He introduced me to his family but hasn't said "I love you" yet.

[Anonymous]

My 10 month boyfriend seems to taking things real slow. I've met his family in a pretty formal way last month. He asked me to move in together 2 months ago. He cares about me a lot, but he hasn't not even once said that he loves me. What could that mean? Just curious if he's taking things slow, or he is not sure about things, or that's just the way he is...or something else that could be in his mind that I can't think of... :)

[Symorg]

I'm very slow to say those words because it gets tossed around like confetti in the media and social world we live in. I want it to mean something when I do say it. I want it to be known that it's something that is earned with time and has impact every single time it is said. That being said, however, 10 months is definitely getting on in time. It might be possible to talk to him about it, but do so from a "I want to understand" position rather than a "This needs to be corrected" position. It could be because of past issues, I know one of the most hurtful things a girl ever said to me was "I love you" because I knew she didn't mean it at all, which was worse because of how desperately I wanted her to mean it.

[prophecy]

i like the guy. not like those puppies saying I love you 10 times a day after a week. so disturbing. makes me wanna puke.

since he's nice to you, you met his family, he asked to move in and all that stuff, there's extremely high probability that he has strong feelings for you.

what you don't realize, and it's quite sad actually, you're probably dealing here with "a man" and not with oversensitive girlfriend (like a lot of guys are).

here's what you should have in mind;

1. he probably won't say it before you

2. he will say it a few times a year, when it really counts

and this is how a man should act.

[Yaoi-Anime-Fangirl1]

Well he's might be too shy to say it directly like that, and usually if someone is shy they show how they feel by actions and such more, which is you meeting his parents and moving into together. That's what I think anyways.

Maybe if you said it first he'd say it back.

[MissMaple]

It sounds like he is just taking things slow. Even if he hasn't said he loves you, does he act like it? Maybe he's just shy to say it first?

[Asker]

He acts like it, and generally he is shy, but I don't want to say anything that might stress him out :) So I prefer to wait than push him or make him say something like that back to me.

[Lommelun]

Some guys never say that. But if you look at his actions - what do they say?

Some guys never say things with words, guys say things with actions.

His actions, and his presence clearly says that he cares and loves you.

Don't get hung up on things that you think ought to happen or be said. He is not you, he expresses himself in his own way.

[MisterTwister]

I'd say don't pressure him, things don't happen over night. I'm a single guy still looking for his first girl, trust me when I say rushing or expecting something to happen will drive you nuts. I'd say you're OK, just let it all happen naturally. When the time is right it'll be extremely special. Just worry about keeping it together, as it will come together soon.

Mr.

[posted]

He may be taking it slow based on past relationships.. If anything look at it as he really wants to mean it. Some people throw it around. Some guys may never say it, I think you can tell if he cares about you already though.

[Anonymous]

The importance of saying "I love you" is a cultural thing. Some Americans treat it as a majorly big thing. In other countries and cultures, it's just not a big deal at all.

Maybe for him, it doesn't mean the same thing as it means to you.