Ok guys help me out I'm getting the slow fade break up!

[zaffy]

Hello gentlemen I met a guy 6 months ago on a date site. we hit it off great. We met in person two months ago. Last 3 weeks he is giving me the slow fade breakup. help me say something to end things get my closure first.

The thing is he is going to be sorry later. I already know it always happens. I have a strong bubbly personality. I am 5 foot one 102 pounds ballerina and former gymnast. I speak fluent Italian etc etc. I am educated BFA in fashion design well traveled blah blah. I'm a not a take my self seriously girl AT ALL !. guys fall in love fast then something happens I am either too sweet or whatever.

I usually get your beautiful and very nice and in great shape wow great personality and then bam all the promises never follow through.

I am starting to think I date very insecure men. anyway this particular relationship really hurt. This guy really hurting me because in a long distance relationship like this we had opened p about many things. I told him much about my life and my two younf children. He knows how much he means to me. I have told him and we are two grown adults and after spending time with him in his home town I get the slow fade a month later?

Look when its not fate but give me a break and some respect and just say what it is. anyway I really need a great lasting impression to knock him off socks and break up with him. I don't want to sound upset or angry but just give me a good one to say! please help!

[petitecoquette]

Oh. Hey. I'm not a man, but I want to respond. I've been in your shoes. Online dating is tough. Most online relationships end through 'the fade'. And then you start chasing harder trying to prove your easy going, and fun, and you 'don't care about the relationship you just want to be friends'. Maybe that's not you? I don't know. I've done that. Gone overboard in trying to show I don't care. Which really just makes me look like a nut job. And vice versa. When I've gone off a man, I really can't stand it when he tries to be cool about things. Cause deep down inside the more he tries to contact me the less I respect him.

Anyways. The thing that KILLS me is silence. Just plain old radio silence. You just disappearing will send him spinning faster than any witty break up line.

Thats my two cents. It's kind of cruel. It's totally calculated. I've never done it myself, but it packs a serious punch, and that's what your looking for.

Good luck,

[puttycat]

Touche'! Best as advice ever..

[puttycat]

I've been having the same experience with online dating. I'm a very goodlooking in shape woman with no kids. I have a career and am very sweet. Men fall in love or lust with me and a few months later it is the fade. I'm starting to think there is a reason people are single after a certain age. Most of them who have issues are online. I don't know. Maybe it is the pedestal syndrome. I happen to feel the men just don't want to settle for one despite what they say.

[zaffy]

They don't that is what I am thinking too. Very good chance most guys online have serious trust commitment issues. I think we females are more forgiving willing to give it another try but not just by saying but actually letting our guard down again and again till we find the right guy but guys who have been hurt or had failed relationships tend to think online dating is the answer but then they begin to regress. I meet guys local but way younger cause I look younger but I am looking for mature.