I said I love you and she didn't say anything?

[botme]

I told her a couple of days ago that I loved her and she really didn't say anything. She just laid there next to me. Her actions say that nothing is wrong at all. We are just like normal there, but she hasn't mentioned it since. I have been in relationships before and can say I have never felt this strongly about someone after such a short amount of time. We have been going out for about a month and a half. (I know that isn't very long) Our relationship just seems different than other ones I have had. We see each other and talk with each other for hours on end every single day. After I said I love you to her, nothing has seemed to change. Am I over thinking this? Should I be worried? Have I made a huge mistake in telling her I love her to soon?

[bassman]

Yeah...it was much too soon to say I love you out loud. She should be able to sense that you love her without you having to say it. Your actions speak volumes. Girlsare told all the time..."I love you". There are many ways to let her know, without saying it 30 days into a relationship. Now you know how it feels when she doesn't verbalize the feeling back. Awkward. I wait until the girl tells me she loves me...and then I might joke with her a little...and depending on the mood..i may or may not say it back...but I promise she knows I love her without me needing to say it. (Im not saying a guy should never say it.)

I might be concerned that you have shown your cards too soon. But if she shows that she loves you..like I believe you mentioned...then its okay she didn't say I love you back. I feel sorry for this girl.There's nothing worse than someone saying they love you, when you're not ready to say it back. She might be thinking..wow this guy already loves me...after 30 days...but she isn't quite ready to verbalize it...or she just isn't up to your level yet. Girls fall in love much much slower than guys do. You put her in a tough and awkward spot. Put yourself in her shoes. Most women don't take "I love you", lightly...to just be thrown around. I'm not saying that's what you did..but until she really feels a strong love, and chemistry with you...shes not going to be in a rush to use those words. What you said is spilled milk now..don't try to apologize for it now. Just treat her the same as before...and be patient.

[yopyopyop]

Yes, it was too soon, far too soon.

Was it a mistake ? You'll know that in the future. Just stay the usual you, and eventually she'll tell you something too. But don't be in a hurry.

[cazza3]

Too soon is completely relative to each individual person. I have never had timeframes when it comes to relationships, whether it be sex, I love you, moving in together etc. Maybe she didn't say anything because she was a little taken aback, that she wasn't expecting it . Maybe she is one of the many people who think I love you has become generic and so meaningless and thought her actions say exactly how she feels.

I wouldn't think that you should be worried or thinking it was a mistake. Its only a mistake when you don't really mean it. But it is something you should try and gauge her on.