What things, if any, about yourself, do you feel insecure about in your romantic relationships?

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Just what’s in the question 😊

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

Especially in the beginning insecurities are normal. There is two extremes obviously of blindly trusting and being insecure. Healthy couples engage in communication they don’t play games or become resentful without a cause. There are valid questions that are to be asked…

If you suspect someone of cheating and respectfully bringing up your concerns leads to someone becoming very overly defensive, start accusing you of doing things, blows it off, changes the subject, gets angry, etc. That isn’t a normal reaction. It’s also not normal to just go off on someone if you don’t have proof.

It’s normal to wonder whether someone’s intentions are genuine or not. It’s normal to wonder if you’re being cheated on. It’s normal to wonder if there is something about you that could be causing someone to loose interest. Those are valid concerns…. That yes in some cases are true in other cases they’re not. That’s why people should TALK…

If someone has something that makes someone less attracted to the other. That’s a hard conversation to have. But that’s the only way to either work through it or respectfully break things off. Some relationships aren’t meant to be.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

I overthink everything. I tend to fear failure (even though I know failure is part of the path to success and have heard it a gigillion times). I project my insecurities (because I feel behind in life, I assume people would judge me for it, which gives low confidence vibes, although I can come across as confident in times I don't project it). I isolate to process/withdraw when overwhelmed (It can come across as cold sometimes even if it's not my intention). I can be too critical or both myself and my partner. I don't protect my boundaries as much as I should (it's hard for me to say no to others, which can lead to quiet resentment over time). And I tend to focus too much on what's missing, rather than what I have.

beenherebefore · Accepted Answer

I have an anxious attachment style and in the beginning of my long term relationship it caused a few disagreements and arguments. My anxiety used to go over the charts when my Partner was away and especially when he would go out with his friends or travel abroad. I even remember crying by myself imagining all the possible scenarios in my head. Having many conversations with my Partner and explaining to him how I was feeling helped a lot. My Partner is very understanding but this is also a consistent inner work that I have to do by myself. I see a huge improvement and as the years go by my relationship becomes more solid and that's a great reassurance for me I no longer get as flustered as before.

Bitter_Sweet94 · Accepted Answer

I think my main insecurity is over investing too quickly.

I have a tendency to care deeply and give a lot of myself before really knowing if the other person’s intentions align.

It’s not about doubting them, it’s more about protecting my own emotional space while still being open to connection.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

You’ve just touched on my goal: helping people navigate relationships in a flirty and fun way! We all have our insecurities in love. One of mine was being introverted and fearing it might come off as detached. I learned that true love happens when you embrace your quirks. Nothing says "I care" better than opening up conversationally—cue the banter and a little eyebrow raise! 😉

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I am not a charismatic, energetic man. I am stable, calm, loyal, and dependable, but some women might perceive me as boring, and that is not what women want.

Simslover92 · Answer

I have more than one insecurity. My impatience and impulsivity. They tend to drive things in the wrong direction.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

First of all, i have to say that i'm so happy to see you back sktyscrapper girl, it's been a very long time, no see hehe

I have sent you a couple of messages just to check on you and now i'm happy because you're okay and i hope that you're healthy and happy too 😊

Now the answer to your question, well i don't think that i have any insecurities because i have reached a point in my life where i believe that the other should accept me the way i am snd if they don't, than so long woman 😌

Lliam · Answer

I used to be insecure about the size of my penis. It is very small when flaccid and just under 6" to the bone when erect. I had several long term relationships with girls who loved me, though, and seemed perfectly satisfied. Then I was in a two year relationship with a gorgeous, hypersexual, orgasmic 30 year old who made me feel like a sexual god, so I got over my insecurity.

The only other thing I can think of is the fact that I realized that I don't communicate a lot about certain things because I'm afraid of saying the wrong thing or having it come out wrong. I can't think of any good examples right now.

blondfrog · Answer

Wow this is perfect timing of your question. Since I am not in a relationship I can actually comment. I am very secure in my relationship except I just have some extra pouch in my belly. That's the only thing I am insecure of, which I am trying to get rid of.

Zack-Bann · Answer

I have a few
I usually deal with them in silence to avoid driving her away

I think one big one is financial

I often see couples take these elaborate trips, stay in fancy hotels, and so on

I have a decent job and make decent money but I wouldn’t say I’m at that level yet
And I want to be able to do all of that

ABC1x1x · Answer

I've been married for 22 years. Up until a couple years ago our sex life was perfect. Now im afraid to have sex with her because my dick is too fat and she tears in her old age. That and she comes in like 11 minutes and I can't come in less than 30 minutes. So most the time we stop when she's done and now she feels ugly or not good enough amd there is nothing I can do about it. I started telling her I have ED so I can avoid sex altogether

Gobbyjobby52 · Answer

I haven't dated by my one fear is I that i could hurt them in some non abusive way by not being the right match and being too this or that but when i remind myself they are adults in their own right and won't leave over a broken cup, i feel a sudden fear that they could walk out on the relationship any day because they have separate autonomy and bandwidth, so both takes are scary to me. Feels like a ticking time bomb and i worry i'd enmesh into them suddenly.

ThisDudeHere · Answer

I'm kinda self conscious about the fact that I had little to no friends as a teenager so I missed out on a lot of the experiences that I could have and have fewer things in common with peers.

Grond21 · Answer

Hmm. How significant does it have to be to be an Insecurity?

Sevenpointfive · Answer

a million things sometimes all at once, usually all at once.

WonderingManII · Answer

I have more than one insecurity I’m aware of.

worldscolide · Answer

I have a lot of insecurities. But i deal with them when they come up.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Trusting a romantic partner with all details of my finances.

MemeSupreme · Answer

literally being enough in almost any way you can think of lol B-BUT I'VE GOTTEN BETTER in the past few years

RavVid · Answer

You always have to watch out for outsiders negatively affecting your relationship.

DrPepper12 · Answer

I'm a mysterious bundle of frailties, anxieties & contradictions. To wit. Human

TallAnon · Answer

I'm incredibly boring 😁

MysticDevice · Answer

I guess I worry she'll get bored and move on

Ad_Quid_Orator · Answer

Fear of failing career wise.

wkhan_87 · Answer

I have some insecurities.

Anonymous · Answer

I have many, mostly related to girls.

Anonymous · Answer

Penis size. I'm 6 inches. Being cheated on.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

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