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This is in response to this question below:

Let's settle the debate, which is worse, female cheater or male cheater?

My answer above question is of course that both men and women are equally scumbags when it comes to cheating.

Yes men generally have impulsive sexual needs. Yes women generally have emotional and attention needs. But neither have an excuse to cheat. It’s natural to feel occasionally tempted however both men and women can have the willpower to abstain. If the temptation is getting to be too much they can break up first and then do what they want.

However a better question to ask is who owns up to their cheating bs better when they are caught or feel too guilty and confess?

From my observations cheating men are usually A) sociopathic lying scumbags who feel no guilt (maybe sex addicts) or B) normal guys who got blindsided by lust and caved in.

The A guys can’t be trusted or forgiven. But the B guys will usually be extremely remorseful and guilt stricken. That doesn’t mean B guys should be let off the hook. But they will own up to their crap. They won’t blame their girlfriend/wife for their shitty decision even if they were upset with them earlier

However I find that women who get caught cheating will often try to gaslight their boyfriend/husband. They will say “oh you weren’t there for me” or some other crap. Not all women but many of just have egos that can’t accept that they are cheating whores. So they try to placate their conscious through mental gymnastics vs. just saying “I cheated and I was 100% wrong. You didn’t deserve that and I accept the consequences”. I just do not see that many women doing the latter.

I fully and adamantly believe this is false, by the way. This earlier post I said explains why:

"Considering women are, and ALWAYS HAVE BEEN, the gatekeepers of sex and love, you have no one to blame by yourself if you haven't found the right one yet by your 30s. Women have probably rejected dozens of quality, marriage material men by then, for being too short, not wealthy enough, not good enough in bed, etc.

It's a completely different game than what men have to go through, where we have to show our value to women to even get noticed and aren't seen as desirable merely for existing, like women are. Most men don't get to that "valuable" phase, until their mid to late 30s."

Women have it EASIER, but some (very few, but some) women still have bad luck finding someone. Men have to demonstrate value, in order to be "worthy" of love though, and most men are not guaranteed success, winning the genetic lottery, or being arrogant AF, to be seen as worthy 100% of the time.