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It’s my 21 b day tomorrow and I have been literally talking about it for three months now, being one of those annoying people who count it down every day haha. Anyway today I got off work after working three doubles in a row absolutely wrecked but my boyfriend wanted us to go to the gym together. I initially said not but changed my mind last minute bc I knew I wanted to and I didn’t just want to lay around the rest of the day. Anyways we get to the gym and we beach off and do our own stuff, me occasionally checking on him ( 2 times) we go to refill our bottles and he randomly looks at me and says « you are the dullest person here right now » me because apparently me being super worn out but still trying to push through doing legs looked like I was being a drag even tho we weren’t even working out together 😐 being absolutely crushed I go sit in my car and cry while he finishes his workout. After we got home he first tried to defend himself but after I got out of the shower and he saw me crying lol he apologized. I really let it get to me tbh and let it kinda ruin my night. So while he was playing a game around 8 with his brother I texted him and said I wanted him to come lay down with me before it got too late so we could watch a movie and go wake me up if I was asleep because I was absolutely wrecked from work but still wanted to spend time with him and I also wanted him to stay up with me til 12 like a little kid I guess. Anyways he comes in around 10:30 and just lays in bed complaining how he is so tired from work and doesn’t say a single thing after that. I asked him if was upset and he replied « yeah I’m kinda annoyed you keep acting like "play with me talk with me" then tried to say he loved me and falls asleep. I guess I just wanted to know if this is even worth being upset about or I’m being a little (big now) kid hehe

Let me elaborate a little. Now, I know of course you want your SO and your friends to get along, and hanging out altogether shouldn't be an issue. But I've PERSONALLY always been of the mind that you just don't hang out with your friends SO's privately or talk to them privately. It feels like a line that shouldn't be crossed to me.
Well I have a close friend who views this a little differentially. She sees no issue with it if we all trust one another. We both recently met guys and have started seeing them, however both of us were friends with each guy before we really started "seeing" them if you will. We met her current SO first, nice guy, and again, we were all friends before they started getting serious. Even before they officially announced anything, I could TELL it seemed to be getting serious so I backed off and do not and have not spoken with him privately outside of what's said in front of said friend or in a group chat that she is in.

Now fast forward to meeting my SO. Again, we met mine at the same time and were friends with him before anything started. From the start he was definitely kinda seeking me out, talking to me more than her and what not so it wasn't really a surprise when we started seeing one another however, unlike the boundary I have myself not to cross... she doesn't really seem to have issue with trying to seek him out alone to hang out with or talk to privately. To my understanding my SO is not really receptive to it. Doesn't hang out with her when she offers, and it's hit or miss if he even responds to her when she tries to message him. Not that I've pressed for details, but they've both vaguely mentioned it here or there.

I don't want to be "controlling" or "toxic" or seem like I'm trying to commander their friendships, but I just am unsure if I'm the one with the issue or if there really is something weird about this.