Dating a Christian guy - however he sleeps around... a lot?

[Anonymous]

Met him online and really liked him, we are both Christians. Problem is I am wanting to wait until marriage for sex and he has been and still is, actively sleeping around. He slept with around 8 women in 5 months ( whilst we were talking/dating) he usually slept with them after we had a disagreement. This put me off getting serious with him as he says he is a Christian however had one night stand and booty calls regularly. He told me over and over again that he is 'done' with that lifestyle and longed to settle down and get married and he could see a future with me. I couldn't be exclusive with him thought because of his ability to have sex with a stranger every time he was upset about something between us.

He has never cheated on his past girlfriends and assured me he was faithful while in a relationship, however he is supposed to be a Christian too! That is the real deal breaker for me, he even sings on stage at his church and street evalgelises too. Any CHRISTIANS with some words of comfort for me? I did really like him as a person however, this is a issue for me. We are both in our 30's.

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I guess I'm worrying I should have given him a 'chance' - he has probably had around 80+ probs even 100+ women in his life - he told me he lost count.

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Plus I am totally heartbroken each time he sleeps with a girl, It makes me feel physically sick and jealous as I don't want another girl 'having' him however I hate the fact he says he's a Christian and sleeps around

[Kreneman]

The man that you like or attracted too, have a Carnal mind set, meaning he believes that the lord exists but he doesn't really follow his words, which puts him as a fornicator (Sinning) right now). Pray for him and tell him he needs to fast to deal with his lust issues with the pastor's guidance. You cannot be in a relationship with at this time because it will get you into trouble with the Lord. Have faith, pray for him, and learn to apply wisdom when dealing with him as friend. Be blessed!

[Anonymous]

I hate the fact that someone calls themselves a Christian while giving someone else shit for calling themselves a Christian and not being Christian enough for them.

[Asker]

That's Interesting, what makes you say that to me?

[SecretsofKB]

So whether or not he's Christian has no impact here.

If he's sleeping with other people whenever you two have a disagreement, he will NOT stay faithful to you in the future when it gets serious.

Find someone that respects you.

[Asker]

He never cheated on previous girlfriends ( even long distance/different country) he only sleeps around when he's single he told me.

[Guy__]

Exactly, if he's that crazy horny he can meet her physically and get closer and see if they're compatible and maybe seduce her. At least it's not as heartbreaking. This sounds like he didn't even cheat, he simply doesn't care about her.

[SecretsofKB]

Yeah, I wouldn't believe a word out of his mouth about not cheating.

[LazerBean]

He's a loser, and an embarrassment to the faith. He isn't worth a second of your time.

[Asker]

If you looked at his street evangelism and his social media you wouldn't believe that he slept about. I was quite shocked and upset when I found out, he does it in secret however, told me. :-(

[LazerBean]

That is very sad. In the end it's going to come back and bite him.

[Guy__]

It will bite him in the sense that people will lose respect and he may feel shame. However jesus won't give a crap about how many women he slept with, neither does jesus care how good a preacher he is.

[Asker]

You would think so however, he's been doing it for years and seems to have 'got away' with it. I wouldn't want anything to come back and bite him as I do like/care for him

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Seems like he’s only Christian when it comes to his women not sleeping around.

Find someone better, whether Christian, Buddhist or atheist, someone who doesn’t think it’s okay to sleep around when dating someone.

[bamesjond0069]

Are you a virgin still? Mens sexual value does not work the same as womens. If he can get so many women, why wouldn't he be with someone who fucks him? You won't fuck him so he's going to fuck someone else.

[MrTaboo]

Just because someone says they're Christian, doesn't mean they are

[James899]

Don't you think he will cheat in future?

[Asker]

I don't know! :-(

[James899]

Yes😢. Can you tell more about him.

[driven159]

move on he is a fake and cheater don't fall for it

[Anonymous]

he is a liar and a retard

[Kelly6]

Red flag