Do you like who you are?

Question

I love me for the most part, but sometimes I struggle to say I like me.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

Yeah I do. It's not like I haven't made mistakes, done stupid things, or hurt people. I have my regrets. But if not for who I am, I would not have had so much fun or experienced so many amazing things.

People like me for some reason.

I was always full of energy and eager to try new things.

I started learning guitar when I was 11, stuck with it, and was a pretty good lead guitarist and vocalist in garage bands by high school. That made me popular. I always had a steady girlfriend, starting when I was 16.

By high school, I was pretty rebellious and anti-authoritarian. I had seen how people in authority behaved.

I was always hard working and tenacious when it came to employment.

I was handed a job as a motor vehicle damage field adjuster/appraiser with an auto insurance company when I was 26. The pay was great and the benefits were amazing. In my travels, I met some great people and saw some amazing things. I saved a lot of money in a 401(k) and retired with a pension after 30 years.

I settled down and got married when I was 42. My wife and I moved when I requested a transfer to northern California from Los Angeles. We were able to buy 30 gorgeous acres with a view and build a house when I was 48. We live sustainably with a grid-tied solar voltaic system, our own well and septic system, a small orchard and veggie gardens.

When we first moved here, we joined a nondenominational church, became very active, and met some amazing new friends. It was a way of meeting people.

I got recruited into a local environmental nonprofit organization and wound up serving as the Board President for 5 years. We would hold large, educational events and I would have to speak at times before 200 or 300 people. I became respected and very well known in town. It was a big change from my previous life.

I started playing music again and, by 2012 or so, was guitar and lead vocals in my own rock band until 2020 when covid mandates shut everything down.

Over the years I questioned everything and educated myself. I quit believing politicians and media. I surrounded myself with people who were smarter and better informed than myself. I read lots of books. I'm not influenced by political ideology or consensus. I changed my views on many things that I once believed and continue to modify or change my opinions as I continue to learn.
I like that about myself.

I love my wife of 29 years and I love my home.

I like how things turned out. So yes, I like who I am while being aware of my flaws and shortcomings.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

I'm definitely not the ideal version of myself. I can honestly say I don't know if I like who I am.

I'm proud of my moral compass.

I think I'd definitely get along with someone like me. I'm pretty easy going and kind to everyone (unless I'm treated poorly).

I'd like to think I'm intelligent.

But I have low confidence, motivation, initiative, grit, and perseverance. A lot of my lack of confidence comes from where I am in life. It affects my relationships negatively because I'm always so self conscious about it, to the point it almost becomes my whole personality.

I'm definitely not the guy I want to be. I want to be the friendly neighborhood guy. The guy that confidently knocks the doors of my neighbors and invitates them to my place for barbeques. I want to be the guy that goes out to see his loved ones (friends and family alike often). The fun uncle to all my nieces and nephews, hopefully a loving and fun father and husband one day. I want to travel often and be able to share my experiences with others. I want to build my own off grid house and renovate my own campervan. I want to be the handyman guy that people go to when they want some help with stuff.

But right now I'm not even close to that. My low confidence cripples me in life. And I wonder if I'll ever get to where I want to be in life.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

My aim on GAG is to help you embrace your amazing self. Loving yourself is a powerful thing, but liking yourself is such a fun romance, right? We all have our moments of self-doubt when a little self-critique lovebombs its way in. Try focusing on your unique qualities and the experiences that shaped you. Occasionally even write a love letter to yourself! You've got a heart-stealer in there, ready to shine. 🥰🌟

ohsheeT · Answer

No im 1 person all day long. Yes I like myself and I know if I want to smile all day we im the only one on the inside that can make that happen.. even if something doesn't go right. I don't have time to be down about it.. I adapt fix it move on and it was what it was..

But yes im happy everyday until im not. I fix it and move on

OlderAndWiser · Answer

By the time you get to be 70 years old, you will have changed as much of yourself as you desire, and which is within your capacity, and you will love what remains.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Mostly, but there always seems room for improvement.

WhiteSteve · Answer

Absolutely. Honestly, I never used to think this way of myself, but really, the last ten years of politics in America, that’s made me realize just how much I am an exponentially, astronomically, INFINITELY better person than most Americans seem to be in 2025. Like I can say UNEQUIVOCALLY, “I am better than these people.”

