I don’t know what to do please help?

[Anonymous]

I (21f) lied twice about smoking pot to my boyfriend (25m) and I am not sure what’s gotten into me that I just keep falling back into my old habits. I stopped smoking for 2 years after continuously smoking for 3/4 years and he doesn’t like that I smoke and wanted me to quit. The first time I stopped was 3 months ago and I recently started up again because of family stress. He found out and was mad I didn’t immediately tell him about it. Now he doesn’t want to talk to me and it’s been 2 days. Everytime I talk to him he cuts me off and basically tells me I’m a horrible person and I know I am. I wish he understood me more. I know I did wrong and should have told him everything from the beginning I just didn’t want him to look down on me or be disappointed in me because of how highly I look up to him and wanted to protect him from my messed up life. Please give me any advice I feel lost and I don’t know what to do. I’m such a horrible human and if I could take everything back I’d give anything to.

[Finchie40]

Well the thing is you enjoy smoking weed , if you didn’t you wouldn’t be doing it period. So if he can’t tolerate the fact that you like to smoke weed then he isn’t the guy for you , find yourself a guy that likes to smoke as well

[ManOnFire]

Smoking weed is not an easy thing for a non-smoker to deal with. But regardless he shouldn't say you're a horrible person for that. It doesn't make you a horrible person, you just have a bad habit. Which is going to affect your relationship.

If you feel like he should understand your problem then you should talk to him about it, but it also doesn't mean he has to put up with it either.

[Nikki1989]

First, take a deep breath. You are not a horrible human being. You made a mistake, you lied, and you're struggling with a habit, but that doesn't define your entire worth. People make mistakes.

[AI Opinion]

Hey, beautiful stranger! 🌟 Here’s a virtual hug from your friendly neighborhood relationship coach! It sounds like you're stuck between a rock and a hard place, huh? We all make mistakes, and we all have our moments—you're human, not a horrible person! 🥰 Communication is your magic wand here. Let your guy know how stressed you are and why you did what you did. 💌 It’s about bridging the gap and showing him you’re willing to work on it! Remember, relationships are a two-way street, love. Sending you all the good vibes! 🌈

[Avicenna]

Come clean now before he catches you lying or doing it. But you also need to have a credible plan for preventing it from happening again

[OlderAndWiser]

What will it take for you to stop?

[Staximus]

It's just weed, it's not meth for fuck's sake. You don't need to lie about smoking weed. Lying about something so insignificant means you'll lie about anything. That's the real problem. Your boyfriend is an idiot if he thinks weed is a big deal and you're better of without somebody so naive.

[FunkyMonkee]

Either stop being a viper or find a boyfriend that wouldn't care if you smoke.

[Pterodon]

You’re not compatible

[Bunnybuny]

You don't fit