My girlfriend became angry at me today, and hit me. help.

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend had been in a great moody for the majority of the day, yet around 4pm she started to became more irritable and angry. For two hours she belittled me and mocked me.. It isn't unusual for her to do it to be honest. I figured it was just another one of her anger spells. She then stopped after I gave her a massage; corny but it works. Then, after a while she started to snoop through my phone. I didn't have a problem with this because I honestly have nothing to hide. At that moment, she found an old message. To a female friend of mine, and the message was also sent prior before my relationship began with my girlfriend. Anyways, she became very angry. Angrier than ever before. She sucker punched me in the side of my head and left a nasty bruise. Mind you, I'm an advid weightlifter and used to take karate courses. Not once did I think about hitting her. Yet, she continued to swing at me whenever I tried to calm her down . When she started to pick kick, I left. Please help me.. I love her with all my heart, but am very confused as to what I should do. I can't put up with her anger issues any longer, especially now that they're becoming physical. Please give me some advice, please..

[Anonymous]

I feel you buddy. There is a lot of EMOTIONAL ABUSE she is perpetrating against you. I know -because I has one of such relationships before- that it will be very difficult for you to leave. But note that your dependency on this woman is unhealthy and it is a direct consequence of you being a victim of abuse. For your sanity, you need to get out of this relationship the quicker the better.

The longer you stay in this relationship, the harder it will be for you to leave and heal your emotional scars. And if you continue in it for too long, you might end up marrying this crazy woman or having kids with her. You need to be responsible and not give an abusive mother to your kids. Isn't that scary? Leave now before it is too late.

You might need to get some professional help. If you are not able to leave this crazy woman by yourself don't feel ashamed of it, just seek for help. Gather as much support from your friends and family. TELL THEM about how crazy she is and ask explicitly for their support. Also try to get help form a competent therapist -one that is not brainwashed to think abuse is only perpetrated against women- and start the path to get your life bak into control.

Just remember its her the crazy, not you. And if what you just wrote in this question is true, be clear of this: SHE IS ABUSIVE and you are a victim of emotional abuse who needs prompt help to get back to who you really are.

[Asker]

Thank you, I honestly never thought it could be possible. Yet, here I am, the victim. Abuse can go both ways, and I am getting help from a therapist.

[Opinion Owner]

I feel you man. I was in a similarly awry situation with my past ex. After I dumped her -cuz thanks God I did- it was hard, very hard. But still, after a while my life has been changing for the better. Now, a year after our break up, I just feel the happiest I have feel in years.

It is sad, when being abused one lives so badly that one forgets how good life can be. You content yourself with the scraps she throws at you when life has so much more to offer. I hope you get over all of this man.

[Anonymous]

She obviously has problems she needs to work out so tell her that she needs to start going to therapy for her abusive nature and mood swings because you do love her and want to be with her but you just can't deal with her the way she acts out.

[britters85]

Um get rid of this girl, she'es disfunctional and abusive. Just tell her you don't have time for the disrespectful comments, mood swings and abusive behavior ! She needs a reality check! You don't treat people like that!

[Asker]

It's very hard to leave her. Even with my parents sending me to therapy, and stating I can't be with her. I'm very close to her, and whenever I'm around her when she's happy I feel amazing. Yet, I do hate her anger and the way I feel during her anger..