That feels weird and uncomfortable to say, and I can’t stress enough that I say it simply observationally, rooted in no amount of conceit or even a desire to be perceived as “better.” I don’t want any medals or accolades; I want people to think and behave on my level. I want to be the average. I’m apparently an excellent human being almost by default, because everyone else’s bar seems to be so low.

One of the most character-killing flaws a person can have is a lack of empathy, or having only selective empathy for people they decide they like, not just universal human empathy.

If money, power, privilege, perceived societal advantage based on some kind of demography, personal “freedom”, political stability, military might, bigotry, some weird preservation effort of demographic imbalances, or selfish desires outweigh your pursuit of universal empathy….. you’re branded for life to me: BAD PERSON.

THERE IS NO CAUSE MORE IMPORTANT THAN UNIVERSAL HUMAN EMPATHY. Full stop. End of lecture. Please hit the lights on your way out. WE’RE DONE HERE, no debates on this one.

This kid says it better than I ever could, so you’re better off watching this for four minutes than reading 10,000 words from me for ten minutes, lmfao.

But this COULD NOT be more spot on to how I feel….

https://www.youtube.com/embed/OoZKSJ1n6Us

And this kid, quick one😝

https://www.youtube.com/embed/SSu13XruX8Q

kmg9150 · Answer

there's always three versions of ourself, who we were, who we are, and who we will be…. Unfortunately I wish sometimes I had a better understanding who they were, sometimes I feel as if its me, other times I feel its who I thought I needed to be, whether for survival and/or to what was wanted of me. Its like everyone around me wants me to be this or that and change to better suit there lives, but no one seems to feel they should respect my boundaries in how they act towards my life. Struggles. Trauma can be hard to get rid of.

Pearl222 · Answer

I like who I am at my core. Yes, there definitely are some aspects I would want to change about me and become better as a part of personal development, but I like the woman I’m becoming.
Also, I’ve come to realise that so many people who are close to me, love me for my energy, peace and presence which is more valuable than my achievements and appearance. So, it’s really a blessing to be able to mean that much to someone while staying true to myself.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

No. I feel stupid even though I know I'm better than most. I made some bad decisions and I have to live with that knowledge. I legitimately hate myself more than any of you could ever hate me. That's probably what frees me to not seek any approval and just say fucked up shit just because it doesn't matter to me. I watch Trump getting all this praise and yes I support him, but I'm jealous... that should've been me. I do nothing but win in the eyes of some, but I could've done better... a lot better. I made bad choices and alcohol is my only real friend... a friend I can't get real life to fuck off so I can just fuck that bitch to death. Is what it is.

But...

Sometimes I like myself... I fuck bitches way more than normal guys do, I get to not work for a living, I'm given. Blessed by the Gods, and have talents that are half god... It's just... could've done so much better... are you picking up what I'm laying down?

Angelo75 · Answer

Don't sweat it.
The older you get, the more you learn to change the parts of yourself that are important FOR YOU.

Eventually you will reach a point that you can rationalize a lot of the way you are, based on past experiences and wisdom.

Benjiman19 · Answer

I don't hate me, don't dislike me, don't like me and don't love me. I don't have any specific feelings about myself.. I'm just myself. Living life best I can and doing what I need to do to get by. I don't pay attention to others and how they feel about me or what they might think. It's okay for them to judge me. It's whatever. But I don't judge myself in the same manner.

TrimmedTip · Answer

Most days, yeah—I’ve worked hard to become someone I respect. But I get the struggle. Self-love isn’t a switch; it’s a daily negotiation between ‘hell yeah’ and ‘work in progress.’ As long as you’re trying, you’re winning

Iron_Man · Answer

Do what you do best in life Elaine and work at that keep your head up and find some good friends that are loyal

NordicInScandinavia · Answer

I do like myself yes. I'm true to myself, my values and morals, I care for others and the world - and believe overall that I'm a good person.

thegreenyogi · Answer

Yes I do but sometimes my insecurities due to things people have done or said to me in the past sometimes still get in the way and sometimes I forget I like who I am and forget to love myself more.

