I'm 21 he's 35 ... is 13 years age gap too much?

[Anonymous]

I work at a small shop, and this customer would always be very friendly, and I thought that was that. He just admitted to me recently that he has had a crush on me for about a year, and that he really likes me. I've actually liked him for a long time as well, and we just recently found out each others ages. If I was asked is 13 years age gap too much 2 days ago, I would reply for sure it is! - but it is a completely different story if the situation is happening to you! He's a really nice guy, and I want to give him a chance, but the age gap is worrying me. An added note is that, I'm waiting for marriage for sex, so that's not an issue for me - because if he wants it he is not getting it LoL. My issue is just giving him a chance, or going on a date ... should I or shant I?

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UPDATE! --> so I chatted with him for a bit on the phone, but was not really feeling a connection, and so I just told him I don't like him in that way. Might be a bit awkward if he stops by the shop, but I think I can handle it =P

[Mtsmith]

Well, I am going to answer, but keep in mind I am not the right guy in one sense. So my answer first:

Go for it. You might learn, discover many different things. If you don't want sex, let him know in a nice way.

Now that said, there is 30+ between my girlfriend and me (she 28). We met,.talked, she asked me out. We found a bunch of things in common, she felt guys just wanted sex (she is not a virgin), and we had, a grand time the last couple of months. She is in tune with things I am not.

That said, we get plenty of strange looks. She is unsure about telling her folks, but her sister (older, married) is cool. My mom said, a little young, but both adults. When I put this up here, the answers are all over.

If you go for it, have fun. You know your boundaries, so be clear. In my case, I have been respecting her, but we do make out in private...no sex.

Whatever you decide, good luck!

[markml]

Age is just a number.

Look at it this way. You didn't even know how old he was until he told you. And you already liked him. So what's changed? Nothing really.

Not like you're suddenly going to only be attracted to older guys and start dating Hugh Hefner types.

What matters is that he's a decent gentlemen, and you like him. Of course, make sure he's not hiding a wife in the background anywhere. But creeps come in all ages. You'll find plenty who are still 21. So if you think he's one of the good ones, that's more important than what age he is.

I'm not saying that age differences couldn't ever complicate a relationship, if he wants something different than what you want because he's at a different stage in his life. But you can't assume that will happen, and it seems like it's worth at least exploring to find out.

[soa88]

That is 14 Years Difference, and I do not think that is a huge issue.

I am 21 and I dated a 35 Year Old. I would give him a chance. Do what feels right.

16 Years Old, 28 Years Old, 35 Years Old, or 45 Years Old--They Never Grow Up.

Do Not be surprised if he is not as mature as you hoped though.

Good Luck! :-)

[tayterkinz]

its legal. and no, my parents are twenty years apart and it is completely fine aha

[TheFuture]

If it doesn't bother you, go for it. That's your life. You wouldn't want to regret not doing it. Congrats on the saving yourself.

Personally I would worry if I was with an older woman because she might not get pregnant or she'll most likely pass away before I do or she'll make weird jokes about things that happened 10 years before I was born.

[HardAppleCider]

Written by you: "He's a really nice guy, and I want to give him a chance"

There's your answer miss.

[Anonymous]

in my opinion yes it it

[moviedude714]

too old for you

[HateBeingSingleAspie]

yes it is too much