Are You Being Bullied Over And Over Again? I Think I Can Help You With That :)

[rosetyler1234]

This link is also very helpful. Click on it it will be great.

I once was bullied constently. I had a hard time at school and at youth. The boys and girls that were bullying me would shove me to the ground and start to kick me and take my lunch so I couldn't eat. They would call me names and always tell me that I was ugly. Now that I am in high school it is not as bad. But listen up boys and girls what are you going to do about this? Are you being bullied? It is wrong! If you don't know what to do here is a couple of suggestions:

Don't react .We girls or guys always have an edge on fighting back to our bully but it only causes further more worse problems. Bullies enjoy the feeling when they have the power over us or that you get mad and able to get a reation from you. Bullying back or getting angry will only let the bully know that they are hurting you. Do not respond to the bully with more anger to get them to move or go away.

1. Talk in your most serious voice "You are being really uncool right now, so please stop." or "That's enough, I don't want you to talk like that again!" Avoid getting angry or sarcastic in your response.

2. Try to keep your respose short.

3. If they keep picking on you walk away.

4. Don't fight with the bully, either with the words you say or physically

Tell them calmly to stop bullying you. For example, “You are being really uncool right now. Please stop.” or “That's enough. Don't talk like that again.”

Avoid getting angry or sarcastic in your response.

Try to keep your response short.

If they don't stop, walk away from them.

Do not fight with a bully, either with words or physicall, it kinda makes you look like the bully.

DESTROY THE BULLY'S POWER! Your bully will always try to take away your own power and self worth so they can put their power over you. Every time you give into the bully's tricks or tactics the more likely they will bully you again and again in the future. Standing up to your bully by denying his or her powering demands will likely stop them from indentifying you as their target.

If you don't know the signs of a bully here is some points:

"Bullies will often be individuals who engage in risky behaviors such as heavy drinking or crime."

"Contrary to popular belief, bullies will usually be very popular and overly self confident."

"Bullies may either physically or verbally attempt to harm another person."

"Violence or bullying may be a learned behavior from a bully's home life."

I hope this helps, it sure helped me :)

[Anonymous]

This crap. When I was fifteen a girl and her friends bullied me relentlessly and no matter how many times I reported to my teachers nothing ever changed so what I started doing was recording it and saving her vile text messages and humiliating e-mails as evidence. Basically one a lunch time she pushed me down onto the floor and off course she and everyone else laughed so as she was walking away I lifted a chair and cracked her on the back of the head and when she fell to the ground I jumped up and down on her face until a teacher dragged me off the fat crying bitch. The school suspended me and tried to expel me and there was talk of criminal charges from her parents but they all backed down after other students had witnessed her pushing me and I realesed the evidence of her bullying me which showed that I was driven to do what I did so it was sweep under the carpet and I was back to school with no more bully problems.

[rosetyler1234]

Wow what a bully you I think you did the right thing.

[Opinion Owner]

Its not bullying its fighting back. A bully doesn't stop until you stop them. The more you back away and refuse to stand up for yourself the meaner the bully gets. Ever notice how its always the same kids who get bullied no matter how many different schools their parents send them too. I have never bullied anyone and have only been in one fight ever, im only 4.9ft and my bully was 6ft and at least 220llb. No one bullies me or gives me a hard time for being short or flat chested anymore. I never let things get to the point anymore where people think they can tramp all over me.

[luvstoned4him]

you did good kid. I only had the guts to stand up when I was in 7th grade.

[questonin]

I was always bullied, the teachers knew about it, but all they could do was bring him to the office, which is normal for him anyways... what I did is for almost a whole year didn't react, then the first day of the next year he did it... I just let him have it, principle said "well, jungle rules" haha and that was the end of me ever getting bullied

[FakeName123]

This. My mom told me very early on "They only bully you when you let them bully you". Bullies are weak who pick on the perceived weakest link. If you fight back and stand your ground, you don't get bullied anymore.

[rosetyler1234]

Wow I am sorry you had such a hard time.

[rosetyler1234]

@FakeName123 Is see I guess my post isn't worth posting. But anyways smart mom.

[FakeName123]

@rosetyler1234

Nothing to apologise for. You wrote a take on your view - independent if it is right or wrong - and you get replies to that to widen your horizon and preferably learn something new. Nothing wrong about that.

[rosetyler1234]

@FakeName123 Ya you are right thx!

[Stacyzee]

I see you are trying to help , and that you are offering advice that was beneficial for you. However , not standing up for myself caused bullying to get worse when I was a kid. It caused everyone to bully me. I mean , almost all of the kids in school did.
When I did find my voice I wasn't taken seriously just further made fun of and humiliated.
My entire life was a wreck.
I strongly advise those who are bullied to understand there is no wrong or right way to handle this because everyone's bullying situation is different , some being more severe than others.
Not all bullies will care enough to listen to a stern voice they may further pick at you.
Alert the principal , Dean or even get the police involved if you have to.
Sometimes the bullying may never stop and only ease down.
Reach out to a well trusted adult to confide in about what you're going through , bottling things up can lead to suicidal thoughts and depression.

