Girlfriend doesn't like being alone?

[Anonymous]

I've been with my girlfriend for seven months, and things are, for the most part, great between us, and I love her very much. The thing is, she lives 45 minutes to an hour away from me (she lived closer, but she wanted to move closer to her job, which I understood). She doesn't have any friends over where she is, and she just finished up school last month, so she only has her work to keep her busy in the time when we're not together. I'm in nursing school during the spring and fall, so we only saw each other twice a week, but we now see each other four times a week (sometimes five). However, in those times when we're not together (or she's not at work), she gets bored extremely easy (even after she's only been home from work for an hour), lonely, and she feels cramped in her place. Sometimes she takes this out on me over phone or text (yet we've never had a fight when we're together in person). She knows I can't be with her 24/7, and it wouldn't be fair to me, but I can't seem to figure out how to help her get past this. She keeps saying she needs to go meet people, make friends, etc., but she never does.

I need my own space and my own life, and I feel like seeing her 4-5 days of the week is fair (not that I wouldn't want to see her more, but I do feel like I need time to have my own life and get things done; I can't be entertaining her 7 days a week).

Any tips on what to do, how to help her out? I've recommended hobbies, exercising, etc. - she's not a big TV person. She crafts and things, but she seems to get bored with doing something pretty quickly before she has to have something else to do.

[CherryBlossom87]

i can relate because I get bored and lonely when I'm not in school or with friends etc. and its really hard to get over this but I feel like four or five times a week with you isn't enough for her in her mind and she is probably having a hard time adjusting to changes in her life especially considering the fact that she just finished school and that's making her feel more lonely and since I'm in a very similar situation to her I don't know how to help but heyy she isn't alone with theses types of feelings. Maybe try more phone calls or time together -_-

[enigmatta]

I think she needs to socialize more over where she is. Look up courses of handcrafts, go for some yoga, some time at the gym... She needs to know she can handle on her own.

[lmea78]

She just moved! and is normal she wants to be with you, obviously she feels lonely, tell her to find new activities so she can socialize, that you have things to do too! good luck!