Polls: Relationships

Be honest. Do you honestly feel okay with crying or being vulnerable with your girlfriend or wife? And for guys who've never dated, how do you feel about being vulnerable with a woman?

I was suspecting my long distance boyfriend having affair with Yannie who he also met online. He told me they are only friends but I was wondering why he cares about the problems in her life. He tried to justify it that he is just compassion person but he rarely cared about mine (emotionally unavailable) and do not even anymore sends gifts even if I do. I also caught him sending a flower to this girl after 3 months of our relationship. And, also sent her family foods two months because he said they are poor. He said he only send it as a friend gify because she was depressed. He insist me to look a job for this and he got mad when I didn't.

I got so mad of the girl to the point I told her that he was stealing my boyfriend and to stay away from my boyfriend. The girl blocked him but then my boyfriend got so mad that I destroyed their friendship. He told me they are just strictly friend and the girl has a girlfriend cuz she is lesbian.

If she is lesbian why does she need to vent to my boyfriend and why my boyfriend cares a lot.

Am I being jealous or my instinct is right they have affair?

My previous boyfriend (now ex) expected great/elaborated meals, different soups, creative salads and other desserts. However, the fact that he was demanding and doing little in return (I was working too) to make me feel appreciated got me unmotivated quickly. I started switching back to simple dishes.

I've invited him a couple times to good places (sometimes also spoiled him with a good gift) and he didn't reciprocated. He used to focus on fancy things for himself only, always used discount tickets, wanted to go dutch even on my own b-day, never even gave his own mother a good gift for her b-day and wanted to stay at home on the weekends, doing nothing instead of going out and spending quality time... not move out of the bedroom.

If a boyfriend is acting like that and is a total cheapskate (while his girlfriend isn't) but expecting great desserts and meals to be served isn't that asking too much?

I don't really feel like sharing that information but is it important? nMy earning is much higher than your typical 20 year-old college student (too much that I don't need a provider at all) but that's only because something terrible happened. My parents died in an auto accident a couple years ago and I was their only child. Their 2 properties, vehicles and dad's shop are all under my name.

To be honest I would've wanted to earn money on other ways, not this horrible manner. If I could toss all this away to have my parents back I would. Do you need to disclose financial details in a relationship? Do I need to tell a man my real earning?

A lot of people have been back and forth with this one.

With me personally during my last relationship, my ex partner weren't able to have the healthiest relationship due to a number of things, but one of the biggest issues I faced with him was him telling his friends (both and female friends) every detail of our relationship and even going as far as trash talking me to them.

This caused his friends to constantly speak negatively about our relationship and would always say things to him like "are you still with her?" or "have you broken up with her yet".

His guy friends would always try to persuade him and get him to hang out with them in attempts to get him to hook up with other women behind my back, and he tend to be very flirty with his female friends but when I would approach him about it, he would gaslight me she brush it off as if I was being crazy and that it was nothing to be worried about.

What do you all think? Guys does this make you scared to date girls with guy friends or too many friends in general? Girls, do you avoid guys with too many female friends?

I’ve been seeing this guy for a while now. He always tell me how he doesn’t deal with anyone and how he does not have any family. He’s pretty much a loner. When I asked him about his past relationship’s he would say they didn’t work out because the females cheated on him. I asked him what it was he wanted and was looking for. He said to be happy with someone he could trust and build a future with. Me being myself would invite him over, cook for him and try to be nurturing and loving. He would push away and not want to cuddle then want too or then say I love you but then say it’s all different for me because I’m tying to be better but I’m messed up inside. I have pulled away and started calling him less because he’s like a mystery. He would contact me saying “I’m sorry I love you and I’m trying and I’m not use to this.” This seems to happen often with him. His actions are everywhere he’s into me then he’s pulling away and I am over it. What I’m looking for in a relationship is definitely not what he’s probably looking for even though he says it is. I was trying to be something different for him but it’s not working.

I always thought the concept of loving yourself was selfish and extremely narcissistic. So, I never really tried it.

But I can't help but notice the fact that the more I try to please others and think about others happiness instead of mine, I don't really go anywhere with them. In fact, I notice that my kindness pulls them away.

Meanwhile my sister who doesn't even like people, keeps a small strict social circle and never had to ask men out because they always threw themselves at her. I've never had a guy do anything for me, especially after they've known me for a while.


People say I'm nice but that's about it. I get told I'm fake a lot. It's really starting to get under my skin.

That's why I'm starting to consider doing some changes to myself.

If he’s as hot as Alain Delon when he was young I don’t think so 😂😂 that’s a lot of women to deal with coming for your man.

If you were going out with someone and going out to hotels/restaurants with them and their husband/wife texted you to tell you to get off their social media and you told them you were their girlfriend/boyfriend and they told you they were married with this person and if they asked you for proof and evidence many times, would you tell their spouse that you were going to hotels/restaurants with them and tell their spouse they were cheating or would you say nothing even if they asked for proof/evidence many times?

Indecisiveness
Constantly needing reassurance that they're good enough

Please don’t judge me. I know I am really wrong for having done this. My ex boyfriend of two years left me because I used to hit him a lot physically. I gave him black eyes and bruises on his cheeks and body parts. I would hit him with objects because I was short tempered. I would even hit him for small mistakes such as him forgetting that I wanted onion rings instead of fries. I would make him cry with my words as well. Now he is with someone new and I feel really bad and I’m thinking about how badly I treated him a lot throughout my day.

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