Questions: Relationships

I already asked this question, but I would like to have a girls perspective. A co-worker of mine at work has pretty good chemistry with me and we've only been working with each other for a couple of weeks now. She always jokes around with me and tries to put stuff on me, like stickers and stuff just for fun and I do the same to her. The only problem is that she's younger than me. She's nineteen and I'm twenty-eight years old, but the vibe is good and she's interested in a lot of the same stuff that I'm into. I remember her being a little bummed out because I told her that I have the next couple of days off, when she was scheduled those days. She said, Aww, man. Sounding bummed about it. Do you guys think it would be fine to ask for her phone number as a co-worker or friend and see where things go or am I reading too much into this? Unfortunately, this is all I have. I got nothing else to add.

I seriously do not want to outlive my parents. I hope I can peacefully pass away before or at the same time my parents do.

I am likely going to end up alone the rest of my life. I am going to be even more lonely once my parents are gone. I feel like am early death for me is my best option.

I may not find a woman without a romantic past. That is my criteria: I seek a woman without a romantic past.

If I don't find that, I will be alone. If I am alone, I rather be dead.

Superficial traits ex. looks, money, fame, etc.

I'm curious what you think. Please feel free to explain if you'd like to.

My ex texted me, after one entire year.

*She used these emojis: ☺️ 😘, with the word "kisses".

*"Kisses😘😘😘"

then she used the word: "hug!".

"kisses+hugs!+☺️+😘😘😘"

My current hypothesis: I am the available guy.

💻📊My analysis: after analyzing her text messages, and the context in which she texted me, I can assure she is either single for now, have issues with her current partner, or she is a total sweetheart of a woman, nowadays. Either way, I don't forget what we had (the good, and the f*cked up), beside other things, and the fact that there is an entire ocean separating us.


🌠4 years passed since we breakup

Let's say some of the letters were romantic, some of them were platonic but all in all they were just to catch up and keep up on his life and him wondering about yours. He knows you're not a romantic option and he knows you probably haven't thought about him but he just missed you and wrote a bunch of letters.
Creepy and weird or nice and sweet?

I do not feel good about asking this. It makes me feel slimy and gross.

I am especially unhappy with having to ask so bluntly and crassly; in order to fit the one-sentence format for a GAG "question title".

I would like to explain why I am posting this. ( Feel free to just answer. Nothing below is critical for you to know).

I've always had many female friends. Most of my closest friendships since I was 13 years old have been friendships with women. I'm generally someone who people feel comfortable confiding in. I have known SO many wonderful women who have been in abusive relationships. I am as intimately familiar with the scars that can leave on a woman's psyche as anyone can be, short of first-hand experience or formal training.

On GAG I've spoken to dozens of women who were:
-In abusive relationships;
-had escaped from an abusive relationship;
-were currently in the early stages of a relationship with a guy who was showing signs he was likely to be abusive;
- or were in relationships which were clearly abusive, but were in denial; or genuinely didn't realize their relationship was "abusive."

The nature of abuse varies widely; as does the "sort" of woman. It varies from a boyfriend who is emotionally manipulative and has boundary issues... all the way up to sadists monsters who would quite literally torture their girlfriends. I have nightmares about some of these women's stories (three of them in particular).

I am under no illusions about abusive relationships being uncommon. That upsets me more than I can put into words. I also know that there have been attempts to find out "just how common". I also understand that a GAG poll is far from scientific.

**I would really appreciate if you would click an answer to the "poll" even if you have no inclination to write anything. Women who haven't been in abusive relationships, please just click that option before moving on to the next question.**

Thanks

🙂

I was living with a girlfriend who got paranoid jealous when she was drinking. She accused me of having affairs with women in three different states, all at least 1,000 miles away, even though I left home every day not earlier than 9 am and returned every day not later than 7 pm. So glad that's history!

There is nothing as aggravating as being accused of something of which you are entirely innocent, there is obviously no proof to fuel the suspicions, but your partner is still unrelenting with the accusations. There's your sign! Have you had this experience?