Do you think gender relations were better in previous decades or do we just idealize the past too much?

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It seems like forming relationships came much more naturally and easier for previous generations but that could just be me looking back too fondly

SueShe · Accepted Answer

Of course they were better in past generations up to and including the baby boomers. Those generations before internet and social media. Those generations that were not ruled by the pornography industry that fries the brains of youth nowadays and that is under the protection of the governments because of the revenues they generate.

If I could, I would prohibit the internet and social media and keep society the way it was in the 1960s.

Relationships were more on a person-to-person basis and not on social media and hook up sites.

We do not idealize the past; the past WAS better, much better.

PeachyPie93 · Accepted Answer

I think the whole dating and the family dynamic was better but there was also bad things with it too. I just wish men and woman now days weren't such whores and obsessed with porn and objectifying themselves. But that is what is wrong with humans, if you put in place rules people abuse those rules to gain power and treat others like shit but if you get rid of the rules you end up in a shit hole we are living now. You can't win with humans because we are a trash species that should just be wiped out.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

I think it’s some of both. The grass is always greener on the other side however people did have better moral standards. Sure there was bad marriages. There was affairs. There was people marrying for the wrong reasons but not like it is now at least people got married to stay married.

A lot of people though over glamorize relationships until they get into them and realize it’s not all they imagined it would be. Especially with this trad wife trend.

Sun_Kim-Ai · Accepted Answer

It was both better and worse at the same time. That said, I do believe we idealize the past too much.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the charm of nostalgia can be quite the love potion! Relationships back then might seem simpler because they weren't drowned in the sea of social media and dating apps we have today. But every era has its love hurdles—unspoken red flags or ghosting under the guise of mysterious disappearances! Each generation has its quirks, but hey, don't let the past outshine your chances of falling head over heels today. 😄✨

princeofromance · Answer

Yes, but ever relationship works or doesn't work for different reasons.

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

The past is too often romanticized. When you look back at relationships in the early-mid 1900's you do indeed see more lasting relationships and the depiction of stronger family values. But that's only what you see on the surface. Look deeper and you see start to see various degrees of toxicity. We (women) weren't allowed to do much of anything without a husband's approval. We couldn't buy a house, get credit, buy a car, even vote. If you as a woman were unhappy in a marriage, you had to pray your husband royally fucked up so you could get a divorce as no fault divorces didn't become a thing until the 60's. Up until the 70's it was actually socially acceptable for men to beat their wives for things like speaking out. That's not at all tonsay that every relationship was toxic. Genuine love and happiness have always been a thing. But we cannot pretend like it was all peaches and cream.

Fast forward to the modern age and of course things evolve. We have more rights and protections than we did 100 years ago. Some, of course, abuse these protections (we don't like those people either, they give us a bad rep). The advent of the internet and social media expanded our voices and we learned that we're not alone. We can see how people rejoice in success and happiness worldwide, but we can also see the horrors the world has to offer even just next door.

I don't particularly think things were better back then; everything tends to evolve with time. It seems that there's a bit of a morality war as people choose different routes to exercise their freedoms and pursuit of happiness, but even that has always existed. To pretend otherwise is blatantly ignorant.

Sorry for the extra rant. On my lunch break and the topic opened my feminine urges to rage a bit 🤣

MisterWack · Answer

No, it isn’t. If gender relations were better in the past, we would stick to them, no? Hundreds of years undone like that, hmmm?

We had less women in lawyer positions, no women in politics, and less / oppression of women’s rights though why did we shift towards a present that has a future where all can indulge in the blessings of Liberty? Because women sought a role outside the household, envisioned a world where men and women are created equal with certain inalienable rights. Men also stepped up and allowed women their new roles, with the flexibility to gain success in whatever field they so choose and so they did.

molonski2 · Answer

They were simply vastly more secret , multiple affairs , secrets , and in those days on pay night it was not uncommon for the husband to produce some " rough justice " if he was not obeyed , or the meal was not on the table , you were never arrested for domestic abuse pretty much unless you bashed them to within a inch of their lives , so reality was simply " swept under the carpet " massive alcohol abuse , ask any police officer from the period.

We simply try and glorify the past , it was not a nice time , high violent , not good.

bddddd · Answer

Yes. It was super-perfect when men spent 40 hours a week in an office doing nothing useful with their lives and came home to a grossly overcooked minute steak that resembled cardboard.

Even if you are one of the few men in the world that enjoys eating cardboard, the world has moved on.

Jackblue · Answer

It was terrible back then. Things we would consider child molestation today were just considered showing affection as Sigmund Freud discusses. Plus spousal abuse was also rampant. Back then being moral was about dressing nice, keeping your elbows off the table, and calling your elders Sir and Ma'am and if you could manage to do that you could be a brute and a pervert. Let's look to a brighter future people.

SixFootSexy · Answer

Before the sexual revolution, BC pill and feminism, gender relations were MUCH, MUCH better. Men and women needed each other and they found a way to get along, they don't anymore.

DrPepper12 · Answer

"History is a set of lies agreed upon" - Napoleon  We romanticize what we can't understand through lived experience. We denirate what we understand stand through lived experience. Exhibit A: MAGA

DonaldDarko · Answer

We idealize the past too much. Things functioned better then but life was brutal. No way should we go back to sweeping incredible brutality under the rug like it isn't happening.

WonderingManII · Answer

I'm going to say that they had everything right, but people knew what was expected from them. I think that took some of the confusion out of it, and people were more successful.

blackeagle007 · Answer

Not great today. Everyone fights and blames each other. There’s no self reflection or effort to improve at all. It’s mostly my generation and younger that’s being the problem

exitseven · Answer

They were a lot better. There were no hookups but people were happier.

zagor · Answer

That is probably because roles were more rigid. I don't think my grandmother had a lot of options.

Anonymous · Answer

Bellisimoe! I would have to walk behind the rows with people from the past like Batmanfather and see what they see. I cannot be TheCaller of this question, except what I see in my reddreams.

In_Trance · Answer

It wasn't better or worse  There's just the influence of social media now to brainwash everybody with the dumb shit that we see

chocolatetwopointo · Answer

women were abused a lot more in the past, y'all romantasize it wayy too much

Panthero80 · Answer

I think relations amongst people were better because we had actual face to face conversations.

Anonymous · Answer

All things considered, things were significantly better in the past, no question.

Anonymous · Answer

I think gender relations were better in the past.

Anonymous · Answer

I doubt gender relations were better. I think people were better at face-to-communication back then though.

January_Sixth · Answer

In some regions only

Dreamclouds · Answer

Of course, there's no doubt

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