It is a red flag that I am a virgin at 30?

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I feel like a bit a loser 😖

uncleBobbyb77 · Accepted Answer

Are you comfortable and ok with being alone for life? When you do become ok with that because you are enough then you will be ready to be with someone worthy because you will know you don't need someone, that if they hurt you you will be ok without them. That gives you the ability to attract what you are looking for, someone worthy of giving yourself to. Acceptance, appreciation, respect, trust, and forgiveness. 5 gifts of the heart you should give to everyone including yourself. You can give those things to toxic people from a distance. Also write down what your looking for in a partner, S P E L L it out. Then read it out loud. Become someone you would want to be with and exhibit the traits your looking for in another and you will find they come to you when you least expect it. Being a virgin at 30 could be good or bad. Its your choice in what you do with it from there. Find someone worth committing to who will commit to you. You should have expectations and standards for who you choose to give yourself to. Love everyone but only make love with The One.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

I wouldn’t consider you a loser but consider you very picky or think you are just waiting for the right guy to enter your life? But only you can answer this question as to why you are still a virgin? The only bad thing about female virgins , is the second they lose their virginity , and realize they love sex , they eventually get bored of the partner they are having sex with and end up wanting to explore other people as well , I am not saying every virgin does this , but a majority of them do. Primarily female virgins’ because females’ tend to think she is missing out on things more than guys’ do, A male virgin that loses his virginity to a girl will stay with that girl a lot longer than a female virgin will stay loyal to the guy she lost her virginity to, She will stay with him for awhile and have a lot of sex with him until she gets bored and wants to try new Dick , I experienced and witnessed this way too many times with virgins to the point I am not 100 percent accurate but pretty damn close

jazzy34 · Accepted Answer

Gosh, what society drills into our heads….🙄

You’re not a loser. Having sex just to “keep up with everyone else” should not be the reason to start having sex. Remember, sex does not equal love. Let’s say you do find a man you like and you two have sex. Later, you find out you were just another conquest for him and he doesn’t give a damn about you. He stops returning your calls and texts. He has moved on to the next girl. Avoid unnecessary heartbreak and wait until you find someone you truly love (and he truly loves you) to be intimate with. Hope that helps. ❤️

NoDecision · Accepted Answer

OMG, some women on this site cry about anything, even when it is not particularly bad. Are they serious or just trolling to see what kind of comments they can get?

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

I'm here on Girls Ask Guys to help you navigate the wild world of love and relationships. Virgin at 30? Trust me, that's not a red flag. It's more like waving a classy, individualistic banner. 🎉 Everyone has their timeline, and that's perfectly okay. Feeling like a 'loser'? Toss that feeling out the window! Confidence is key, and anyone worthy of you will appreciate your choices and the unique experiences you bring to the table. You're fab just as you are, love. 💃💥

ohsheeT · Answer

Hold on. Don't even go there

The last thing in this world and not even then would someone call you a closer

I can say your a better person than me. Your stronger than me your more Discipl.
Ine in me

And I would have to say your great so I hope you never think that about yourself because it's not true.

Let me ask you this if you had a chance would you do it different.

Really I have maybe 7 to 10 question I would love to ask you Just because i'm curious about everything in life...

As far as I'm concerned, you're a role model. You're a beautiful human being.
And you should be proud of yourself.
You're a role model in a lot of different ways

HawkPerception · Answer

It's a BIT of a red flag, but I wouldn't cross it out entirely.

Being a female virgin at 30 can signal a couple things.

1) She's way too picky. Potentially scared of sex and being physically intimate. That means even if I do get into a relationship with her, it's not likely we'll be physically intimate any time soon because she sees it as more of an act to show commitment and loyalty than an act of bonding and pleasure.

2) She had overprotective parents that never let her date while in their house and the old habits just stuck with her.

3) She is unattractive, either personality-wise, physically, or both.

Either way, none of these is exactly ideal.

mstbooblover · Answer

Being a virgin at 30 may result from many different events: first of all your own intimate nature. If you masturbate regularly and are fine with your way of life, job, privacy, and having not to deal with anyone in your private life, then it's your choice and it's fine.

Mind that the longer you wait, the more difficulties you will have to set a step towards a potential partner, and living alone is not at all the same as living with someone else and having to take into account that other person at your place.

Did something bad or traumatising did happen early in your life? Not your fault, and still no red flag, but you still should probably ask a psy for advice just in case, the more if you're asking this question sincerely...

PS: forget that bullshit around the winner-looser mentality, and by the way, things often just happen in life.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Nah. Honestly, your virginity is probably a better sign that you're an overall mentally healthy woman. Or at least, that you're someone who can give herself more fully to a man she does finally connect and have sex with.

I didn't realize this earlier in life, but women tend to leave pieces of themselves with the men they have sex with. Sex is a much emotional thing for women. That's not to say it isn't emotional for men as well, but it's less so. When a woman has had multiple failed relationships, she carries that pain more strongly than a man would. A virgin wouldn't have that same negative experience.

