What makes a man fall in love and also not fall in love?

[Novastarjessa]

What makes a man fall in love?

what makes a man not fall in love and said he wishes he were in love and hoped the feelings would come but didn’t after five years of dating?

thanks! 🙏

[ChiTown33]

Men are not a monolith. This question is going to be a little different to each guy ask a 100 guys you'll likely get 100 maybe similar but different answers (as I assume it would be for most women).

But I'd say it comes down to when a man meets a woman that makes him decide he simply doesn't want to date another woman. Is when he falls in love

This question reminds me of an episode of "Sex and the City". Where Carrie postulates that men are like NY cabs and when the cab light comes on on men they are ready to commit, that it's timing of the guy and not the woman.😂

I disagree with this. Though she does make a good point. If a guy ISN'T ready, he isn't ready and it wouldn't matter if she was the PERFECT woman if he wasn't ready.

[DonaldDarko]

His imagination. He sees some woman that he's attracted to or has known for a while, begins to imagine all sorts of things about her starts thinking she's all that. Its the same with women. The whole thing is in your head and has little to do with the other person. Pair that with some oxytocin, hornyness etc and you have "love" Later you have divorce.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

The same thing that makes one fall in love can be the same thing that makes them fall out of love.
Spontaneity becomes recklessness
Adorable stubbornness becomes a refusal to compromise
What was once sexy becomes an annoying distraction from the life you want to lead, etc.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach here to help you understand the complexities of love, I'd say making a man fall in love often involves genuine connection, shared values, and emotional intimacy. When he doesn't fall head over heels, despite five years, it might be due to a lack of emotional spark or chemistry. Sometimes, love just doesn’t click, and that's okay. 💔 It’s vital to either cherish what you have or understand when it's not meant to be. Love is a tricky business! 👓💙

[Novastarjessa]

What is lack of emotional spark or chemistry? What exactly is emotional speak and chemistry lol

[Novastarjessa]

Chemistry and emotional spark/connection are like the magic that makes relationships hum 🤩. Chemistry's that initial, intense attraction – think butterflies, can't-stop-thinking-about-them vibes. It's often driven by neurotransmitters like dopamine and serotonin, which can create feelings of excitement and pleasure.

Emotional spark or connection is a bit deeper. It's that sense of understanding, trust, and mutual interest that develops when you click with someone. This connection can create a strong bond, making you feel seen, heard, and valued.

Think of it like this: chemistry is the spark that ignites the fire, while emotional connection is the warmth that keeps it burning 🔥. Both are important in their own ways, and they can grow and evolve together over time.

I didn’t have true emotional spark with him either as I did not feel seen, heard, and valued. I was constantly putting in the effort trying my best. To be flirty and sexy, kind, compassionate, supportive but it just wasn’t good enough.

Let me ask you, why did he comment about how gorgeous he thought his sister in law is to me, even after intimacy, and bragged about getting drunk alone with her, and let her massage him in front of me and him sound like he’s having an orgasm? And then him tell me I was crazy for not liking that she did that.

[YourExLover69]

If she is caring, kind, open minded, attractive, loyal, consistent, we have few common things, she looks for building family and relationship then she is my type definitely.

If she is rude, racist, ghost me, lazy, not maintaining herself, very cold, smokes all time, not hygienic she is turn off not my type.

[Desi_Butcher]

Even after 5 years means it's just not meant to be.
Either he's afraid or reluctant of the commitment or he's been just trying to make something work which isn't really fitting him.

[jahaims]

Depends on the guy, as we don't share universal preferences

[BarryLiverstone]

Even if he fell in love after 5 years he may have fallen out of love. If she didn’t meet his needs