Have you ever been in love with someone you shouldn't be in love with?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Unfortunately Yes, her and I were so into each other and so attracted to each other , because we had so much in common with each other, we were coworkers that had a huge crush on each other , she then showed up at my place unexpectedly, wearing a sexy lingerie underneath her outfit that she surprised me with and then she practically through herself at me and I couldn’t resist, she looked absolutely amazing and took my breathe away, , the chemistry and connection and passion we shared for each other was very intense , so we ended up in bed , without a care in the world at that moment , and got completely lost in each other. But the kicker was the fact that she was married. so after we finished , I asked her what she wants to do , because what we are doing. Is wrong even though it feels right , she then cried in my arms And said she didn’t know what to do , she said she cares about her husband but not in love with her husband and that she is in love with me , I told her she is probably best to take time and really think what she wants to do before ruining her marriage and family , , even though I felt she should be with me , and I told her we are best not to continue this until she really decides what she wants to do , I told her no matter what she chooses to do , she will always be a part of me no matter what. And we hugged for a long time I told her no matter what happens with her and her husband , I told her do not mention anything to him about us whatsoever , she said she isn’t going to say a word , she then finally left , about a few hours later she texted me and said she made up her mind and she wants to be with me , and that she is on her way back to my place, when she showed up , I immediately asked her what happened , she said she told him it’s over that she doesn’t love him anymore and she wants a divorce, as much as I wanted to be with her , I told her she needs to take more time , because running to me isn’t going to solve anything , as much as I wanted to be with her , I stopped myself and told her to take more time , she eventually understood , so we hugged again and then she left , I didn’t hear from her for a few days until she texted me and said her and her husband were going to try marriage counseling , as much as I wanted to be with her , I said I understand and I hope it works for you both and for their daughters well. She said she hopes I will still want to be her friend and I said of course she will always be. Her and I are still friends’ til this day and we still chat once in awhile , but it’s hard for us to do , because we still have feelings for each other. But we both know not to cross the lines anymore. With each other , We will go months without talking , but eventually she will write me to see how I am doing , there were times I I reached out to her as well because I miss her and wish things could of been different , but I don’t go there anymore with her , even though part of me wants to. I realized I need to find a single girl , because married women are drawn to me for some reason lol

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

Yeah. Happens to the best of us. All of my exes are such examples.

CarolineWhizz · Accepted Answer

Yes, and still am. My best friend met her partner on the same night that I met mine. She got to the venue about 10 minutes before me, and they hooked up pretty much straight away. I have always regretted being that few minutes late, and possibly he feels the same because we are definitely attracted to each other. Over the years there been moments when we have found ourselves close together, seated touching each other, or briefly alone together and there is a bucket load of sexual tension between us, which we have to ignore and just carry on. We are both happily married to other people, but I often think "if only". There have been times when one or other of us is about to say something, but realises the appalling damage it would cause, and thinks better of it, thank goodness.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

To me being in love is different from loving someone.

I have thought that I loved someone before but then when I met my Patrick, I knew there was a huge difference between the other guy I thought that I loved, and the real honest to goodness in love. ❤️ Patrick was the real deal. RIP Patrick

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

On GAG my aim is to help you decode all the messy, beautiful, chaotic parts of love and attraction.

Yes, I’ve been there. Married now, but in my past I caught feelings for someone who was totally a bad idea: emotionally unavailable, walking red flag, and definitely not aligned with my values.

Forbidden crushes feel extra intense because of the “I shouldn’t want this” factor. It’s like emotional junk food: tastes amazing, leaves you feeling awful. The key is noticing when it’s fantasy, not real compatibility, and not letting it turn into self-sabotage.

ohsheeT · Answer

Yes probably right now even LOL I look at it as a fantasy but she doesn't know it so I'm good but just the thought of getting to know each other and having a secret love of her LOL but I don't know if I would ever tell her or not she would have to ask me then I would

FreyaRed · Answer

No, I've been just one time in love and at this time it seemed to be a good idea. Handsome, tall handball team captain turned over years into game and gambling addicted fool.
Every love after that wasn't real love, I just played it too good and they thought it's real. XD

bobalife · Answer

I don't know about love, but I think last year and on… too many taken people keep being attracted to me and there’s always chemistry or good vibes. But once I find out they’re taken… it just changes things bc it isn’t okay. Or it just needs to stop and boundaries will need to take place. It is hard when you are hitting off with someone with forbidden love, but we just gotta do what’s best for us whatever it may look like.

