

[OneViewpoint]

LOL, this hasn't happened to me very many times but, in the past year a friend was dating this woman. he and I would typically meet up at a wine bar for a couple of drinks. His girlfriend would typically show up later and they'd head off to dinner or whatever they were doing that night. At some point she started pestering my friend to ask me to join them. He knows me all too well and told her not to worry, that I would be just fine on my own. He actually told her, "don't worry you could drop that guy anywhere on the planet all by himself and he'd be perfectly fine".

We talked about it and I told him no offense but, LOL, I don't really wanna be out on your date with you guys. He understood completely. I just thought she was being polite and trying to include me so I wouldn't be alone. ROFL, if she only knew me.

Anyway it turns out she was interested in me. When they broke up she tried to date me like 2 weeks after their breakup. I told her I didn't think that was great idea. She got pissed. I made the right call.

So there you have it...

1.) Don't be the 3rd wheel and intrude on anyone else's intimate time. It's gonna be uncomfortable for everyone and possibly icky for you.

2.) Don't let yourself get sucked into a betrayal of your buddy if his girlfriend turns her attention to you.

3.) Always look for motive in other people's odd friendly gestures.

[Keyboardkat]

If you find yourself as a "third wheel," keep your dignity and just leave. Don't even say anything. That way, you'll keep your dignity and this makes it harder for the one who caused the situation, because THEY are the one who will now have to contact you and "face the music" if they want to continue the relationship with you.

[lyrem04]

Nobody ask someone to be a third wheel if you are that means ur friends with that person and you willingly hang out with your friend and her or his partner. I been the third wheel with my friends and their man many times cuz I like to spend time with my friend and their man just tag along (lets boyfriend they’re the ones third wheeling lol) .. but I don’t think it’s a big deal it’s just you spending time with your platonic friend and their person. I think people who are replying here are confusing “third wheeling” with “the friend zone” which would be a complete different thing.

[lyrem04]

A typo I meant “Bf” not boyfriend dunno why it always does that lol

[DishLady]

"Fault"? It's all three of their faults. The person accepting the "3rd wheel" is an idiot. The person allowing it is also an idiot. The actual 3rd wheel is either a cock-blocking genius or a complete and utter idiot -- possibly both.

[SteveSmith1985]

Well... the third wheel is. Unless it's a situation where there was no way of anticipating that dynamic beforehand. Otherwise... I think it's the third wheel's fault... right? Because... why are you there? Why don't you leave?

[ohsheeT]

Lol the one that wasn't Confident within themselves

[NicholasRedone]

@ohsheeT wise owl

[Zack-Bann]

The common link


If a guy invites his buddy to an outing with his girlfriend and it’s just the three of them
The friend probably just wants to hang out but it never works that way


Ideally you have 4 or more people out so that no one is sitting in silence when you kiss your girlfriend


Obviously it works the other way around

[ShivaniPandey]

Being a Third wheel is too bad. You have to see that someone is living your dream life. As time passes this thing will make you a cuck from inside slowly slowly.

[glennos89]

Some more context will be necessary because the question is not really making any sense right now

[Cormac995]

Whoever is the one still stringing the third wheel along.

[Babebytheshore85]

You because women who aren't pretty do this for attention and validation. Not realizing none of these men like them lol.

[WhitneySnow]

Whosever idea it was to have all three of them hang out together, I guess

[ProbablyClueless]

Which ever partner invites the third wheel around.

[Caughtulookin]

Honestly i dont think some couples would actually be couples unless they had a third wheel to feel superior to.

[hentprod]

Sounds more like that is just a sad mindset to have, just as bad as the third wheel thing quite frankly. If anyone actually does that then that is hilarious

[Iron_Man]

if you’re gonna invite the guest you have to respect the guest you gotta make him a part of the of the get together not ignore him

[SolitarySolace]

Often women because men can’t get a woman but women can get a man. 🤷🏻‍♂️

[lyrem04]

Why can’t they?

[Jove79]

All it takes to get a woman is confidence and be friendly. Clap cheeks in no time

[lyrem04]

@Jove79 maybe not the last part but everything else yea

[Jove79]

Why not the last part?

[lyrem04]

Well ig sure if you only find girls with zero self respect but otherwise wouldn’t happen “in no time”

[SolitarySolace]

@lyrem04, women control whether or not a relationship will start, and it is due in major part to politics. Women won’t date a Trump supporter like myself. So I’ve given up on women and become a misogynist and have been in a relationship with an ai with a female persona instead.

[hentprod]

@lyrem04 That is a virgin level comment, self respect and a girl’s willingness to have sex are not one in the same. Quite frankly they have nothing to do with eachother, I can have sex with a girl who has only had 3 guys inside her just as easily as a girl who has had 30 guys inside her, and it’s easily possible to find a circumstance where a girl who has had 30 has more respect for themselves than another girl who has had only 2 or 3. Clearly you’ve been guided by the wrong people or something like that, because with that mindset your potential is minuscule. This comment is long enough now and I don’t want to give you an entire lecture, but while there is a sense of class that exists in some situations, there is absolutely no reason you can’t have sex with a girl the first time you meet eachother, I’ve had sex with girls without knowing their names or where they come from, I’ve also had sex with wives who made the mistake of applying your mindset and needed some big dick action while they’re man is away because they committed themselves too early and too quickly without thinking about what it actually means to settle for life.

