SIgns your boyfriend wants to work things out after he cheats

[Cupcakeluver89]

What are some signs that he wants to work things out with you. He admitted he didn't know who he wanted to be with the first night, then he told me he loved me but was in love with the idea of her. Today I saw a message he sent her friend asking if she would talk to her and tell her I love her. Yet he is going out of his way to help me at work, Kept sneaking me kisses, hugging me and is all super cuddly again and even hinted at a date night?

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

You're not going to like what I have to say, but you need to hear this.

By the way you wrote this, I can't completely tell with 100% accuracy if you're the girlfriend or the mistress, but one thing I will tell you is that this guy is bad news. Seriously he cheated. That alone means he's not a guy you can trust.

Assuming you're the girlfriend, do you REALLY think he's actually going to stop cheating? Do you REALLY think he's actually going to break it off with her, and he's never going to stop cheating with her, and never ever cheat with anyone else, ever again? Because that's a dream that's not going to be realized. He WILL cheat again. It's in his nature. It's the kinda guy he is. If he's trying to fix things, it's not out of noble intentions. It's not to do the right thing. It's not because he's feeling particularly guilty. It's that he doesn't like to lose, and that's what is happening. He's losing something. Cheaters are selfish. Period.

Assuming you're the mistress, do you REALLY think things are going to work out for you? Especially if you think he's trying to work things out? Even it it's just you and him, and that ex of his is out of the picture, do you REALLY think you can trust him? Think about it. He cheated on his girlfriend to be with YOU! Sure that MIGHT imply that you were special enough to get his attention while he was supposedly in a happy relationship, but that's kind of a fantasy. I mean the truth is, he cheated. He's a cheater. He's dishonest. He'll keep doing it. He cheated on her. He'll cheat on you. Cheaters are greedy and selfish. They want it all. You're not going to be enough.

However, I can say this. He'll stand a better chance of not fucking it up in the new relationship with his mistress than he will in the old relationship with his girlfriend. Simply because the loss has a snowball's chance in hell of teaching him something about loss. Though chances are very slim. They're so slim that you still can't count on it. Chances are that IF he EVER chances, it will be with somebody else entirely, far, far, far, FAR down the line. Neither the girlfriend nor the mistress really stand a chance here.

This guy is bad news. He's not worth your time, or her time, or anyone's time. He's not genuinely trying to work things out. If anything, it's just to keep whoever's there in place so he doesn't lose absolutely everything. But truth is, he really SHOULD lose everything. He has it coming, and he needs a lesson taught.

Lose this guy.

[dreamergirl94]

Agreed 1000000000000000 %

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

A quintillion percent? Wow! Thanks!

[harveykinkle]

Yep! This!

[Flatmanlewis]

There were some grammatical flubs that made completely understanding your situation difficult but it seems like this guy is playing two girls at once. If you are the "other woman" just remember this. "If he will cheat with you he will cheat on you.". If you're not the other woman, then it's time to walk. The fact that you are asking if "...he wants to work it out." says that he is in control of whether you get back together or not. You deserve a man who respects you and not screws whoever he pleases and then let's you wonder if he's willing to work it out with you. As a general rule, men will only treat a woman as well as she expects to be treated.

[Anonymous]

The simple, flat truth is, you need to break up with him and move on.

It isn't going to work out, and he won't change, and you can't trust him.

That's the simple truth of the matter, and any guy who has half a brain knows that in less time than it took to read your question.

The only question is, will you be bright enough to see the truth and act on it instead of giving in to foolish, naive ideas?

[kheserthorpe]

If someone cheats and wants to work things out, there should be absolutely no question in your mind its what they want. They should be tripping over themselves trying to prove themselves. If they're not, move the hell on without question.

[art84]

He's putting on show for you. Don't fall for it at all. Once a cheater always a cheater.

[Anonymous]

lol f*** relationships