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So I personally miss a lot of the good answers that older women used to give on GaG years ago. So much has changed with the demographics on the Internet and social media since then, and a post-COVID world has made people a little less human.

Once upon a time you used to see really great answers on this site from females but especially the older ones in their 40s and up that were rich and detailed with serious life perspective and experience about men. Even if you didn't always agree with their thoughts, there was always something you could get out of it. Plus I would have tons of great discussions with them in DM, and not just here but on other old dead sites too like Answerbag and ExperienceProject.

I feel like most women's answers nowadays lack that depth because many are inexperienced even if they are dating or having sex, or at least not learning about either themselves or men from those experiences. Many give answers only just to have something snarky to say that bears no real life knowledge, or their only response is to attack some guy and call him an incel, or they give literal two or three word answers. It just looks like you haven't learned a lot in life that you can offer anyone.

But what do you guys think? Who do you feel like gives the best sex/relationship advice or perspectives on GaG?

Both genders are guilty of this. However we are (supposed) to get better at judging and/or giving advice as we get older and more experienced.

But I’ve had grown ass woman say some ridiculous things to me in the past. I feel like many of them take a common mental shortcut falsely believing that dating is same more men as it is for themselves (when all else equal). It’s not. Not at all. Not even close.

That’s not say I don’t know women have to deal with some common pitfalls. Many men will lie to women and tell want them just what they want to hear to get their foot in the door. They figure that once a woman catches feelings for them they will get a “pass” on their bs. Sadly this sometimes works if the guy is good at it. But not always. Also it never works out in the long run for guys. Plus it makes women more bitter and resentful to men in general after the process.

But anyway I feel most women who criticize men don’t put the mental effort into understanding the challenges most men face in the early steps of dating.

Most don’t understand how we are expected to take risks and stick our necks out. How we get shit tested. How we usually have to plan dates and usually spend money. How the odds are usually stacked against us. How we are supposed to keep calm and brush off (sometimes nasty) rejection and just move on quickly forgetting about it. How women falsely assume that men run into just as many opportunities as they do. Etc.