As a Christian, would you date/marry a Muslim?

[Anonymous]

I don't believe there are any right or wrong answers to this simply because the bible doesn't state that it is a sin, it does say it is not wise but it doesn't say it is a sin. I know Muslim guys are allowed to marry a Christian or a Jew female but Muslim women can't. If this person was everything you wanted in a partner and you've built a strong bond and all with them but they were a Muslim, would that change anything? What if your families were accepting and you could compromise, would you still personally go for it?

[Anonymous]

Depends!
If the christian is a boy, then he should marry a muslim girl (without conversion!)

But if a christian is a girl then she should not.

Why?
Becoz in both cases i m not talking about conversion.
I m strictly against conversion.
In this case, christian follows christianity but and muslim will follow islam

So, According to my Knowledge (educate me if i am wrong because i m not suffering Islamophobia)-

1. A muslim man can bring 2nd wife without consent of the first wife (if... )

2. Triple talaq issue

3. the child's name matters!

A well known (so called) Islamic preacher says that it is okkay for a husband to beat his wife but he should beat her lightly.
He agàin says that a muslim man can have sex with his slaves

Lolol

So, i m n a christian or muslim either and i dont have any problem in marrying a muslim girl.

But remember its very important.
MOST MUSLIM MEN DO NOT DO THIS NORMALLY (as per my experience)

[DizThaWhiz]

My brother was engaged to a girl from a Muslim family years ago via a long distance relationship which lasted 8 years. It was eventually put to an end by her father who put my brother through the paces in every sense of the word, one of which included making him take Islamic classes and eventually having my brother convert to Islam (my brother is atheist but was raised as a Christian).

My advice is to watch for religious-based red flags from your partner or their family as even though I hate to generalize, Islam does have a reputation for being a lot less lenient when compared to other religions in a broader sense of the term. Follow your gut, it almost never leads you astray. Good luck

[Asker]

Hmm I see

[Blondie80]

This is really interesting. If you both love each other, there are no bondaries! I know that for sure. My husband was a Christian, I wasn"t... Well, I was always interested in God, loved stories about Jesus, but never attend to a church, or live a real religious life. Yet... my husband was so love with me, that he wanted to marry me. Of course it was not hard for him to guide me towards God, but still there are difference in our thinkings... We agree in most important things, but we see some things in different ways and those lead some arguments that are anyway basic in marriage life. I think everything possible with God and with love.

[Jogarina]

I am a christian, my boyfriend is muslim. We are together for 3.5 years. We have never got any problem about religion. They respect mine, i respect their religion. His family totally accepted me and adores me, they would never want me to change myself and my religion. They are super cute family. Both family supports our relationship.
My experience is very good, but this does not mean every muslim family is like this.
In my opinion you should give it a try if you really feel true love. I personally like muslims.

[RocTheNationalSoc]

Wait until you get to marriage. Trust me, if he's even a hit religious, he'll force you to convert. Get out while you can.

[Jogarina]

He is not into religion that much, so i do not think it will be a problem. But i will watch out. Thanks for your opinion.
by the way. Why do you think he will want me to convert? If he has such purpose he could tell me before. I guess

[RocTheNationalSoc]

Muslims are all about spreading Islam. When you look into it deeper, you get a great mistrust of muslims in general. There's this thing in Islam called Taqiyya, which allows muslims to lie in order to spread their faith. If you want to know more about muslims, I suggest David Wood on youtube.

[Asker]

@RocTheNationalSoc My auntie is a Christian and the man she is married to is a Muslim. They have been married for over 20 years and have 2 children and have never had an issue with this. It all comes down to the individuals and how their relationship is. It's not a fact that every relationship with different religions doesn't work out. It's not fair to say she should get out while she can. Every relationship is different.

[RocTheNationalSoc]

If he takes the identity of a muslim, I must take in the account that he accepta Islam. And If he accepts Islam, it's bad news.

[Asker]

@RocTheNationalSoc Yes he does. Look, honestly nobody on this planet who follow certain religions follow exactly every single thing the religion says. Yes there may be some strict ones but we are human beings and as human beings we are likely to sin all the time. For example lying is forbidden in the bible but many of us still do it to get ourselves from getting into trouble etc. The point I'm making is even though he follows Islam, he may not do everything that it teaches because he is a human being. If Islam promotes violence, he may not be a violent type of person and so doesn't cause any violence.

[RocTheNationalSoc]

Stop with this liberal bullshit. If someone declared himself a terrorist would you think he's maybe peaceful?

[Jogarina]

Yes i agree that we are all human beings and we do not follow our religion as it is written.
I would swear that my boyfriend never lies to me. He hates from lies. Already religion is not something that we should lie about.
Also we discussed every questionable issue, and he always highlighted that everything depends on two person. We should never compare ourselves to the rest of the population. There are bad and good people everywhere.
In my opinion every relationship can work in every circumstances, everything depends on you and your partner.

