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This is in response to this question below:

Let's settle the debate, which is worse, female cheater or male cheater?

My answer above question is of course that both men and women are equally scumbags when it comes to cheating.

Yes men generally have impulsive sexual needs. Yes women generally have emotional and attention needs. But neither have an excuse to cheat. It’s natural to feel occasionally tempted however both men and women can have the willpower to abstain. If the temptation is getting to be too much they can break up first and then do what they want.

However a better question to ask is who owns up to their cheating bs better when they are caught or feel too guilty and confess?

From my observations cheating men are usually A) sociopathic lying scumbags who feel no guilt (maybe sex addicts) or B) normal guys who got blindsided by lust and caved in.

The A guys can’t be trusted or forgiven. But the B guys will usually be extremely remorseful and guilt stricken. That doesn’t mean B guys should be let off the hook. But they will own up to their crap. They won’t blame their girlfriend/wife for their shitty decision even if they were upset with them earlier

However I find that women who get caught cheating will often try to gaslight their boyfriend/husband. They will say “oh you weren’t there for me” or some other crap. Not all women but many of just have egos that can’t accept that they are cheating whores. So they try to placate their conscious through mental gymnastics vs. just saying “I cheated and I was 100% wrong. You didn’t deserve that and I accept the consequences”. I just do not see that many women doing the latter.

Now I want you think of the person that wronged you the most personally and ask yourself, can you forgive them?

I haven’t really opened up to a lot of people about this but select few people know about this. The past 7 months ( from January to July), I was promoted in the company at the same time my division gained a new boss. This boss was incredibly lazy which forced me to do all of the work while he played games on his phone and barely did anything, he repeatedly committed multiple sexual harassment statements and jokes towards me and the one woman in the office, etc etc etc.

Long story short when I left the company , the rest of the company learned that he didn’t know anything about the job and it was obvious to everyone within the company and the clients that I was doing all of the work and it’s completely falling apart. Now the hatred in me was happy to hear this ( which is still an ongoing issue). So even though karma is kicking his ass, I think about the family he has that’s about to lose their income when he’s fired ( I’ve met his kids and helped watched them and helped them with their homework at my job).

So now I’m forgiving him and I honestly wish you to find that happiness/ serenity to forgive whoever wronged you personally. Let me hear your story.