Vevv123 · Answer

I love myself very very much. I am very grateful for the person that I am and every single part of me is very special and very valuable. 🙏

ariadneR · Answer

If you asked me this 10 years ago, I would have said no. Now, however, I can say without any hesitation, I love myself. I love how I am, how I look, how I love, how I feel etc.

lexxiliesbae · Answer

All I can say to this is, Im not who I was nd I'm not who I will be yet. Therefor I only like me, some of the time.

OneViewpoint · Answer

I'm fine with who I am. There are vast numbers of people worse off than me. Who am I to complain?

Circushowcowboy · Answer

Yea I like who I am overall. I think I’d be friends with me if I met me lol

RavVid · Answer

I'm quite happy with who I am. There are quite a few ways I need to improve but there always will areas to improve.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

I do like who I am, and I think I’ll like who I will be even more.

InknKink · Answer

We have a love hate relationship. It's a twisted engagement at times.

BadApple69 · Answer

I may not be perfect but I do the best I can always. So yes I like the person I am.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I do like who i am but sometimes i hate myself for being too good with others because i always have this feeling that i'm in the wrong place at the wrong time...

stratford · Answer

I'm a self certified loser and that's what I'm stuck with. Doesn't matter if I like me or not.

Babygirl_S · Answer

No, I’m too bubbly and certain crushes make me feel stupid. I want to be more serious and get things done.

Ironco · Answer

I believe we all go through those times and moments. I just live life like it could be over at any moment. Have fun and do things that make you happy and at peace.

Shiprex · Answer

Much the same. Mostly yes sometimes hate my flaws.

lorenzomichael · Answer

Absolutely I love who I am I’m a great father, friend, co worker, neighbor, and sometimes companion. And the fact that I’m alive yes I like myself.

nawtee_me · Answer

I do indeed like who I am. And it took me some time to figure out just who I am but I am hlad I did.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. I have rough days and react accordingly. I'm still going to hell but own my shit.

Skyros · Answer

More so than years past. Some days I force it, others…it comes naturally. We just have to keep going, Jesus is the ultimate example of never giving up. He never gave up on us.

Cubus · Answer

Mostly, although there are some things in me I don't like.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

Not really, no. But I'm trying to be better.

Dongie · Answer

Within reason. I've not patience with anyone, including me.

Jltakk · Answer

Absolutely not, It's little wonder no one shows interest, I wouldn't either. This outlook was a result that was gradual over time.

Mrnrdsecret · Answer

I’ve forgotten who I am. The things that use to light me up don’t anymore because people didn't accept me for who I was and I had to adapt.

WhatIsYourZodiac · Answer

I love myself so much... I am sure I can contribute in making this world a better place to live

BeechImFabulous · Answer

I'm content with myself. That's about all at this point.

Anonymous · Answer

Not really, just like you said, it's a struggle.

qwerty2469 · Answer

No. I wish I wasn't a sociopath. I wish that what I fake, was real. I wish I didn't put people off or down right scare them with my blank stare or serial killer vibe. I've never killed anyone that didn't deserve it.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Yes. I have no issues with myself. It’s the rest of humanity that I have issues with

Dinklex3 · Answer

I do… Very much so 🤗

MemeSupreme · Answer

no not really blame my parents lol

sage2021 · Answer

Yes... I really do!😎

WhitneySnow · Answer

I’m pretty content with me

queenofcardio · Answer

Majority of the time yeah

serious · Answer

Yes of course.

FreyaRed · Answer

I don't want to change anything.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Yeah, I  like  myself.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Unquestionably!

AnneTheLady · Answer

Sometimes I do sometimes I don’t

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

But you admitted it, good 😁👏🏼

exitseven · Answer

I have ben me for a long time. I am okay with it.

Jennz6 · Answer

@simslover92  sure

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Yes, God doesn’t make junk

Blackcat1952 · Answer

Sometimes i surprise myself

Abdulw · Answer

Yup but I'm a working progress

Jerre · Answer

Yes, very much!

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I love who I am but im a work in progress

Myra01 · Answer

Yes i love myself

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