Im buddhist and my boyfriend is a muslim. Can anyone give me some advice?

[Anonymous]

Me (buddhist) and my boyfriend (muslim) had been together for more than an year and the religion barrier has never come across as a problem. We are in a very healthy and mature relationship but I've been thinking about what I could do instead of converting if it ever becomes a problem. We both respect eachothers religions and continue to learn about eachothers cultures. I've brought this topic upto him and he would always say that I am what he wants and me not being a Muslim is not a problem to him and he wants to marry me. He said he thinks even his parents would be fine but even if not, at the end of the day it's his wife so his choice. I'm still scared about this being an issue at some point. What can I do?

[Anonymous]

It's wonderful that you and your boyfriend have a healthy and respectful relationship despite your different religions. Here are some steps you can consider to navigate potential challenges:

1. Open Communication: Keep talking with your boyfriend about your concerns and make sure you both are on the same page. Discuss your long-term plans, including marriage and how you'll handle religious differences.

2. Respect Each Other's Beliefs: Continue to learn about each other's religions and cultures. Understanding and respecting each other's faith can help build a strong foundation for your relationship.

3. Meet the Parents: If you haven't already, consider meeting his parents to gauge their reactions and have an open, respectful conversation about your relationship. Their support can be significant.

4. Seek Mediation: If issues arise, it might be helpful to involve a neutral third party or counselor who can help you both address any religious or cultural concerns and find common ground.

5. Legal and Practical Considerations: Be aware of any legal or practical implications related to marriage and religious differences in your region, as these can vary.

6. Be Prepared: While it's encouraging that your boyfriend is supportive, it's wise to be prepared for potential challenges. Discuss how you would handle disagreements or issues related to religion in the future.

Remember, every relationship is unique, and it's essential to prioritize your happiness and well-being while working together to maintain a strong and harmonious connection.

[Anonymous]

Muslims practice polygamy, for the husband only. He can have up to three wife's.

You should know that you won't be the only woman in his life.

Something you should study independently is not only the Qur'an itself. That way you can know what the religion actually believes, not what Muslims actually tell you. They are permitted to lie to further their goals.

Sharia law is something else you should study and learn about. It's truly a horrendous practice which strips you (as a woman) of your rights, and agancy, and can lead to your eventual death. You will not be allowed to speak your mind, or raise your kids how you want to raise them.

Islam, doesn't tolorate other religions or belief systems. Eventually you will be compelled to convert. Failure to do so could be dangerous depending on how committed to Islam your boyfriend and his family, is.

Seriously study independently from him, or other Muslims and take these factors into consideration before continuing your relationship.

When you learn the horrors of Sharia, and true Islam as a whole, if you cannot convince him of the same, ghost him. Thats the safest bet.

[Mrtcn01]

a least we respect... do you know what chriistinty says about women?

[Curmudgeon]

@Mrtcn01 frankly, a lot better. Look at where women are best treated, and it is in the parts of the world with historically Xtian cultures, by leaps and bounds. All souls being alike before God and all that. Historical perspective is clearly on the Xtian side here.

[Mrtcn01]

@Curmudgeon realy! do you believe it? in historical perspective women more valuable in Xtian side.

single mother is very common in west and USA countries.
www.sciencedirect.com/.../S0165032718307900

Women is just has the value when they give a birth
www.worldhistory.org/.../

:D

[strateguy632]

@Mrtcn01 yes christianity says about women, a lady can be a LEADER. pretty good for 2000 years ago. i don't see that in egypt or pakistan etc.

[Curmudgeon]

@Mrtcn01 Yes, I do, because history is what it is. And the anti-Christian people have NO historical perspective:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nbhpUjXAfrM

[DubiousIntentions]

I'll tell you what the Christian view is. 2 Corinthians 6:14 (paraphrased)

"Do not be unevenly yoked with someone not of your own faith and beliefs. What do you have in common with them?" It will possibly turn into problems. However, if neither of you are actually practicing your faith, then it may not matter. Go with your gut, not your heart. Your gut is usually right more often than your heart.

[Anonymous]

Both of you are being deceived so I pray that you find and seek truth as soon as possible. You just said 'We are in a very healthy and mature relationship' and you also said 'I've been thinking about what I could do instead of converting if it ever becomes a problem.'

You said 'We both respect each others religions and continue to learn about each others cultures.'

My advice to you is to watch this following video and then more of his other ones and go ask yourself the same questions...

https://www.youtube.com/embed/yYz9kPMk2QU

[strateguy632]

about the video, sharria IS islam. the excuse "not in quran" doesn't defend islam. wait, he quoted quran too, but for other stuff.

