Do you really believe you can love two people at once?

Question

I think I asked this before but I didn't believe it before but now I'm starting to.

BobbieBoy666 · Accepted Answer

Yes, you can

It is possible to be in love with or have feelings for more than one person, and it may even be a common occurrence. If you're in this situation, it may be helpful to decipher which person you have stronger feelings for and decide how to proceed from there.

There are differing viewpoints and experiences regarding the ability to love two people at once.

Some sources suggest it's possible
According to BetterHelp, falling in love with two people simultaneously may be more common than some might think.
Research indicates that some individuals identify as polyamorous, meaning they participate in romantic relationships with or are attracted to more than one person at a time.
Some find that one person may fulfill needs related to comfort and safety, while another sparks excitement and adventure, according to BetterHelp.
Others point to the capacity for boundless love, similar to loving multiple children or friends equally, suggesting that romantic love is not necessarily a finite resource.
One individual describes loving a long-term partner deeply and also developing a strong emotional attachment and falling in love with a best friend, demonstrating that it's possible to experience both types of love simultaneously.

Others hold a different perspective
Some believe that true love, in the context of romantic relationships, should be exclusive and centered on loyalty and commitment to one person.
They may argue that pursuing a second relationship while already committed to one suggests a lack of something in the existing relationship rather than the ability to truly love two people simultaneously.
The argument also arises that time and energy are limited resources, making it difficult to fully dedicate oneself to multiple partners.
They might argue that having multiple relationships leads to being "stretched thin" and potentially neglecting one or both partners.

Important considerations
Navigating a situation where you believe you love two people requires careful introspection and understanding your feelings for each individual.
Honest communication with all parties involved is paramount, especially if considering a non-monogamous relationship structure like polyamory.
It's important to differentiate between infatuation and deep love when evaluating feelings for multiple people.
Seeking guidance from a therapist or relationship counselor can provide valuable support in exploring these complex emotions and navigating the situation ethically and respectfully.

Angelo75 · Accepted Answer

Yep. I've been in this dilemma more than once.

It's not nice at all. Cuz at the end, you know you are gonna break the heart of one of them. And that's gonna mess you up pretty deep and for pretty long if you truly love both.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

You may love two people at once but not in the same way. One is different because you are IN LOVE with the person and that's completely different than loving someone else at the same time.
There are so many types of love to begin with.
You can love a friend, your children, your family, etc., but to have two women in your life and love them in the same way or just as much isn't possible because every love relationship is different and holds a different meaning.

NordicInScandinavia · Accepted Answer

For me, then love is a choice and yes you can definitely choose to love two people at the same time. But as mentioned here before: I don't think you can't love equally since no relation is the same nor is the fundament that the choice of loving someone is build on.

This is not a choice I'm particularly interested in making. I'm good with my one. 😅

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the heart is a wild little beast, isn’t it? 😏 As a relationship coach, I can tell you that loving two people at once is totally possible. Love isn't a single size fits all, and those feelings can pop up unexpectedly. It's all about how you handle it—communication, honesty, and respect are key here. Just watch out for any love triangles that could turn into messy geometry! 😉

ohsheeT · Answer

Of course you can and here is the thing. You can love 5 people at the same time

And when you truly love your self. You can love 100 people at the same time

And when this happens you go to another level in life. And you start learning about love true love deeper love how to love there is just so much more to every thing in life but we don't allow ourselves to go there or experience things we are meant to.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

How do you define "being in love?" For me, it is a feeling that I have met the woman who satisfies me and makes me feel contented. She is the woman with whom I want to spend the rest of my life, not HALF of the rest of my life. And I do not want a woman who wants me only half of the time.

Finchie40 · Answer

If you are talking about relationship love , then No, you can only love one , you can care about the other person , but you can only be in love with one of them . Basically the second person you love , is your true Love , because if you truly loved the first one? , you wouldn’t have accepted the 2nd one period

HawkPerception · Answer

I love my mom and my brother. That's 2 people already. If you're talking about romantic love, I think you can. But realistically, you should choose one of them that you have more feelings for or is more compatible with you, even if it's only slightly more. Otherwise it's not fair to either of them.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

If you can't... then I hope to God you don't have too many kids or have a big family.

Now I know you mean sexually and the fact is... yes you can, but you can also restrict that love. I mean if you couldn't then why does it happen?

As a guy that gets stuck between side chick and wife once in a while... I'm really not trying to hurt anybody, I love them both. But... loyalty comes down to other things just like when a broke ass woman leaves a broke ass man for a guy that has a trailer even though she thinks he's disgusting and fat.