[RocTheNationalSoc]

The problem is that Islam accepts lying. Lying is a pary of Islam.

[Asker]

@RocTheNationalSoc Lol don't chat to me about no bullshit. Terrorism is a choice. Anyone from any religion can do that shit. The Quran does not say that people show go and blow up people. You can say the Quran promotes violence. Didn't Jesus throw tables in the Bible? That is considered a violent act whether it kills people or not. Are you not seeing there are Muslims who are not supporting Terrorism. Those are the good Muslims of course. KKK are also a violent group who claim to be Christians but we all know that Christian are not for that. So come again with YOUR BULLSHIT.

[RocTheNationalSoc]

Again with bullshit. There is a difference between throwing tables around because greedy people exploit a holy site to make money and demanding your followers to butcher non believers. If you're too dumb to realise that I can't help you.

[Jogarina]

Lie is never acceptable. Also there is no place for stereotypes. Islam religion is not same with terrorism. If someone believes in Islam that does not mean they are all terrorists. You should not universalize everyone. If someone lives in egypt that does not mean they are all about islam. There are christian people over there too.
Also there are modern muslim people too who consider themselves as muslims but they do not follow every rule. This way they can drink alcohol, and they do not pray 5 times in a day, but keep ramadan and they do not eat pork.

[Jogarina]

by the way. quoran does not say go and kill people in name of Allah. This is not the way how you can go to heaven. Quoran only says that if someone attacks the mosque, you can protect it with the way you can.
Terrorists are mostly hiding behind islam religion, they wash weak borderline people's brain, and make them to believe they will go to heaven if they kill themselves while detonation. But this is bullshit, this is not the gate to heaven. They mislead those weak people.

[Asker]

@RocTheNationalSoc I'm not dumb lol. You sound like those people who say 'All Muslims are terrorists.' That is bullshit. Anyone of any religion can go off and terrorize people. It has nothing to do with religion. It is a choice.

[Asker]

THANK YOUUU!! I'm not even a muslim and look how I'm defending them. What those terrorists are doing saying 'It's in the name of Allah' are actually using God's name in vain. DUHHH.

[RocTheNationalSoc]

Again bullshit. It clearly says that you go and kill. And that you're a hypocrite if you dont. And that hypocrites are as bad as the unbelievers. And that's just Quran. A large part of Islam comes from Hadits. Which are even more fucking terrible. The stuff in them is even more diagusting.

[Anonymous]

I have a Muslim family & my boyfriend is Christian (he has a non-religious family though), but clearly we're dating.
I'm Persian, he's half Australian & half Chinese.
But we're both open minded to not something like religion make us consider it even for a second as a factor as to why we shouldn't date. I think it's a tad shallow to let that become between 2 humans.

[Opinion Owner]

For clarity: I'm in a serious relationship with him for 8 months now & we have plans for a future together. It's going excellently & we resolve our problems and any of our fights within minutes.

[Aaraz]

It's not allowed in Islam review yourself, in Islam there is nothing under boyfriend or girlfriend, and Muslim girls should marry Muslim guy if not its guilty ( zeena). Review yourself before death or try to make him convert to Islam seriously not just to marry you.

[Opinion Owner]

@Aaraz Wow, well done in telling another Muslim-involved person about the religion they were raised with. It was also stated that men are allowed to have up to 4 wives, beat their wives, shunned from taking Christian & Jewish friends and a whole lot more set of flawed rules, many of which had to be rewritten by men to fit our society today. So if you dont follow those rules, like the majority of Muslims who are decent today, i wouldn't take a manmade construct of a "boyfriend" too seriously. If all this would condemn me, then it's okay; i was already fucked for having plucked my eyebrows.
Review yourself and realise the majority of us have already sinned if we were to follow every silly rule, & maybe you'll think again before you try to tell me what to do.

[Aaraz]

The question is about the last life, paradise and fire after death, the question is not about this life even if you lived a hundred years but in the end you die and face your fate after it is too late if you do not retreat yourself.

[Opinion Owner]

@Aaraz Again, we have ALL already been fucked if we were to listen to every rule written down.
Anywayn what exactly is the point of having a good after-death if our lives are gonna be so miserable due to doing things or not doing things hust because you "have" to.
I'm in love with my man, im fully respectful of his own beliefs and values in life and dont go around forcing my shit into him. Thats a one way ticket to being a rude person no wants to be around. Nor am i gonna break up with him solely because he believes in a different god.

[guyfawks12]

It's not sinful, no. But you need to look at the root of the purpose of dating, if you're doing it to just have a fling, then you don't understand the concept.

