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I (19f) have feelings for a guy (21m) who I met on a dating app. For more context we have been messaging everyday for almost exactly a month. Worth noting we also live in different countries. Over this time I have become more infrastructure with him.

Problem is I am not sure if he feels the same or not. Maybe he just sees me as a friend? I just value my connection with him and I don't want to sabotage it.

This is what I plan on sending him,

"Hey, I know this is sudden, but I just want to confess. Basically, I've gained romantic feelings towards you. Idc if you don't feel anything back or what not. Apologies if this came off as weird. I just think it's important for you to know. Still, I hope we still text since I genuinely value our conversations. I sincerely want the best for you. I'll always be here if you need help unless I'm dead 😎"

Wanted to keep things light and chill since I don't want him to feel and presume and the ending falls into the humor him and I use together. Also, it's worth noting I am willing and looking into everything we would have to deal with in our relationship due to the distance and I'm willing to deal with it, and if he feels the same him and I will have a conversation about it.

Any advice or encouragement would be appreciated.

#1. How do you ask a guy what he wants from you?

Just ask the question. That’s really the best way to find out anything. You could play mental gymnastics or just be authentic and ask the question straight out. It may catch him off guard but the only way to find out where a relationship is going is to ask what they are looking for.
If they are not looking for the same thing you are, then why waste your time pursuing a relationship with them?
Be friends, but move onto someone who is looking for the same thing.

#2. What is the best answer to say to a girl when she asks what you want?

Dodge the answer everytime it comes up. The moment you laid down your feelings and wants, she is bound to screw you up.

Girls are 'seduced' by an element of mystery.

Let them keep guessing , wondering and one day out of intense curiosity they will eventually give up their ego and open up their vulnerable side to you.

#2 B)

Hello friend. A girl asking “what do you want from me?” is unsure of where you stand (she can’t “read” you ) and this is the way you should be in a relationship or when you are interacting with a “potential girlfriend” . Great job.

keep doing what you are doing , keep her unsure of your feelings towards her and this will attract her even more.

To answer her question just say something like “ nothing serious for now “ or “ i am not looking to get into anything serious “

You will be perceived as “higher status” and more relaxed.

the ones who push for a relationship are never the ones who actually get the girl ( more specifically the girl’s attraction ).

So keep up on being the cool guy that you are and keep on doing what you are doing. Answer her questions without pushing for anything , especially if you like her too. Her asking you this question is a big indicator of attraction.

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