When it comes to the love game... You can love but other shit matters too is all I'm saying.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Monogamy was created as a societal control mechanism by patriarchal religions. Not to ensure security for married women but to ensure the security of men's "property" against poaching by other males. It really is that simple. Monogamy is not "natural". There is nothing wrong with monogamy. But there's nothing wrong with variety either. Morality is an abstract concept created by humans. Biology on the other hand is natural.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

I also thought it was impossible, but over time I began to think it is improbable instead.

It is improbable because, to me, it would mean that I'm going to invest a lot of time deep sharing with a second girl who has also everything I needed from the first one. It would also imply that I overlooked the risks I'm taking in doing what I'm doing. So, improbable yep, but not technically impossible.

Ironic_Method · Answer

Of course you can. Can you love both your parents? Can you love more than one friend? More than one pet?

Wild that people think you can only love one person.

Whether or not it's a good idea to foster a romantic love with more than one person is a separate issue.

Caroline91 · Answer

Yes, I believe you can. But making a commitment to one and honoring that commitment is what keeps it from getting messy. Put your focus on just one and keep it there..

MicroJ · Answer

Of course you can. Now if you’re talking from a romantic point, You definitely can too, as I’m currently learning.

Nikki1989 · Answer

You can love many people at once if you have the love to give. Some people, on the other hand, hardly have enough love for one person, much less two or more.

Brittanyrunner06 · Answer

You definitely can but, whenever you’re in one of those situations, someone always ends up getting hurt, so it can be really difficult. A lot of the time, multiple people end up getting hurt.

Kelley1 · Answer

You can love any number of people at the same time. Do you love one parent and not the other? Do you love your grandmother and not your parents and children?

itsannalee · Answer

Like family and lover yes why not. But 3 lover nope. If you love the 1st one, you wouldn’t falling in love again with the 2nd one. So that’s not love, just lust.

avery58 · Answer

Romantic love, no you can't. It's a special feeling, what makes it love if that person isn't one in a million for you?

jazzy34 · Answer

Impossible. Love is when you know the good, the bad, and the ugly about a person and you still choose to love him or her. I don't think you can do that with multiple people.

BCRanger10 · Answer

No. Have  feelings ? Possibly (though you should not). Love though?  NO!

katiesmuff · Answer

Absolutely it can happen and don't think it is all that rare.

genericname85 · Answer

sure. you love your mom and your dad. these are already 2 people. then your children and probably your husband. so what argument is there for not loving even more than that?

Agape93 · Answer

Yeah, I love several people at any given time, even romantically.

BadApple69 · Answer

Absolutely. Equally? Nothing is equal in life. You’ll love one more than the other.

Ninania · Answer

Of course! Otherwise my polyamorous lifestyle wouldn't make any sense. 😂

AngryCarl2 · Answer

That depends. Do you mean Christian love or romantic love? Romantically I can only love one person at a time, but maybe that's just me.

Anonymous · Answer

It never happened to me but I think probably yes.

HeartShapedHaze · Answer

I think everyone is different, but for me I believe in having 1 soulmate

Babygirl_S · Answer

As a woman, I can but MOST men get off on the mistreatment of one and love for another. Go figure!

Guanfei · Answer

You can. I did. It was absolutely terrible and I lost both girls.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on the nature of your relationship, and on your personality.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Love, or “be in love with” two people wt a time?

Paige90 · Answer

I can but not sure it's true for everyone

FreyaRed · Answer

yes but not romantically

WhitneySnow · Answer

I do believe that

nolabels · Answer

Yep. C'est la vie!

Communicationisking · Answer

Yes but also it depends.

Abbycado · Answer

Personally, no.

exitseven · Answer

I think that you can believe that you can

Yannae · Answer

Mom and Dad, Girlfriend, Friends.

loveslongnails · Answer

I loved more than 2 people at once.

Kelly6 · Answer

@simslover92 yes I can and already do

WonderingManII · Answer

You can but it won't work in a marriage.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

I think you can, but it sounds messy

Jennz6 · Answer

Sure, mom and pop

Staximus · Answer

Some can but it's not right

msc545 · Answer

You can. It is VERY uncomfortable.

qwerty2469 · Answer

I love lots of people at once

wkhan_87 · Answer

Depends on your definition of love

BLP11520 · Answer

Hollywood thinks so personally I don’t

YourExLover69 · Answer

Yes Jen and awantika for me.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Of course!!

Awantika03 · Answer

Agree 💯

kavakava · Answer

Not equally.

eagle1951 · Answer

yes I do

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