Polls: Relationships

Listening to an episode of Ramsey and a woman called in saying her Husband gave her an ultimatum "move with me or we're done." They're married and have a child together. He has five properties to manage in Tennessee, she is about to lose her job, but thinks she can get a new one in Georgia. Would you move, is there an underlying issue, or would you stick to your guns?

Are there certain things you should make a point of not sharing with your partner?

So you get invited to an event and you decide to go there with your partner. you know they dress formally there and you do but your partner decides to not dress up at all and just goes in a t shirt and jeans. how would you feel about them doing that?

In my friend group, there are 2 guys that are married and they have completely different marriages.

Friend A: His wife constantly checks on him. He works from home, she works in office, and whenever she has a break, she calls to see what he’s doing. He claims that he loves it, but to me it seems like she’s always monitoring him. During my birthday party 2 years ago, she called him 4 times in a 3 hour span to see where he was at and ask if it was over. One time, we left his house and drove 15 minutes to pick up pizza. As we’re driving back, she calls to see where we’re at because in her mind it shouldn’t have taken that long. I don’t think she trusts him. She’s also forced him to change where he does his hobbies. He likes to play pool, but he can’t go to his favorite pool hall 30 minutes away. He has to go to the one 7 minutes away and be home by 9:30 pm.

Friend B: His wife never checks on him. Every time we hang out, his wife never calls or texts. For instance, the other day, he told her that he was going to play basketball with me from 8:30 to 12. He only lives 10 minutes from the court. After basketball, we went to get protein shakes and chatted until 1. A complete contrast from my other friend. He said that if he’s out late, she’ll just go to sleep and hear what he has to say in the morning. She trusts him completely.

I like Friend B’s marriage, however I wouldn’t mind a little text after let’s say 30 minutes of when I was going to be done to see what’s up. I could not do Friend A’s wife’s excessive calling.

What kind of partner would you rather have?

I am turning 30 next week. I am newly engaged as of July. We are each other's very first serious relationship. We met on New Years Eve on December 31, 2023. Like me, she also has a birthday this month. She will turn 27.

I most certainly love her, although I wish we could have met when we were both younger or had some connection in our youth of some sorts. I am her very first kiss after all, but a part of me feels sad that we missed that youth component with each other.

She had minimal dating experience in high school, but obviously it wasn't anything significant considering I am her first kiss.

I feel like overall, I will have that lingering regret of not experiencing young love/romance when I was younger.

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My current partner told me in the past she was very interested in being mother, and eventually starting a treatment to do so.

But what I didn't expected is that she was about to come home today, and tell me that she had just started it without mentioning me nothing prior to that.

This came after having an argument the last day, where I told her I had doubts about the relationship due to certain behaviors of her making me uncomfortable frequently.

But the argument ended being solved. Or at least, that's what I thought.

But today she came home, showed good behavior, complimented me, and then BOOM! Dropped a surprise.

The point is: I greatly suspect this is a manipulation tactic to hurry me up, and not looking into the relationship objectively.

What do you think?

Do you wait until you feel that you are in love with your partner to suggest that you two date exclusively (NOT asking about living together)? Can you enter an exclusive relationship without already being in love? Is being in love not the only thing that needs to happen before you agree to date exclusively? Or is there no relationship between these two ideas at all?

On several occasions, I have begun dating a lady exclusively after three or four dates, when I certainly was not in love with her and we had not yet had sex, but I did feel some affection as well as physical attraction.

And you?

I know you've seen many questions on this site asking about your BODY count. So many people think that the most important number is how many partners you've given your naked body. That's important, to some extent, but how many partners have you given your heart? How many times have you been in love?

I've been in love 8 times in 53 years of relationships and marriage. The level of mutual commitment in some of the early relationships did not compare to my later relationships, but the feelings were there and the loss of each of those relationships had a very significant impact on me. One of those relationships lasted 17 years and each of the others lasted at least a year.