[rosetyler1234]

I sorry to hear this. But to me this is my thoughts and actually this has helped 30 people I know just by all of these words.

[Stacyzee]

I am glad to see you were successful in helping a lot of people.
But then again, no advice is just "black' and "white" every situation holds its own uniqueness (grey area).
Continue doing what you're doing, and spreading knowledge if it's helping others.
I really do think this is solid and good advice, but like I said, not every situation is the same.

[rosetyler1234]

Thank you for the encouragement! :)

[Stacyzee]

No problem :)

[AdamThomas]

It might work sometimes, but a lot of the time just telling a bully to stop and trying to walk away won't work. I've seen people do it and still get chased and beaten up. You know why? The bullies knew their words were backed up by nothing. You say don't react, but in doing so you are reacting. I was always taugh to punch them in the nose, I didn't care if I got in trouble or looked like the bully, and they left ms alone after that even if they could beat me up. Imagine you're a bully, who will you pick? Someone who tells you to stop and actually does nothing at all to stop you, or the one who isn't scared to break your nose?

[bluenose1872]

Maybe. The bottom line is always violence and fear. The ordering principle of any group be it a country or a school gang is it's capacity for violence. If you're capable of it you won't be messed with. A few guys tried bullying me when I started high school. I broke the big ones nose. We ended up best pals after that. I forced him to respect me. There's always a place for violence. It gives people a pecking order. You can't reason with some people. They don't understand empathy and mercy. The only thing they understand is force

[Raymond_Reddington]

my problems with your advice, and i'm talking from 14 years of experience:

- ''talk with your most serious voice'' those bullies will just laugh at you.
- ''if they keep picking on you walk away'' they will most likely follow you.
- ''dont fight with the bully'' in my experience, kicking their asses is the only way to make them stop.

My advice: Don't politely ask them to stop, because that will never work. if you want those asses to stop, you've got to put them in their place, by beating them in a fight. now if you're size Tyrion Lannister, and your bully is size Gregor Clegane, your odds might be small. in that case, it wouldn't be a good idea to try and kick his ass. but if you're ''weaker'' than him and if he's just your average muscular douchebag, why don't you hit the gym? start working out and getting stronger, while in your mind you're already looking forward to the day you'll kick his ass. grow stronger and let anger be your willpower to keep on going.

[luvstoned4him]

I was bullied as well and they never stopped until I stood my ground and that sometimes included some tongue lashing and fighting. Being bullied is very serious and eats you away mentally and psychologically.

[Spirit_Is_Free]

Great take - I clicked the link, I think if you are being bullied reporting it is the most important thing - It is not a nice place to be in but even getting outside help lets you realise you are not alone or powerless.

[rosetyler1234]

Thanks. I have reported bullying before but not for myself, well not really.

[ColinHarvey]

When I was a kid I got bullied in middle school for being overweight. I used to sneak into the library to write political columns during recess, because I had no friends. I got caught and the lady sent me to play 4square with the popular kids - I wasn't athletic until I was seventeen. A kid purposefully threw the ball so hard, that when it hit me in the face, it broke my nose. One summer I had a growth spurt and my weight evened out. I came back to school, and the kid that broke my nose started making fun of how my clothes didn't fit and I was too poor to buy new ones. So I took a copy of the Social Contract by Jean Jacques Rousseau and slugged him across the face with it as hard as I could. He still has a scar on his face, and I still have a bloody copy of the Social Contract. Never got bullied again, probably the best decision I ever made.

[zagor]

LOL. Who said Philosophy doesn't have practical applications?

[ColinHarvey]

@zagor seriously.

[luvstoned4him]

I had to stand up to them, give them words or fight. I am a very peaceful, loner type girl and if I ever get in a fight , people are always shocked because they know I have to be provoked to reach that far. The serious voice won't do much especially when they are stronger or have more in a group than you can handle. I destroy the bully's power by giving back answers and fighting for my rights of course.

[Righttobeararms83]

Omg worst advice ever. In other words do nothing and get tramped on. Maybe you should have people write strongly worded letters explaining how bullying is not cool and how it hurts peoples feelings lol

[rosetyler1234]

Sorry I didn't mean anything by it. I just thought this would be a good thing to post, but obviously I am wrong.

[giggleswilmington]

People seek out the easiest target to bully. The answer is confidence. In the end you will end up intimidating them.

[ArchDruidMordred]

Ooooooorrrr you can just make them your bitch in front of everybody and destroy their power that way.

[rosetyler1234]

Then you will be the bully.

[GreatnessRevamped]

Great take.
Personally, I still find blunt objects to work best. :D

[rosetyler1234]

Thanks. Lol just smash a bottle on top of their heads lol I am only kidding.