But if you view it as a means to have an understanding of another soul to identify companionship before marriage then i would say you're wasting your time. The reason I say this is because in marriage the goal is for your love to be faithful and fruitful (bringing children). Because of that you're children will be extremely confused which religion to follow. This is a huge gamble on their salvation.

I know in some Christian denominations, in order to have your marriage be recognized by the church they at least need to be baptized.

Similarly for an Islamic Nikka only the man is required to profess the words of faith (shahada). So if you're a Christian man, they won't recognize your marriage either.

I'm a male convert from Islam to Christianity. Marriage was not my reasoning.

Good luck to you.

[Logorithim]

I've had a Muslim girlfriend, and she wanted me to convert once things got really serious (i. e., she wanted me to meet her parents). I wasn't willing to do that because that would have involved some lifestyle and social changes I wasn't willing to make, nor was I willing to accept the

[Logorithim]

... Quran as the literal words of God.
If someone is comfortable with it, by all means go ahead, but you'll find that there is generally an expectation on the Muslim side that the non-Muslim will convert to Islam. Even absent conversion, in which faith do you raise any children you have? Islam mandates that the children be raised Muslim.

[Ninene]

You could just fake it

[Logorithim]

@Ninene: that's a lot of trouble to go to, and how long could someone do that without going crazy? No way I'd do that.

[Cheetah23]

No, that is wrong, Muslims who are willing to date a non muslim in the first place dont generally have that expectation actually. Im an example of that, & my partner & i have agreed our child can decide for themself in which faith they follow

[Logorithim]

@Cheetah23: while not unheard of (I know a Muslim woman whose daughter by a non-Muslim man is also non-Muslim), that is definitely not the norm.

[Cheetah23]

It depends. If the Muslim was actually raised in a Western country (& there are many), it's fairly common. However if they were born & raised in Middle Eastern countries, then yes, it's certainly not the the norm.

[Mzk2000]

I know two Christians who got married to muslims and are living happily since more than 5+ years.
First I know a very religious christian woman from Ireland she married a religious muslim man. Now it ha been almost 6 years and they are still doing fine. But to tell you the truth man wants her to convert although he don’t put any pressure on her but he would be delighted if she would like he found a job in saudia and shifted there from Ireland. Another thing they don’t have any children yet. So it’s like a 50 - 50 case

Another Christian woman from Netherlands married a muslim and after 7 years of marriage she converted by her own choice and research no role from the husband.. now in her 11th year of a lovely marriage

My advice yes love is a strong feeling you can make it work with a lot of compromises from both sides. But if you convert life will become a lot easier and more chances of happily ever after.

[ghost34]

The Bible does tell us to find a partner with whom you are equally yoked and will push you closer to God, that isn't possible if your partner believes in a different God

[Asker]

If you compromise, it can be possible. In God's eyes, anything is possible

[ghost34]

You're willing to compromise your relationship with God for the sake of being with a guy?

[Cheetah23]

What are you implying? That she should potentially stay single all her life if she doesn't find someone she loves of her own religion? Ridiculous. Religions aren't taken seriously anymore because of such things. She loves a guy & wants him. Big deal.

[ghost34]

She asked in the context of being a Christian, I'm telling her how the Bible tells us to live, if that offends you then you don't have to listen but that's the reality of Christianity

[Cheetah23]

Im not Christian, im not obligated to listen. Im literally just trying to show you how ridiculous that inplication is. JUST in the context of the bible? So you dont take on this belief yourself? Then great. If you do, then i retain my previous statement. It's ridiculous for her to follow that & have a miserable life just to have a perfect relationship with God (who i assure you, we have all sinned against already in small acts originally stated in our religious scripts, & we then realised how ridiculous they were so man had to rewrite them to fit today's society.)

[Cheetah23]

For the record, that sounded like i was be rude to your beliefs in your religion maybe, so i would like to clear up that i have no problem whatsoever in your faith. Just one in the remark to the Asker's choice/belief/reply.

[ghost34]

Personally I would not marry someone who does not believe in Jesus, and I don't think that's ridiculous at all, religion is a serious issue that literally has wars that were fought over it, and the texts were not rewritten to fit our society other than translating it to our language, if you want to know how Jesus taught us to live read Matthew chapters 5-7, it's not an easy way to live and yes we all sin, but Jesus died on the cross for the forgiveness of our sins so that we may be forever saved, and that is why it is important to have a good relationship with God

[Cheetah23]

Telling me that religion is a cause of war is not helping your case. People killing one another over it proves how stupid it is not being able to let them get on without judgement of their own lives (i. e. the asker can live however the hell she wants), and even more so to the point of killing. It's ridiculous, it is. I've read both the Old and new testament as well as knowledge of the islamic quran. They dont strike me as possible to have been unedited, for one being so many (understatement) years of potential incidents & lack of evidence other than these scripts & more. I believe in God by the way. But i do not believe these were not manipulated by men over many years. Humans are flawed in every way to make changes to the original scripts, humans reactions now & willingness to murder and manipulate, fake and mistranslate words.. it's too big.
So it is a sin that is supposedly forgiven and she still can't comit the sin? A bit contradictory.
Have a bad life for good afterlife? No deal aye.

