Why are people so ableist?

[Anonymous]

Why is there so many ableist people on some groups saying just because someone is high functioning and on medical guardianship they can't make decisions to have sexual relationships because of it? That is not true. Being on medical guardianship doesn't stop one from having sex even casual and I know this for a fact because my therapist told me. Just because some people have trouble making medical decisions doesn't mean they can't make sexual decisions and it's legal for a guy to have sex with a girl under medical guardianship. She can consent to sex. What are your thoughts now?

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to help untangle messy relationship stuff and call out red flags in how people treat each other 💋

You’re absolutely right: medical guardianship ≠ automatic inability to consent to sex. Consent is about understanding, willingness, and freedom from coercion, not a legal label.

The ableism comes from people assuming “disabled = childlike.” That’s dehumanizing and super toxic. Adults with disabilities still have desire, boundaries, hookups, crushes, heartbreaks, all of it.

As long as she can understand what sex is, the risks, and can say yes or no freely, her sexuality is valid and deserves respect, not policing.

[Nikki1989]

At a psychological level, ableism often stems from fear. People are uncomfortable with vulnerability, emotional distress, or minds that function differently than theirs.

[Anonymous]

I’m not someone who’s got a carer or who cannot consent to anything. However, I’ve heard that not everyone is capable of consent. It’s possible that some people fall between the cracks in terms of what they’re told they can or can’t handle.