This is my first myTake, so bear with me
It's no secret that the tensions between the sexes are as high as ever. Anyone who's been on GaG for at least a few days knows that this site is no exception. Lots of people have contributed to the gender war. I myself am very guilty for doing it, and it runs both ways
I personally blame 3rd wave Feminism, or for you feminists out there, Feminazis (Radical Feminists)
What is the Gender War?
Basically, it's the mentality of "Men suck" by women and "Women suck" by men. It's when someone gripes and complains about the advantages of the opposite sex, usually in context of their sex's disadvantages.
We get it. Men suck. Women suck. Can't we all just agree that life is a big enough of a bitch to go around?
Generally speaking, women have strengths that men are weak in and men have strengths that women are weak in. We tend to even each other out
So how do you avoid fueling the gender war?
Wording is everything
Avoid negative wording/insults
This is where the gender war starts. A usually pre-conceived negative notion about the opposite sex
Example:
Why are modern women so narcissistic?
This is an implied insult to women in general.
What's a better question?: There isn't much to do to make this less offensive. The best you can do is add something like ".........more narcissistic than in the past?" or a small generalizing word like "some." Try to avoid it all together though
Avoid biased wording
This is one of the hardest things to see and what I see the most
Example: Why are/can't.......; Don't you think that..........; Isn't she the most.......
Example question:
Why can't guys admit that they only want a relationship for sex?
Don't you think that Bernie would make a great candidate
Aren't women the most moral and angelic people in the world
This shows that the asker already has a side and has taken that side, and is almost always wrong about that side. This mentality tends to show in the question description. In the last case, praising or insulting the subject is a bias.
The word "Why"
Most of the gender war fueling questions begin with the word "why." It's really hard to make an unbiased question using the word why. If you want to insert negative wording into the question, using the word "why" only makes it seem like you've already taken your side. This is where the shitstorm starts because here you are insulting the entire sex
Avoid Generalizations
This is an easy one. Everything ties into this. You generalize the sex based on personal experience
Example: Why are most modern women sluts?
Generalization 101: Unless it's backed with statistics, If you use the words "most" or especially "all" you're most likely making a generalization. Try to avoid these words
Things to keep in mind
Not all
This applies to both the asker and the one answering
If someone asks a question and they don't use a generalizating word (all, most, some) It tends to be a general thing. This is where the word "some"
Example: Why are women so emotional on their periods?
This is a case where "most" could be appropriate, because most women have periods, and most of them get emotional at some point, be it anger, sadness, or happiness.......or horniness and they seemingly change with every door they walk through
Of course not all though, as some of them don't have periods. Some of them may be really good at hiding their emotions or maybe just an emotionless stone wall
Your personal experience doesn't mean anything in the grand scheme of things
Just because you've delt with a couple of guys who use you for sex doesn't mean they all do, or even half. One person doesn't speak for the entirety. 10 people don't speak for the entire gender.
The other sex is just as frustrated
We get it, you have problems with the opposite sex. You've dealt with narcissistic gold diggers. Insulting all women will only fuel that frustration as they take to the keyboards to defend themselves, and rightfully so
We get it. You've dealt with guys who have made you feel like shit. Insulting all men will only fuel your frustration as we take to the keyboards to defend ourselves, and rightfully so
Women irk our nerves sometimes, and I'm sure we irk their nerves
Complaining won't solve anything
Especially on the internet, complaining about your problems will do absolutely nothing most of the time, so why would you bring your gender frustrations online and frustrate everyone else? Learn from your mistakes. If you're tired of dealing with the friendzone, learn how to seduce her. If you're tired of guys trying to get out of the friendzone, release them as friends
If you have a question, ask it, but don't just complain
Ultimately
As frustrated as we are with each other as a sex, demonizing them will only make them demonize you back with more ferocity
It's a sign that we still care. If you didn't care, you wouldn't complain, right? Women have problems that it takes a man to see, and men have problems that it takes a woman to see. There are ways to point out those problems without coming off as simply bitter or insecure
Women are awesome. I couldn't put up with a monthly sacrifice to the dark lord, nor could I hold a little bastard in my stomach for 9 months. I couldn't deal with the expectations on your shoulders and the piece of meat mentality going on in some guy's mind
Men are awesome. Who do you think are the ones with the patience, will power, and strength to build, maintain, and fight for this country? For the most part (almost 100%) it's men. Feminism is trampling on masculinity, and the media has already trampled on fatherhood as a whole, portraying the father as a dumbass who needs mommy to help with simple stuff.
With the economy in decline, and Life being a bigger bitch than usual, we're all just weary of Life giving us the shaft
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I agree totally with this take - I often will not agree with another person but if we both interact with courtesy there is no reason why we can't have a healthy discussion - We may not change each others view but sometime we may move forward in a constructive manner - If everyone thought same way as me, I fear the world would be very boring - I am happy to discuss most things but the second I feel that it has degenerated or become abusive I will walk away - I try to see both sides in most arguments often taking things on a case by case say a feminist points out a case to me, I would say that is wrong but there is every chance a MRA will give me another example and I would agree that is wrong.
Why do all you guys always put us down and criticize us?
just kidding-
good take:)
Very good article. Articles like this should be required reading before starting on social media websites like this.