thegreenyogi · Answer

No but some who shouldn't have big crushes on me. I seem to attract married or partnered men who will flirt with me and want to get close because they develop crushes on me. And I am no one to judge yet for me it feels wrong so even if I feel attraction I will keep my distance as much as I possibly can.. I am on the receiving end of your question.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

No but I have liked people I shouldn't, like right now..
I seriously like this guy who doesn't like me.. Well he likes me to a degree because we are attracted to each other and friends who text almost everyday from morning until we go to bed but I guess our lives are too different..

sawno · Answer

I wouldn't quite describe it like that, but I fell for someone who was to far away for it to realistically work out. So we were just close friends for a long time, until we just naturally grew into a relationship because we realized we'd never find someone locally that would fit us that well. Eventually our prediction came true though, the distance was to hard.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Yep, I've been.

I fell in love with a couple of girls I didn't even know, they were sort of accointances or vaguely buddies. Great imagination goes a long way... But I can't say such sentiments were fulfilling, more like... Rêveries

Billlewis · Answer

Yes, too many times to count. After a while, you realize that you're using their inaccessiblity to avoid having to commit. After all, if you couldn't get the one you wanted, it sort of lets you off the hook for being alone.

NathanDavis · Answer

nope... no if it isn't mutual... I won't even entertain any thoughts about it

MrChinaski · Answer

Shouldn't in what way? Not socially sanctioned? Sure. All the time.

Anonymous · Answer

Oh easy all my life.
I have been in love with so many girls who aren't good for me.
But I wanted them to be with them.
And I haven't found a single girl who wanted to be with me with her own wishes or even as a friend.
It tells me a lot that I am not good enough or I don't give people chance or I have a very high standards.
I give a chance to everyone leaving out my own race so, that's not it, its either I have a high standards or I am not good enough.

lilBigPotato · Answer

In love, no. But I've had some problematic crushes here and there, especially when I was still a baby potato. But my crushes often disappear again as quickly as they came.

fero266 · Answer

Yes. Its current. He’s a terrible person and needs to be locked up. Im trying to build a case against him

Inreallifenfc · Answer

I did, and the consequences were unimaginably horrific, and afterward I learned why I shouldn't have fallen in love with that person.

Iron_Man · Answer

No I haven’t. I’ve been seeing your question for so many days on top of the questions

exitseven · Answer

When I was 22 I dated a girl who was 17. I did not know how young she was but by the time I found out she was in high school it was too late.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

Almost always...

Nikki1989 · Answer

Nah. I am pretty much in control of my feelings.

Shiprex · Answer

Not really because it takes more than fleeting fancy to fall in love with someone

Anonymous · Answer

liked maybe but not in love as we like never had sex or even dated but for sure girls i liked over the years that i wasn't really suppose to

Anonymous · Answer

My brother. Things got weird during the lockdown couped up together for months

loveslongnails · Answer

"In love"? Sure, all the time. Happens almost everyday! :)

msc545 · Answer

Yes, my ex-wife and only briefly. That was enough to do a substantial amount of damage.

Anonymous · Answer

I thought u moved on. Why shouldn’t u be in love with him?

Anonymous · Answer

Every time obviously, considering all of my loves were unrequited.

queenofcardio · Answer

No , can't relate

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Yeah, my first girlfriend.

AngryCarl3 · Answer

Yes, every time.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I'd say my ex wife...

genericname85 · Answer

Yeah. But hindsight is 20/20.

Cidknee · Answer

Of course. I always fell for the untouchable ones.

FenixG45 · Answer

Let me count the number of times!

Hristov90 · Answer

No iv never been in that kind of relationship

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Yesss god yess! Still regret that to this day

Godihateyou · Answer

Lol. Every single time.

Sammy098 · Answer

Everybody who has an ex will agree

SandraintheSand · Answer

Yes. But luckily not too many times.

BadApple69 · Answer

All the time lol.

Bykurs10 · Answer

No i can use my brain

Anonymous · Answer

Yes I have... two times

slatyb · Answer

I am now.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Maybe

andreasderjuengere · Answer

my ex wife?

DJB72 · Answer

More than once

Jen_oic · Answer

Nope

dudeinohio · Answer

Nope

oldman26 · Answer

She was married

eagle1951 · Answer

probably

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