And I would also say that many times experienced women will behave in the same emotionally immature and juvenile ways that a virgin would. So, experience doesn't necessarily mean good experience.

IHaveRespawned · Answer

That is actually extremely attractive! I am not hitting on you or anything because I am about to get married, but my fiance was a virgin when we got together and it is amazing. Women like you are a diamond in the rough or a needle in the haystack.

Although, the reasons behind you still being a virgin could be a hindrance. Are you unable to establish strong romantic bonds? Are you disinterested in sex entirely? Are you so picky that it would be difficult for you to fall in love? Are you physically unattractive or appear offputting/unavailable? Maybe those are traits you need to evaluate. You will find your man eventually, but don't settle either.

MisterWack · Answer

If you were mean spirited, incompetent, self centered, and toxic then those would explain the virginity at 30.

If you are waiting for the right guy, not rushing sex though working on the best version of yourself, not afraid to put yourself out there to find your soulmate, and you are genuinely kind hearted then who cares if you are a virgin? I’d say that makes you more of a catch for men wanting a serious long term relationship, getting to know you before getting intimate with you.

Don’t see virginity as a red flag, see it as a power when you are putting yourself out there putting the best version of yourself on full display. Sex isn’t everything, the entire personality and character makes the person.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m going to say yes, but it could also be a no. Let’s start w no. A lot of men wouldn’t see it as a red flag of the girl isn’t that good looking. Just cause a majority of men aren’t going to sleep w a girl who isn’t really cute. The men who can’t really get a girl probably would sleep w her, but more then likely she won’t sleep w them cause she probably thinks she deserves someone who’s better looking. That’s why a majority of women find most men unattractive. Even the ones who should be shopping on tier 1 still try to shop on tier 5. Now here’s where it’s a yes. If she’s cute, gorgeous, nice body, she should have no problem attracting men. So when men find out she’s a virgin at 30 they’re wondering why. More than likely it’s her personality. Which initially men go for looks, but personality will make or break her. So yes it could be a huge red flag of no man is willing to commit to a gorgeous female.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

My honest opinion, the lack of interest in the biological activity I want to get down with would worry me, and the probability that you'll be hella clingy and try to latch onto me would be my red flags. The lack of getting boinked by dirty dicks that are not my dirty dick would be a plus though. Gotta take the good with the bad I guess.

Berethor · Answer

Can you follow me? anyway female virginity is a good thing in most cases, you not a ho.

overlord337645 · Answer

social pressure is pretty high these days but I would say that is good because most people end up with children at 20 or 19 and truth is you can't support a family at that age at least not very easily or well as your still figureing out your own life so loser or no you will at least be the one person who has a stable family

alli-112 · Answer

Everybody's different. Is there a reason you feel comfortable sharing (ex. waiting for marriage, just never got that far with a partner, etc)? Regardless, whether or not you've had sex is not inherently a red flag, though obviously people will have their individual opinions. (But people will have those no matter what. Especially as a women you can receive pretty severe judgement in certain spaces no matter what you experience or stance on sex is.)

RavVid · Answer

I would be more interested in your past relationships with men. If you haven't had any than I would wonder why.

I am not going to hold a relationship free status and virginity against you. If you haven't seen it as sensible to give your virginity to some random guy you don't care for, I would see that as to your credit. If you haven't met a guy you could be in a relationship with that could just be bad luck.

It is going to depend mostly on how we interact.

jshm2 · Answer

Depends on why.

Have you been diligent in your study, and subsequent career path? Then no, you've just been "dedicated to getting a career, before finding someone".

But if you've been hanging around and scoring nothing, then yes. It's a red flag.

FreyaRed · Answer

If you look good, you're just resilient. If you look less attractive you might be right.

I'm just kidding, it's your business and I don't want judge you. My body count isn't that high my look would suggest. lol

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Not if you're not married.
I'd refuse any woman who wasn't a virgin.
I'm also a virgin.
Having sex before marriage is too risky, it can cause single parenthood and risks STD infection, single parents and people with retroviral infections are losers.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

I wouldn't say that it is... But what is closer to a red flag is why you are still single at 30 with your virginity.. Because if you're waiting for someone then you could've found them by now.. You're a woman though, so it's not as big of a deal..

NotLongKindaGirthy · Answer

It's probably not a red flag, unless you're a virgin because you've got some serious psychological issues. A lot of guys would love to have a virgin girlfriend or virgin bride.

Or maybe you're just a late starter. Nothing wrong with that.

I wouldn't worry about it.

Benjiman19 · Answer

Why should that be a red flag? I get that social Media and others say how bad it is to never have had sex till this age or that age, but why should that matter? You're ready when you're ready and I'm sure you won't have a problem with asking for it when you want it, right?