[ghost34]

The war reference was only to highlight the weight of the issue, having a partner of a different faith will cause more arguments if both choose to keep their own faith, and I don't see how you can make an honest argument that there is no evidence that the Bible has remained essentially unchanged (barring a few loose interpretations due to language differences) when there is no evidence that it was changed, and Jesus died for the forgiveness of the sins of those walked life as best they could in the light of his teachings, knowingly disobeying is different than making a mistake, also living your life in the teachings of Jesus isn't a bad life, challenging yes, but it is fulfilling and we trust in God's plan for us

[ghost34]

Anyone can live however they want, don't get me wrong, I choose to live my life as a Christian which means I will follow the teachings of Jesus and the lessons in the Bible, I won't tell you how to live your life but the asker has expressed that she is a Christian so I wanted to help her by informing her on how the Bible teaches us to live, and whether she listens to me or not is up to her

[ImMackFreeze]

I think it is important to have similar core values as a Christian myself, however I never put much thought into dating a muslim. I don't really know any around my area.

Now, I think we have two different Gods which I don't think would mix well.

[RTD93]

Only if they convert; Christ was God, irrespective of whether you believe that or not, his values are superior to any other deity out there; I know because I've read the holy text of every other religion out there.

[Asker]

So you're saying it could only work if they converted?

[RTD93]

For me, that's exactly what I'm saying. However, I'm not here to judge your life.
If you love someone and remember your own God daily, do whatever you want.

[Asker]

I do see what you mean

[RTD93]

Good luck with Islam though, as a woman, you'll be very restricted. However, you can find that out for yourself.

[Asker]

Lol I'm a Christian

[HappyWheels]

It doesn't matter if you're Christian. Eventually you'll be expected to convert or they'll have to find a Muslim woman.

[Anonymous]

My friend who is sort of Christian (he believes in the Christian god or whatever), but, doesn't actually celebrate the religion, married a Muslim woman. She's originally from Iraq, and is now in America. She doesn't have an accent, and knows only English

[Asker]

And what is your opinion on a Muslim/Christian marriage?

[Opinion Owner]

I think it's fine, if they like each other

[Asker]

Hmm I see

[markscott]

No. I want religious harmony in my home. The only way such disparate religions could work well in a home, is if the religion doesn't much matter to one or both.

[Michelle1992]

Yes i would. Eventhought my country law are quit strict about marrying a muslim as here if we marry a muslim we have to convert to muslim.

[maestrodematimaticas]

I will say as a non believer in anything I would attend church services with someone I was married to out of respect if they were religious. Not saying I would ever change my beliefs but I would show respect for hers.

[MecheD]

Yes, religion to me is just there to place a name on your beliefs by all means I believe live is the ultimate goal so explore as you wish.

[Anonymous]

No. Unevenly yolked, and religion is a big deal/difference to compensate.

[Anonymous]

NO WAY. are you kidding me? I think we know what values the Muslims have. What a joke. don't be foolish

[MoodyWoody]

As a human is it right or wrong to marry a human? If we could leave this religion shit behind us..

[itsEthan]

Some people's religions are what keep them emotionally in check giving them the confidence to marry someone in the first place and feel truly secure about it.

[MoodyWoody]

Lol i've noticed that. That s what makes me sad about it.

[Ninene]

Religion controls people, it is a lifestyle, and gives the individual a set of rules to follow.
But I agree, I wish religion would disappear already

[itsEthan]

I would not, personally. We would be serving a different entity, which would cause division.

[TheSpartan]

No, but it’s an irrelevant question, since Muslim women cannot date non-Muslim men.

If she was willing to convert, then obviously my answer would change.

[jacquesvol]

I'm not a Christian. I'd date a Muslim girl but I'd tell her I won't marry, and keep it that way.

[kaylaS91]

not a chance in hell.

[Asker]

explain

[kaylaS91]

I have had far too many bad experiences with muslim men to wish to become part of that culture/religion.

[Asker]

oh damn

[johnboymuscles]

Probably wouldn't marry any religious nut. Maybe Buddhist. Maybe not.

[That2kKid21]

Not christian, but I wouldn't marry or date a muslim. Lol sorry.