[Opinion Owner]

@strateguy632 You will start to notice that all of their attempts to defend Islam do not come from their own book. Their own book, when truly dissected contradicts and destroys its own scripture and exposes itself. The same occurs in every video I've seen so far and it's in the Quran.

[madhatters4]

1. we need to understand that buddhism is not a religion. there is no god/God or deity. it's a system of beliefs.

keeping that in mind know that you can be associated with a certain religion and still follow buddhist tenants. the reality is there is little conflict in buddhism with other religious tenants. so the only question then is would your partner require to become a muslim, how muslim is he and would you be able to follow the rules and tenants of his faith. additionally would he respect your buddhist beliefs.

I think ask him if he feels like he would need to marry a muslim person, whenever he does marry. based on that answer you should then have a understanding of what decision, if any, you need to make

[Asker]

I asked him about marrying a Muslim and he said that he doesn't really want a Muslim specifically and "if it's not you, it's not anyone"

[madhatters4]

well then that's a great right? seems you have your answer

[Asker]

yeah but I fear with time he might switch up on me :(

[madhatters4]

well for your position just decide right now what your decision would be if he changed his mind but also don't fret on it too much.

[SoJust]

A Muslim, on the other hand, will treat your friend well for a certain period of time, after meeting his family, they will want you to become a Muslim and close my advice is before ending your relationship, because muslims start in relationships, and your religion looks good to you, saying my religion to me, and then later, as he takes you in his palm, he will try to encourage you to his religion, he will try to make you a muslim, because they exclude people who are not their religion, they try to get into their religion, don't mind their good looks, and I suggest that you be a lover with someone who is not a muslim.

[boggboss]

You are trying to fix a problom that is not happening now and has already been said by the guy that he dont think will happen because he dont want u to convert

[strateguy632]

she asked if she
should worry about his FAMILY

[Cuminginside]

@strateguy632 Now that's the elephant in the room that nobody likes to talk about.

[boggboss]

Thats impossible to know without knowing how solid he will stick to what he says

[Mrtcn01]

Which country do you live?

the problem is not a religion. The problem is culture. family history. how many times will you see his family in a year? religion is not just a believness it is life standart. it is not what you believe it is what you tolerate..

[KostasKouvalis]

Only a non-Muslim man is supposed to convert if he marries a non-Muslim woman. The woman doesn't have to convert if she marries a Muslim man.
However, according to tradition, Muslims are technically only allowed to marry people of other Abrahamic faiths. The fact that he's even dating you to begin with, and that his family doesn't care, tells me this guy is about as Muslim as Freddy Mercury was straight.

[OfDeath]

Just both realise that religion is not who people are and only the extremely gullible actually believe the scripture to be taken literally and take the courage to break away from it and explore life for real. Together.

[ProbablyClueless]

All you can do is maintain clear, healthy communication. Don't be surprised if he changes his mind about the religion thing though. When marriage becomes a more real possibility, people start to look a lot more closely at that stuff.

[zagor]

How observant are each of you about your religion, and how would you want to raise your (hypothetical) kids.

[exitseven]

I wanted to come up with a wisecrack but I know this is serious. I understand being scared. Families are weird things / You need to be sure that he really has your back.

[Cuminginside]

Yeah if he's always kissing up to his family as opposed to having your back forget it it's folds like an opioid user on Kensington avenue Philadelphia next to the train station.

[exitseven]

@Cuminginside that is what I am talking about

[Cuminginside]

I'm assuming both scenarios that Kensington drug use situation and the Muslim guy reverting to his family. Strange world we live in women want to be free from the constraints of religion Islam at the same time they still want to f*** them.

[strateguy632]

which school would you send kids? which religion would you teach your family kids to obey? vegetarian etc? these might help you decide

[abc3643]

Get rid of him before he kills you in an honor killing.

[Massageman]

Convert to Christianity. At least then you'd have a chance at being an only wife.

[007kingifrit]

yea, great up with him, muslims are bad people and hateful and dangerous

[strateguy632]

*break up

[Staximus]

What you can do is not care about it, like your boyfriend

[Anonymous]

Im just trying to figure out how tf your boyfriend is a muslim 🤣🤣 muslims can’t be in relationships outside of marriage so he isn’t really a muslim then

[Curmudgeon]

That IS the big issue here. If he is lapsed and will remain so, no problem for Buddhist girl. But if he is devout or becomes that, relationship will have to end.

[Opinion Owner]

As i said if he's in a relationship he ain’t muslim

[Curmudgeon]

But will he remain not so?

[Opinion Owner]

What do you mean?

[Anonymous]

Run!!!