Though, I don't find it repelling. And if you're wanting it to happen, just ask for it. Straight out. Make sure it's safe sex. Condom and whatnot.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

It's nothing to worry about , you just didn't have sex why to worry about something you didn't had?

When you find a mate you shall mate in todays era you have all the information at your tips.

Just be honest with guy with whom you will date and a well prepped reason that why you were virgin and there are people who would want virgin wife you would be prize for them.

Sun_Kim-Ai · Answer

Depends on the reason I guess, but as a general rule I wouldn't say it's a red flag.

Lucy68 · Answer

No. I mean I'm about to be 28 next month and I've been single for well might as well say 4 years and haven't been you know within the time span. You're not a loser so don't worry love you're fine ❤️

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Now you need to stop thats not a redflag and your not a loser. When did it become a bad thing to wait for someone special to give your virginity to. Do you have any idea how many women wish the can take it back and start over. Your doing the right thing take you time wait for the right person and make it memorable something you'll never forget

Screenwriter · Answer

The question is WHY are you still a virgin? Religion? Seeking a true love? Not seeking anyone right now?

andreasderjuengere · Answer

You may have ''lost'' some pleasant ''experiences'' that you already could have had.

Which does not make you a loser in general or overall.

You're -logically- only a sexual loser.

Catch up - you won't get younger :)

Cormac995 · Answer

No it's a good thing it means you're picky about spreading your legs as you should be. Sex is for lovers not for fun or just because.

dustybiker2 · Answer

You only need one good man. You're living your life waiting for him. That is a choice not a red flag.

Nikki1989 · Answer

It can be, depending on the reasons. Most reasons people have been, usually pretty weak at best.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Yeah, you are way behind the curve. No offense but, I wouldn't go near a woman who hadn't had sex by age 30.

strateguy632 · Answer

I agree with @cormac995 and @sun_kim-ai here!

exitseven · Answer

not at all. Everyone has different life circumstances and different ideas about sex. Its way better to be a virgin than to have a big body count.

MrChinaski · Answer

If anything it is a very small positive. Positive for some men, completely neutral for most. Don't sweat the small stuff. Date someone.

Shiprex · Answer

No you are not a loser. You've just not met someone worthy of being your first to have sex with.

Anonymous · Answer

its happening more than it used to , not sure why dating is harder than it was years ago , maybe a red flag but as mentioned it happens to people these days.

tfan1 · Answer

I didn’t get married until I was 30. My wife was 29 and we gave each other our virginity’s on our wedding night 🙂

DrPepper12 · Answer

Depends. Are you in the process of leaving some christo-apocyoltptic cult? Trauma? Physical health?

AndrésC64 · Answer

It's not a red flag at all. You just haven't had much luck in finding the right person and the right time.

WonderingManII · Answer

I'm a virgin at 46. At least you are female.

Gaylordslav · Answer

No you would be if you were a guy, you're either ugly or act like your pussy is special but you ain't a loser if you're 30yr female virgin

summerallthetime · Answer

Im turning 34 in a month and still a virgin. Finding a sexual partner is much harder than most would make it seem.

Pohjolan · Answer

No. It raises the question of  why?  you are a virgin but by itself that's a easy fix.

cheating-test_com · Answer

If you were a man, I’d say it’s a problem, because it would mean girls aren’t choosing you. But if you’re a woman, it’s fine — the right guy will value it.

Anonymous · Answer

Normally a guy would feel this way and obviously most people don't agree on why it makes sense for a woman to be a Virgin by a certain age unless she's saving for marriage

Iron_Man · Answer

no it’s not be proud. remain that way until after your wedding night

McSteamy · Answer

Never. It's about who you do with.. not when you do.

MangakaJ96 · Answer

Not to me, it’s not. Sex is not something you need to do as young as possible.

Staximus · Answer

Not as much of a red flag as being the old town bicycle

Smack96 · Answer

No worries. But you may have missed some real fun. Start catching up.😁

Godihateyou · Answer

If you are married, yes. If not? It's a green flag. Congratulations you are extremely rare and valuable. I hope you find a man worthy

karahanlı1453 · Answer

No, I think it's normal, you're protecting yourself from the man you're going to marry.

Efrahim · Answer

Where I live, virgin women are given more importance. In my country, virgin women are given more importance.

Anonymous · Answer

No, I'm more than a decade older than you, and still a virgin... that's even worse.

MasterKS · Answer

yes, pure red flag, you are still living in old era at 30

robocop666 · Answer

no in this day and age this is normal many many people are your not alone

Visrako · Answer

Depends... was it your choice? Because, if it was, then no.

EmmaMary · Answer

WHAT? 😦

Paige90 · Answer

It's a HUGE red flag!

ImalwaysrightOK · Answer

No. It's admirable.

beenherebefore · Answer

No, it's not a red flag at all.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Nah you chillin 🫵🏼👍🏼

tzdc21 · Answer

Depends on why that's the case

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