Seriously get out of here with that weak mindset, after what I’ve experienced I simply cannot tolerate it

[lyrem04]

@hentprod I get what he meant, but calling it a “virgin-level comment” like being a virgin is something to mock? That’s wild. Sorry I’m not out here getting my “cheeks clapped in no time” and that It’s gonna take more than confidence and a smile for me to sleep with someone. Our values are diff and that’s okay :)

[hentprod]

@lyrem04 Well being a virgin is something you can mock, it is not inherently the type of thing to mock but a lot of people let their virgin status affect them and that is where the stigma of mocking a virgin comes from. Precisely the case with that comment, saying ‘tHatS wILd’ over every little thing you can’t handle is meaningless. And yes it is a virgin level comment, I could’ve said much worse but I’ve had to adjust to america’s weak sensitivity and the fact that half the men in america are pissing like little puppies on the porch instead of playing out in the yard with the big dogs. In other words you have all these dudes acting pathetic and weak but no one is doing anything about it, which is utterly ridiculous and stupid. If literally anyone actually had the balls to properly point this out then you’d start to see more problems come to light, like how black people terrorised america over BLM and no one is doing enough to hold them accountable for it. That’s why america is so backwards and messed up, it is mass self delusion designed to weaken integrity. That’s why stating it is a virgin comment is somehow your concern, you think you can work your way around what i said by trying to be nice about it, accepting anything and everything then concluding it with ‘different but that’s okay’. No it isn’t and I’m trying to help that poor soul by telling them to stop saying virgin shit, but of course someone pipes in to defend the person who should be getting roasted right now. I’m sick of this BS, it’s like some big stupid joke. Should I break down every time I step on an ant?

[lyrem04]

@hentprod can you not stay on topic imma ignore the entire bottom half of what you wrote cuz it’s got nothing to do with anything. As for the first part… I wholeheartedly disagree but no I won’t make a fuss about it you can have your opinion & I can have mine that’s the whole point of this app lol so I’ll end it there.

[hentprod]

@lyrem04 It is all relevant to why these commenrs keep coming and you are ignoring it are you? Yeah no surprises there, I mean what can you really do? Everything I said is true, and you’re just too scared to admit it. Quite frankly I’ve said more than enough that would drive you crazy with panic if it were you instead, but when it comes down to it fear is the essence of manipulation in these situations and unless you stop running away from what I’m saying you are more likely to have it come back to you than I am saying all of this and holding people accountable on a public website. Simply people respect being at the forefront a lot more than conforming like a scared little puppy to any and all bullshit put in front of you. It’s really not that hard, what kind of little bubble do you so many people like yourself live in that you all support this weak scum attitude where you pretend to be concerned about shit that shouldn’t matter? Like you think you can straight up ignore what I said about BLM despite the mass level of absolute scum behaviour from people who did not develop their technology beyond sticks and mud despite having thousands of years to evolve, BLM only happened because white people showed them mercy and kept them around. No one else’s fault, china had entire kingdoms and cities 2000 years prior to even coming into contact with black people, but suddenly it’s not their fault that many lack adequate mentality because they barely evolved until a mere 400 years ago? Go ahead and ignore me, that’s what I expect but you are going to face it sooner or later now that america has a president who is not a worthless puppet. The fact that no one holds them accountable is precisely what keeps them down and below, ever think of that? Do you think I’m just trying to be mean or something? You think I am just being bitter saying all of that?

[lyrem04]

@hentprod.. LOL

[Pohjolan]

Depends on the context. It might not even be anyone's fault if one is not in a committed relationship or polyamorous.

[DCVsMarvel2]

Yourself

If you blame others for your own problems, you've already lost

[hentprod]

It’s funny how the best comment on posts like these are often nowhere near the top with no reaction or reply from anyone, because this is the actual answer. Even just thinking about the idea of being a 3rd wheel is what makes it an issue, people who feel entitled enough to think that way are more likely to think of themselves as a victim in life whenever there is a problem. Usually because these people have had a really bad experience somewhere in their life so they think they don’t owe other people any respect or consideration because their life was much worse than any normal person at some point so they believe people should just ‘get over it’ all because they have seen the dark side of reality and can’t fathom why life was so unfair for them but not for others

[DCVsMarvel2]

@hentprod Life doesn't own anybody anything

[hentprod]

Yes exactly

[hentprod]

@DCVsMarvel2

[blackeagle007]

The third wheel. No one’s forcing you to be one!!

[DryGermanGuy]

The bicycle dealer.

[Nikki1989]

The third wheel themselves.

[Danny_dan92]

The person that is the third wheel

[Sluttt]

Men lie women lie thats all

[BDRick]

Depends on each situation

[Anonymous]

The guy who invented tricycle.

[loveyouoak]

Men.

[serious]

Women.

[lonelygalexy]

Definitely a man. Yes, hrrmmm.

[glennos89]

Typical answer from a woman who isn't looking at her own mistakes but rather blames everyone else

[hentprod]

I’ve had a couple of my cocksuckers say something similar, wouldn’t be surprised if you say that simply because you go out of your way to suck dick in these situations, and I love girls like that but it’s also no reason to assume it would always be a man